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    Please share hadeeths on the etiquette of visiting the graveyard



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    Default Re: Etiquette of visiting the graveyard.

    I got some hadiths related to visiting graves from here. However I think it's not describing its etiquettes.

    Abdullah b. Buraida reported on the authority of his father that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said this: I prohibited you from visiting the graves, but (now) you may visit them, and I prohibited you (from eating) the flesh of sacrific- ed animals beyond three days, but now keep it as long as you like. I prohibited you from the use of Nabidh except (that preoared) in dry waterskins. Now drink (Nabidh prepared in any utensil), but do not drink when it becomes intoxicant. (Sahih Muslim: Book #022, Hadith #4866)

    Abu Huraira reported: The Apostle of Allah (may peace be upon him) visited the grave of his mother and he wept, and moved others around him to tears, and said: I sought permission from my Lord to beg forgiveness for her but it was not granted to me, and I sought permission to visit her grave and it was granted to motel So visit the graves, for that makes you mindful of death. (Sahih Muslim: Book #004, Hadith #2130)

    Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger, (may peace be upon him) as saying: I sought permission to beg forgiveness for my mother, but He did not grant it to me. I sought permission from Him to visit her grave, and He granted it (permission) to me. (Sahih Muslim: Book #004, Hadith #2129)
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    Default Re: Etiquette of visiting the graveyard.

    Actually I was wondering the same a couple of years back my dad took me to the graveyard (not to visit a grave in particular). I feel somewhere there must be adab related to it. Theres no better place for reflection on the self.


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    I pray this reaches you in good health and Imaan InshaAllaah.

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    What salutations should be offered to the inhabitants of the graves? Are there special salutations for prophets and martyrs?

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    Sheikh `Umar al-Muqbil, professor at al-Imâm University

    Regarding the salutation that one might give at the graveyard, it is cited in Sahîh Muslim from the hadîth narrated by Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace be upon him) visited the graveyard and said:

    Al-Salâm `alaikum dâr qawmin mu’minîn wa inna in shâ’a Allah bikum lâhikűn
    (Peace be upon you, believing denizens of the grave. Allah willing, we sahll one day be joining you.)

    Also,in Sahîh Muslim reported by `Aishah, the Prophet (peace be upon him) taught Muslims to say when they visit the cemetery :

    Al-Salâm `Alâ ahl al-Diyâr min al-mu’minîn wa al-muslimîn wa yarham Allah al-mustaqdimîn minnâ wa al-mustakhirîn wa innâ inshâ’ Allah bikum lalahikűn.
    (Peace be upon you, believing and Muslim denizens of the grave. May Allah have mercy one those of us who have already passed beyond and those who are still to do so. Allah willing, we shall one day be joining you.)

    One more text was mentioned in the hadîth related by Buraydah, who said:

    The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to teach them when they visit graveyards what to say. They would say “Al-Salâm `ala ahl al-Diyar” and in another context “Al-Salâm `alaykum ahl al-Diyar min al-mu’minîn wal-muslimîn wa innâ inshâ’ Allah la lâhikűn, As’al Allah lanâ walakum al-`âfiyah”.
    The additional phrase here is:
    "We ask Allah for what is good, for you and for ourselves."

    Any of these forms of supplication may be used. It is preferable to use them all on different occasions.

    I do not know another special salutation for the Prophets and martyrs. They can be treated as others.

    And Allah knows best.


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    Ali (ra) has narrated from our beloved Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم that if one goes to the graveyard and recites Surah Ikhlaas 11 times, and then conveys it's reward to the deceased in the graveyard, he will earn the reward equal to the number of deceased in that graveyard.

    This hadith is narrated by Allamah Qurtubi in At-Tazkirah, Abu Muhammad Al-Khallaal in Fadhaail Suratil Ikhlaas, Ad-Darami, Allama Rafie in At-Tadwin fi Akbari Qazwin, Abu Bakr An-Najjaad in his Sunan, Qadhi Abu Ya’la, Dar Qutni, etc.

    [Qurratul Ain lis Sakhawi pg: 62]

    Abu Hurairah (ra) has narrated from Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم that if a person goes to the graveyard and recites Surah: Faatiha, Ikhlaas, Takaasur....and then conveys it's reward to the deceased in the graveyard, then not only will the deceased receive the rewards thereof, but they will also make recommendations for their benefactor to Allah Ta'ala.

    This hadith is narrated by Abul Qasim Sa’d Ibn Ali Az-Zanjaani in his Fawaid.

    [Atharus Sunan pg: 338]


    Anas (ra) reported that Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم stated that “Whomsoever enters a graveyard and recites Surah Yasin, Allah will alleviate for them (deceased) the punishment on that day, and he (the reciter) will receive the reward of the number of people in the graveyard.”

    is narrated by Allamah Qurtuby in At-Tazkirah, Tabarani, Abu Bakr Ali Al-Khallaal in As-Shafi, Abu Bakr An-Najjaad.

