when i first college i wore the hijab the long one but am thinking, maybe i should wear a scarf this semster... well it's not peer presure or anything is just that am lost right now..... i love being a muslim girl and i know that i shouldn't be enjoying life that we should act as treavlers and all that.... i know all this but how am i suppose to be me if i feel confused about every decision i have to make.... also what do u guys think about talking to the opposite sex is that sinful....see am talking to this guy and he send me his picture should i sent him mine.... he is soooooooo sweet and he usually dont talk about sinful things..... am trying to stop the conversation if they lead to any sexual things .... is it okey if i meet the opposite sex if sinfull thing dont occure....
leave ur comments and let them be good ones .thank u
dont mind me i forgot to proof read it
Last edited by Muhammad; 01-19-2006 at 08:51 PM.
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i know its gonna be tough when i start wearing it to college.. but i'm just one of those ppl that dunt give a damn what other ppl think when it comes to islam.. so if i wanna wear it, i'm gonna wear it and if they dunt like it - tough, they can go where the sun dunt shine....
nah..wat i meant was ..i mentioned this before..but the uni works on the basis of id cards..so in examinations u need ur id card on the table and it has ur pic on it..so they use it to verify u are who u say u are..u get me
and its used for access to some labs and stuff..
MashaAllah some good replies here.
I just wanna add that any relationship based on sin will be doomed as you're going against the laws of Allah and leaving ur hayaa behind.
If already the brother you talk to is making unsuitable convos where u have to stop him, ask yourself how pious is he? If he can talk like that to you then what makes you so diff from other girls? He can be talking in that manner to anyone. Oh and please don't even think of sending him your photo.
If a brother is genuinely interested in a sister for marriage, he should tell his parents to approach hers and take it from there. Anything else, avoid it.
May Allah ta'ala guide you on the right path.. ameen
nah..wat i meant was ..i mentioned this before..but the uni works on the basis of id cards..so in examinations u need ur id card on the table and it has ur pic on it..so they use it to verify u are who u say u are..u get me
and its used for access to some labs and stuff..
I wear it at uni and they also have id cards and guess what.....
.....I had my picture taken WITH MY NIQAAB ON!!!
They gave me a choice, I could have it with or without so theywere really nice about it.
So basically what I'm saying is where theres a will, theres a way.
If you wanna do sumthing you have to try.
I know the feeling of being stared at and it is annoying but you ignore it and anyway usually they are more interested than hostile.
Anyway I hope you dont take it off because personally I feel that that would be insulting and disrespecting the niqaab.
But that's my view. :sister:
i jus wanna say to all the sis who wear hijaab, jilbab & niqaab or are tryin to, i have a so much respect for u that i cnt put in words, my heart goes out for u all
As for brs its nt so hard to have a beard which is one of a islamic symbols coz a hindu,sikh, jew etc have them so it nt sumfin unique, where as islamic women dress is.
if any brs out there fink diffrent, than my challenge to is that one day dress up from head to toe and see for yourself hw hard it is for a women.
my point is that when we order our women to cover up we should use hikmah inshA.
I wear it at uni and they also have id cards and guess what.....
.....I had my picture taken WITH MY NIQAAB ON!!!
They gave me a choice, I could have it with or without so theywere really nice about it.
So basically what I'm saying is where theres a will, theres a way.
If you wanna do sumthing you have to try.
I know the feeling of being stared at and it is annoying but you ignore it and anyway usually they are more interested than hostile.
Anyway I hope you dont take it off because personally I feel that that would be insulting and disrespecting the niqaab.
But that's my view. :sister:
awww..masha'allah...
i dont wear a niqab at the mo..i've jus been wearin the jilbaab ever since i went for umrah wen i was 13 years old..so i thought it'd be easier for me to wear niqab..but my dad'z against it..and well..he'z a very..opinionated person..and i dont want to anger him..but yes i know islam is more important..but niqab isnt compulsory is it?..i mean by wearing it i understand that i'd feel more at peace..
but i dont know.. i'm so confuzzled..
awww..masha'allah...
i dont wear a niqab at the mo..i've jus been wearin the jilbaab ever since i went for umrah wen i was 13 years old..so i thought it'd be easier for me to wear niqab..but my dad'z against it..and well..he'z a very..opinionated person..and i dont want to anger him..but yes i know islam is more important..but niqab isnt compulsory is it?..i mean by wearing it i understand that i'd feel more at peace..
but i dont know.. i'm so confuzzled..
