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    My mum and dad are divorced, but my mum still talks about him alot to others, she still looks at his old pictures and is thinking about him alot and also tries to keep in contact with him as much as possible, as if she is still married to him

    Are these things allowed?

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    Re: Allowed?

    If the divorce was done according Quran & sunnah and the idah period is over, then one cannot act as if they are still married. However, there is no harm in keeping contact for the welfare of both their children.
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    ^ To a certain extent - remember, he is your non mehram now...
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    Re: Allowed?

    format_quote Originally Posted by AhLÄÄM View Post


    ^ To a certain extent - remember, he is your non mehram now...


    Wha are you talking about woman thas her dad.
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    For the mum keeping in contact with the dad - to a certain extent because they are divorced, and he is no longer mahram for her.
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    Ex husband's & wives can contact each other to discuss matters relating to their children. Nowhere in Islam does it say they can't. Anything else would be overstepping the bounderies.
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    ^ Yeh i meant the anything else part lol
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    I know, I was telling the first poster lol
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    May be they will marry again if understand each other.
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    ^ They can't, unless the mum marries someone else, then dets divorced from that person with the person's will. Islamically.
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    Re: Allowed?

    format_quote Originally Posted by AhLÄÄM View Post


    ^ They can't, unless the mum marries someone else, then dets divorced from that person with the person's will. Islamically.
    Ohh, its a little complicate but noone knows what hold the future
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    ^ They can't, unless the mum marries someone else, then dets divorced from that person with the person's will. Islamically.
    Doesn't that apply only when 3 talaq were done?
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    yeps, that applied after 3 talaaq between da same man and woman
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    yes but is she allowed to look at her ex husbands pictures? and talk about him?
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    as long as she doesnt talk about haraam things, i dnt see y she cudn't!!!
    n for da pic, its whether u agree pics are forbidden or not!!!!
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    Doesn't that apply only when 3 talaq were done?
    No, by saying 3 times talaaq thats done - when ur divorced u cant marry the same person unless u marry sum1 else and divorce them

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    Re: Allowed?

    If the husband gave his wife three talaaq then the nikah breaks immediately and there is no way the two can get back together again. This is the strongest form of talaaq.

    If he divorces her a third time, she becomes a stranger to him (non-mahram) and she is not permissible for him until she has married another husband and the marriage has been consummated.

    Allah says: And if he has divorced her (the third time), then she is not lawful unto him thereafter until she has married another husband. Then, if the other husband divorces her, it is no sin on both of them that they reunite, provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allaah. These are the limits of Allaah, which He makes plain for the people who have knowledge” al-Baqarah 2:229-230
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    ^Agreed

    If the husband gave his wife three talaaq then the nikah breaks immediately and there is no way the two can get back together again. This is the strongest form of talaaq.
    This is what's known as an innovative divorce and is forbidden in islam. The correct way to give each talaq is one at a time. Then wait until the idah period is over, before announcing the next one. This is to give a chance to achieve reconciliation. When divorce is pronounced 3 times at once, there is no chance of a reconciliation left and divorce is final after the idah period. Giving divorce this way is valid but it is against the recommended way of doing it.


    To the earlier question of whether it's ok for the wife to look at pictures of her divorced husband. Issue of whether pics themselves are haram or not aside, yes it is haram for the wife to be doing that. This is because the ex-husband is now a ghair mahram and if a wife still has feelings for her husband, looking at his pics will evoke desires and emotions that may lead to fitnah. An example being that if they are ever alone the wife may make a pass or come onto her husband - or make lead her to make contact with him with such things in mind. All which is forbidden in relation to non-mahrams.
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