Assalamo Alaikum
me ap logo se ek sawal puchna chahti hun
ek larki ka nikah ho chuka hai.uski rukhhsati ni hui
me ye puchna chahti hu k bivi ka kia frz bnta hai
kia wo ghr se bahr janay k lye her chotay chotay kaam k lye ijazt nmangay shohr se?
halankay shoher abhi usko 1rupees bhi ni deta uski kafalat k lye.
and ye k wife uski her bat k jwb me khamosh rhe aur sbr kre
bus?
aur koi jwb na day usay .
na usay attitude dikahye.
apni improtance zahir krne kl liye?

rukhstai se pehle jb shoher kafalat na krt aho tb bivi aur shohr k kia fraiz hain?

Aapko inn sawaalon ka jawaab doosre threads mein fatwa wa reference ke saath Muslim Woman de chuki hai:
http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-support/134316961-what-do-before-rukhsati.html#post1558297 (What to do before rukhsati?)
http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-support/134316961-what-do-before-rukhsati.html#post1558298 (What to do before rukhsati?)

Ab faisla aap hi ke haath mein aata hai. Aap hi ko decide karna hoga ke ya toh aap baatcheet ke zariye se apne shohr mein badlaav laane ki koshish kar sakti hai ya phir aap apna nikah mansooq bhi karwa sakti hai agar aap ko aur koi behtar raasta dikhaai na de.

Aisa saqt mizaaj kisi ke liye bhi accha nahi, aur aage chalke shayad aapke liye aur musibaton ka sabab bane.

Pata nahi dono kisi alim se poochna chahiye.aur apni baat saaf taur par batani chahiye..
o0 Itne manfi khyalat rukhsati se pehle.mujhe lagta hai aapko ek bAar aur soch lena chahiye

^ Mera bhi yehi khayaal hai. Agar aisa hi chalta raha to aap kabhi pur sukoon ho hi nahi sakti is darr mein ke kahi aap ki kisi baat ka bura unhe na lag jaaye. Jis tarah aap ko main forum mein sab ne kaha ke aap dono ko ek dosre ke haqoq ada karna bohot zarori hai. Mein jaanti hoon ke ye thoda boring unvaan (topic) hai magar Allah Taa'ala ke ye saare usool hum sab ke liye hi banaye hai. Ye mere khayalaat ek aam ladki ke hai aur mein zyaada tajurbekaar nahi hoon jawab dene ke liye phir bhi aap ki madad karne ki koshish karti hoon.

Mein aap ko bohot waqt se reply karna chah rahi thi lekin mujhe zyaada nahi pata hai in sab ke baare mein isliye khaamosh rahi.

but me main sawal ye puchna chahti hu k Islam kia kehta hai is baray me:
k agar bivi ko nikah se pehlay shoher kharcha nhi deta aur wo apnay maan baap k ghar me parents kay hi kharchay per hai, to kia shoher us pe apnay hukm chla skta hai ya mana kr skta hai?
as Quran pak me b mard ko fzelat is lye hhai q k wo kamane wala hai. kamane k lye hi usay ye drja mila. agr wo abhi ye zimadari ni nibha rha to kia phr bhi wo sub haquq rkhta hai? yani mana kr skta hai? aur ijazt lena frz bnta hai bivi ka aisi surat me?

^
Kya aap ne kabhi unse saaf taur kharch maanga?shayad use is bare men pata hi na ho kji rukhsati se pehle phi ekhrajat poore karne chahiye,ya mali halat abhi utntni na ho ki woh Ikhrajat de paaye.Agar India ya pakistan se hain aur agar aapne shadi tod di ye aapke mustaqbil ke liye bahot masala paida kare gi,Ladke bahot assani se doosri shadi ho jayegi lekin shayad aapke liye itna asan nahi hoga. Aap yahan sawal pooch sakti hain......
http://darulifta-deoband.org/showuserview.do?function=indexView

but me kbhi koi khrcha ni manga. wo b chaht hai k de abhi se. but he is settling to a new job.

Originally Posted by seeking_hidayat

but me kbhi koi khrcha ni manga.

Originally Posted by seeking_hidayat

wo b chaht hai k de abhi se.

To problem kya hai??Aap kharcha maang nahi rahi aur woh de nahi rahe.
Sister,in sab mamelat me apne walidain se baat cheet karni chahiye,phir jo bhi aap faisla karengi uspar aapko aitemad hoga aur aap khud ko kabhi akela mehsoos nahi karengi.
yahan par advice section ka post karne ke liye kiyonki muje advice and support section me likhne ki ijazat nai hai.....

thanx sister