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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 331 Reputation: 238 Rep Power: 5 Join Date: Feb 2008 Way of Life: Undisclosed | Quote:
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I don't think you understand kids. Quote:
So it's alright to go ahead with it because later when she reaches a point of sufficient mental faculty to understand her situation, she can say that she didn't want to do it. Again, if you don't see what's wrong with that... Quote:
I suppose that is based on how liberal the country is and whether they see greater benefit in allowing people who mature at the average age more freedom, or whether they prefer to focus on preventing abuse and using a higher age. I doubt anyone in these countries would argue that a child under 10 is mature. There are of course people who through diminished mental capacity are never mature, and the law in a lot countries prevents these people from entering into binding contracts (such as marriage). | ||||
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 331 Reputation: 238 Rep Power: 5 Join Date: Feb 2008 Way of Life: Undisclosed | |
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| Dead nd Gone Status: Offline Posts: 4,948 Reputation: 17906 Rep Power: 33 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: same as tupac........beneath u. under the dirt. lost inside the earth. left the spark 4 u, nd left Way of Life: Muslim | Quote:
unless u talkin bout a generation ago? and is lower age in marriage better than guys marrying guys? or teen pregnacy??? | |
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 331 Reputation: 238 Rep Power: 5 Join Date: Feb 2008 Way of Life: Undisclosed | Quote:
See here. | |
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| Dead nd Gone Status: Offline Posts: 4,948 Reputation: 17906 Rep Power: 33 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: same as tupac........beneath u. under the dirt. lost inside the earth. left the spark 4 u, nd left Way of Life: Muslim | Quote:
and what is better, lower age in marriage (not 8, or 9...or 10,11,12,13,14..more like...15+) or teen pregnacy and gay marriages? | |
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| Ummah Under 1 Banner Status: Offline Posts: 10,378 Reputation: 41985 Rep Power: 84 Join Date: May 2005 Location: ...travelling to the hereafter.. Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | I don't know the narrations authenticity since i'm not an expert on classification of hadith. However, i'll quote you what At-Tabari says at the beginning of his book: If a certain man gets horrified by a certain incident that we reported in our book, then let him know that it did not come from us, but we only wrote down what we received from the narrators These narrators could be authentic, weak or even fabricators. He just compiled the narrations with chain of narrators for future scholars to classify the narration. I just want to quote a narration which will also clarify some things in regard to the Islamic stance on racism; The Prophet said: 'There is no superiority for an Arab over a non-Arab, nor for a non-Arab over an Arab, nor for a fair-skinned person over a person with dark skin, nor for a dark-skinned person over a person with fair skin. Whoever is more pious and God-fearing is more deserving of honour.'(Musnad Ahmad) http://www.islamicboard.com/userpage.php?userid=49 Quote:
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Those who live in cold regions attain puberty at a much later age as compared with those living in hot regions where both male and female attain it at a quite early age. "The average temperature of the country or province," say the well-known authors of the bookWoman, "is considered the chief factor here, not only with regard to menstruation but as regards the whole of sexual development at puberty."5 This explains to us that people mature at an earlier age in hotter climates, such as Arabia, Africa etc. If this is the case - they are permitted to get married at an earlier age too. However, if there is harm in that - i.e. they aren't physically, mentally or emotionally prepared to get married - then they shouldn't get married.
We see through the whole life of Aisha that she was in perfect harmony throughout the marriage and did not have any negative consequences through it, she excelled in religious affairs (she was from among the top 5 narrators of Prophetic traditions), aswell as advancing in the worldly affairs in which she focused on Medicine. Since the whole discussion is on Aisha's marriage to the Messenger of Allah, we see that she never faced any harm whatsoever - rather she just benefitted herself and millions of others throughout history. Everyone else will be judged based on their circumstances independently. Peace. | |||
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 331 Reputation: 238 Rep Power: 5 Join Date: Feb 2008 Way of Life: Undisclosed | Quote:
Obviously there are many people who see this practice for what it is, but because it is not forbidden by the quran and the prophet himself practiced it, it is open to abuse. Quote:
And yeah back on the point, gay marriage is obviously better. Two people, who we have pretty much agreed are born the way they are, in a loving relationship, doing things that they both consent to in the privacy of their homes. or... Two people, one of whom is forced into marrying someone when he/she is not mentally mature enough to decide for theirself. - Qatada -, I'll have to address most of that post later, I'm leaving work shortly. I will say one thing though from my earlier post: Quote:
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| Dead nd Gone Status: Offline Posts: 4,948 Reputation: 17906 Rep Power: 33 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: same as tupac........beneath u. under the dirt. lost inside the earth. left the spark 4 u, nd left Way of Life: Muslim | Quote:
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ok then why dont people argue about gay marriages? but argue about young marriages? and dont argue about teen preganacy but argue bout young marriages? | ||
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 331 Reputation: 238 Rep Power: 5 Join Date: Feb 2008 Way of Life: Undisclosed | Quote:
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| Dead nd Gone Status: Offline Posts: 4,948 Reputation: 17906 Rep Power: 33 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: same as tupac........beneath u. under the dirt. lost inside the earth. left the spark 4 u, nd left Way of Life: Muslim | Quote:
That is old school marriage... rasulallah didnt really even say to marry that young... years passed...decades passed...generation passed...that marriage is now normal marriage at normal ages... | |
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| Ummah Under 1 Banner Status: Offline Posts: 10,378 Reputation: 41985 Rep Power: 84 Join Date: May 2005 Location: ...travelling to the hereafter.. Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | Quote:
The narration mentions that there is to be no harm caused right? Therefore, we extract from the narration that if someone is not mature enough for marriage - then they shouldn't go through it if it will cause them harm. That's sufficient as an answer. Yet if someone is mature for it, as Aisha was - like i explained above - then that is allowed. I don't see any confusion or error in that. If you don't want to go any further in debate, then you don't have to. If you want to continue, that's your choice. Peace. | |
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| LI Senior Member Status: Offline Posts: 331 Reputation: 238 Rep Power: 5 Join Date: Feb 2008 Way of Life: Undisclosed | truemuslim - You do see where this is going, don't you? |
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| Dead nd Gone Status: Offline Posts: 4,948 Reputation: 17906 Rep Power: 33 Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: same as tupac........beneath u. under the dirt. lost inside the earth. left the spark 4 u, nd left Way of Life: Muslim | yep.. in circles |
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| Abdullah Muhammad Status: Offline Posts: 11,242 Reputation: 59186 Rep Power: 100 Join Date: May 2006 Location: Minnesota Gender: Way of Life: Muslim | This thread seems to have developed into a fiqh discussion and has no resemblance to the original topic.
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