    [Qurratul Ain lis Sakhawi pg: 64]


    Abu Bakr (ra) reported that Nabi صلي الله عليه وسلم said ''Whoever will visit his mothers and fathers or one of theirs grave on Friday and reads Surah Yasin they will be forgiven.''

    This hadith is narrated by Abu Shaikh, Ibn Adi, Muhammad Ibn Hayyaan, Allamah Rafie in Tadwin, Darami.

    [Qurratul Ain & At-Targhib lil Yafie pg: 172]


    These narrations, although with regard to the chain of narrators there are weak, however the number of it reaches the level of acceptance, as in the principle of the Muhaddithin with regard to weak chain of narrators.

    Allamah Suyuti mentioned:

    وهي وان كانت ضعيفة فمجموعها يدل على أن لذلك أصلا

    [I’laus Sunan 343/8]

    Allamah Mullah Ali Qari has mentioned similar text from Hafiz Shamsud Din Al-Maqdisi.

    [Tuhfatul Ahwazi, under Hadith number 605]


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    sister

    The first hadeeth you mentioned in the post directly above is fabricated, as is the one stated to be narrated by Anas about the recitation of Surah Yaseen in the graveyard. The one narrated by Abu Bakr is rejected by some scholars, and declared a fabrication by others. The one narrated by Abu Hurairah is weak at best, and adds intercession into the mix, and doesn't really strengthen them.

    Even if some scholars consider all the hadeeth to be weak but not fabricated, when a weak narration contradicts a strong one, then the strong narration must be acted upon. Let us stick to the strong ahaadeth in the saheeh hadeeth collections.

    With regard to reciting Qur’aan when visiting the grave, this is something which has no basis in the Sunnah.

    It is not prescribed in Islam, and the fact that it is not prescribed is supported by the hadeeth of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “Do not make your houses into graveyards, for the Shaytaan flees from a house in which Soorat al-Baqarah is recited.” This was narrated by Muslim (Book 7, Hadith 1860) and al-Tirmidhi from the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah. This indicates that graves are not the place for reading Qur’aan, hence the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) encouraged reading Qur’aan in our houses and told us not to make them like graveyards where it is not read.
    http://islamqa.info/en/ref/14285/qur...%20%20%20grave

    According to the saheeh ahaadeeth, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) explained the things that will benefit the Muslim after he dies. He (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When a man dies, all his good deeds come to a halt, apart from three: ongoing charity (sadaqah jaariyah); beneficial knowledge; or a righteous child who will pray for him.” (Narrated by Muslim in his Saheeh, and Jami` at-Tirmidhi 1376).

    A man asked the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “O Messenger of Allaah, is there anything that I can do to continue honouring my parents after they die?” He (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Yes: pray for them, ask for forgiveness for them, fulfil their last wishes (wasiyah or will), honour their friends and uphold the ties of kinship which you would not have were it not for them.”
    http://islamqa.info/en/ref/9979/qur%27aan%20%20%20grave

    Also see this:
    Is it permissible to read Qur’aan at the grave?.

    Praise be to Allaah.

    Reading Qur’aan at the grave is not prescribed in Islam because there is no report that says that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did that.

    The Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas was asked: Is it permissible to read al-Faatihah or anything from the Qur’aan for the deceased when visiting his grave, and does that benefit him?

    They replied:

    It is proven that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to visit graves, and he would recite du’aa’s for the dead that he taught to his companions and they learned them from him. For example: “Al-salaamu ‘alaykum ahl al-diyaar min al-mu’mineen wa’l-Muslimeen, wa inna in sha Allaah bikum laahiqoon, nas’al Allaaha lana wa lakum al-‘aafiyah (Peace be upon you, O people of the dwellings, believers and Muslims. If Allaah wills we will join you. We ask Allaah to grant us and you safety).”

    But there is no report that he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) recited a soorah of the Qur’aan or any verses thereof for the dead, even though he visited them often. If that had been prescribed, he would have done it and would have taught it to his companions, seeking the reward and out of mercy towards his ummah, and fulfilling the obligation to convey the message. For he was as Allaah described him (interpretation of the meaning):

    “Verily, there has come unto you a Messenger (Muhammad) from amongst yourselves. It grieves him that you should receive any injury or difficulty. He (Muhammad) is anxious over you; for the believers (he is) full of pity, kind, and merciful”

    [al-Tawbah 9:128]

    The fact that he did not do that even though there were reasons why he might have done it indicates that it is not prescribed. His companions (may Allaah be pleased with them) knew that and followed in his footsteps, and they limited themselves to learning lessons and making du’aa’ for the dead when they visited them. There is no report that they read Qur’aan for the dead. For them such reading was an innovation (bid’ah), and it was proven that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever introduces anything into this matter of ours [i.e., Islam] that is not part of it will have it rejected.” Agreed upon.