Mashallah sis u r doin more than most of sis r doin, so be proud of urself inshA, and pray to Allah (swt) about ur father being too opinionated, in Al-islam it's what Allah (swt) & his Prophet (saw) have said goes not what u&me fink.
what u said about niqab- pls read below a fatwa which will give a clear indication of where u stand in this matter
Question :
I wear Hijab but do not wear Niqab, my husband says that if I do not start covering my face then he will divorce me. He says that whatever he asks me to do I should do. I do not want to disobey my husband but to wear niqab would cause me great hardship and sadden me deeply. I guess it is due to lack of eeman that I feel this way but feel that he is trying to force me to do something that I do not want to do. Can you please advise me on this matter.
Answer :
Praise be to Allaah.
The evidence of the Qur’aan and Sunnah indicates that it is obligatory for women for cover their faces. This evidence includes the verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way)”
[al-Ahzaab 33:59]
The cloak (jilbaab) is a garment that the woman places over her head and lowers over her face.
So you have to fear Allaah in this matter and respond to two commands: the command of Allaah and the command of your husband. Undoubtedly this will be very good for you. This matter will make your husband happy and bring happiness to your home. Feelings of difficulty will pass if you are patient and get used to it. These feelings of difficulty will turn to joy when you see the effect that your way of dressing has on him, so you will be responding to Islamic commands and the command of your husband which is in accordance with the laws of Allaah. You will be closing the door to the shaytaans of those who may look at you, and will also be protecting the gaze of chaste and good people from looking at something which they are not permitted to see. And there are other benefits which you will see and appreciate when you respond to this command.
Sisters who wear niqaab often come to regret the years in which they used to uncover their faces, after Allaah honoured them with the niqaab. If one of them were to be given all the wealth in the world to uncover her face, she would not do it. We have even seen many chaste women who have left their husbands because they wanted them to take off the niqaab. So think about the great difference between your situation and theirs. Where now can we find a man who is keen to keep his family chaste and covered? There are very few of them. Should we disregard these few or should we appreciate their actions which spread good in society?
We remind you to fear Allaah, and we remind you of the actions of the believing women when they responded to the command of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):
“and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)”
[al-Noor 24:31]
al-Bukhaari (4481) narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “When this verse was revealed, the muhaajir women took their waist wrappers and tore them at the edges, and covered their faces with them.
See also the answer to question no. 21134, which explains the obligation of women covering their faces.
Your husband should also read question no. 20343, which explains the husband’s duty to offer sincere advice to his wife, and ways of doing that.
jazakallahukhair 4 the encouragement.....and jazakallahukhair 4 the fatwa...now all i need to do is act on wat i've learned...insha'allah...
tho thatz gonna be kinda hard...
i understand about the reward..and then i think..in order to get the reward..wouldnt it be better 4 me to give up uni...that way i wont be in a mixed environment..i mean all my life i've wanted to study science..and to become a scientist..and then i've been reading a lot of articles..and the best place for the woman is in the home..and...alas...i have reached a crossroads...
i jus wanna say to all the sis who wear hijaab, jilbab & niqaab or are tryin to, i have a so much respect for u that i cnt put in words, my heart goes out for u all
As for brs its nt so hard to have a beard which is one of a islamic symbols coz a hindu,sikh, jew etc have them so it nt sumfin unique, where as islamic women dress is.
if any brs out there fink diffrent, than my challenge to is that one day dress up from head to toe and see for yourself hw hard it is for a women.
my point is that when we order our women to cover up we should use hikmah inshA.
As-Salaam Walikum- My Father says the SAME Thing Mashallah!!! May Allah BLESS Us all. Ameen.
~~~As-Salaam WAlikum~~~
*P.S. I wear BURKHA Inshallah!!!! Mashallah... I have been wearing it since I was 12!!!
The brother iqbal_ibn_adam brought a strong daleel for the obligation of veiling one which I myself believe. However it must also be stated that there is an ikhtilaff regarding the matter amongst some of the major scholars of the religion. The other oppinion is that niqaabis recommended. But the stronger oppinion is that which the brother brought barakAllahu feek. as salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh.
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