    From Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah, 9/38

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    ^ There is nothing wrong with reciting Surah Yaseen sis - It's a part of the Qur'aan. Even if you do not get that reward. Surah Yaseen is the heart of the Qur'aan, so it is better if we treat it with respect InshaAllaah.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Haafizah View Post
    ^ There is nothing wrong with reciting Surah Yaseen sis - It's a part of the Qur'aan.
    My sincere apologies if any part of my post implies that reciting Surah Yaseen, or any other part of the Qur'an, is wrong. A'oothubillah and I seek forgiveness from Allah if that is how it came across.

    The thread, and all the posts in it, refer to etiquette of the graveyard, and your post, my post in response, and the quotes I chose from the links, all referred specifically to the recitation of the Qur'an in the graveyard.

    Quote Originally Posted by Haafizah View Post
    Even if you do not get that reward. Surah Yaseen is the heart of the Qur'aan, so it is better if we treat it with respect InshaAllaah.
    The best respect for the Qur'an, is to recite it as taught by the Prophet and his companions (may Allah be pleased with them), and to refrain from where they told us not to recite it.

    There are no authentic saheeh hadeeth that any of them ever recited the Qur'an in the graveyard either for the dead or for themselves, or told other people to do so. On the contrary there are saheeh ahadeeth (eg the one above) that confirm that it is not one of those things to be done at the graveyard, rather he taught us to make du3a for the deceased while there.

    And Allah knows best in all matters and may He forgive me if I said anything wrong.
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    IslamOnline and IslamQA are 2 completely different websites, with 2 different sorts of Muslims in charge. InshaAllaah, it is best if we take which one we think is best.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haafizah View Post
    IslamOnline and IslamQA are 2 completely different websites, with 2 different sorts of Muslims in charge.
    It's not a matter of the website or type of Muslim here, but the hadeeth themselves. I take it your post was from Islamonline, who themselves have actually admitted that the ahadeeth, all four of them, are weak without exception.

    Some scholars allow acting on weak hadeeth if there are enough of them on a matter and if there's nothing that contradicts their subject matter amongst the saheeh ahadeeth. But, when weak ahadeeth (and some so weak that others would say they are fabricated) contradict authentic strong saheeh hadeeth in the major authentic hadeeth collections, there is no reason to act on weak ones at all, once it is known what the saheeh hadeeth say, and what the Prophet actually said and did.

    I hope you will not take offence at this sister.

    Quote Originally Posted by Haafizah View Post
    InshaAllaah, it is best if we take which one we think is best.
    I hope you've had an inkling of what is the best course inshaa'Allah.

    And Allah knows best in all matters.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Haafizah View Post
    Surah Yaseen is the heart of the Qur'aan
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    Do you have any sources for this?

    I've heard it many times before just never actually read anything on it



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    Quote Originally Posted by aadil77 View Post
    sis

    Do you have any sources for this?

    I've heard it many times before just never actually read anything on it
    It was narrated that Anas said:

    “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Everything has a heart and the heart of the Qur’aan is Ya-Seen. Whoever recites Ya-Seen, Allaah will record for him the reward of reading the Qur’aan ten times.’”

    [al-Tirmidhi, 2887.]

    I bet someone will post a fatwa on this now, saying this hadith is weak also.....


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    Quote Originally Posted by Haafizah View Post
    It was narrated that Anas said:

    “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Everything has a heart and the heart of the Qur’aan is Ya-Seen. Whoever recites Ya-Seen, Allaah will record for him the reward of reading the Qur’aan ten times.’”

    [al-Tirmidhi, 2887.]

    I bet someone will post a fatwa on this now, saying this hadith is weak also.....
    LOL looks like it is http://islamqa.com/en/ref/6460

    It was narrated that Anas said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Everything has a heart and the heart of the Qur’aan is Ya-Seen. Whoever recites Ya-Seen, Allaah will record for him the reward of reading the Qur’aan ten times.’”
    (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2887. He said, It is not saheeh because of its isnaad, and its isnaad is da’eef (weak). Al-Albaani said in al-Da’eefah (169): (it is) mawdoo’ (fabricated)).



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    Ok, whatever you feel necessary mods. Each to our own InshaAllaah.


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    Quote Originally Posted by aadil77 View Post
    LOL looks like it is
    Quote Originally Posted by aadil77 View Post


    I've been told these things since I was a kid - I think my parents would know more about Islam than me. So I'm not going to believe that this hadith is fabricated, and carry on reciting Surah Yaseen and the Qur'aan for my grandmother and grandfather.


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