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    hey everyone... i dont know how to start.. but i think im gonna loseeeee my mind.... i cant take this anymore.. for the first time in my life...i cant handle it.. sometimes i get these shatyan thoughts... like to kill my self.. or watever...

    well i always get in fights with my sisters.. n my mother always sides with em.. either my youngest or my oldest sister.. THEY always Seem to get there WAY... as u know im the middle child... i feel like no one seem to care about my feeling or wat i want.. its always them... sometimes honestly i do believe like maybe im not her daughter or somethin...


    anywayz for my oldest sister... the problem started like few months back soon enough its gonna be a year in like 2 months.. n it started over somethin dumb i dont remember.. but anywayz we stopped talkin .. but u know to my sister she believes in gettin back.. so we always have these lil wars.. which SHE always wins .. cuz obviously my mother always believe shes rite cuz shes the oldest.. my sisters always .. says shes the oldest so she can boss us around.. always get the free ticket ... my mother always thinks she does more things around the house then i do.. but if u think about it.. the difference btw me n her is that she takes my mother out... as in she drives her...thats it........ cuz im still learnin how to drive .
    well for today.. we got into a lame argumet so i ended up leavin .. well u guys might think this one like beyond lame but as yall know.. we got a room where the computer n tv n the ac in n we cant open em all at once .. cuz the electricity .. well it cant handle it.. so she was on the computer she closes my tv n kickes us out as long as she can statsife her self with the Ac cuz she needs.. i got really mad went to my mother.. she was like its ok she has more importants things than u.. its just thats not the point if she have asked me .. it woulda been a different issue ...

    now as it come to my youngest sisters.. i never get respect from em.. n when it comes to my oldest sister they dont say a word to her cuz she will show em.. but cuz im nice to them n tryin to be different from my sister.. they just r mean to me.. n as yall know i always ended up talkin to my mother n she still sides with em... i just cant take it.. my mother always tells me u wanna get out .. u gotta get married its ur only way out .. she believes im just a spolied gurl .. bt im not.. i wish my dad was here he always had my back.. but hes sick in the hospital.. NOW i cant take it anymore..... should i ignore it .. but still i will get in it somehow .. or B- fight back which i will looooooose or c just SHOOOOT my self.. ouf ouf ouf ... i been tryin to calm down but i cant take it ...
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    Re: i cant control my self...



    Someone advise inshaaAllaah...
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    Re: i cant control my self...

    i dont see any problem...


    this sounds like a normal family to me lol


    your sister should be more considerate
    ur younga sister should be more respectful
    your mother should be more fair
    and you wish your father was well



    but hey this is dunya not jannah, so we gotta be patient
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    Re: i cant control my self...

    Fighting with sibling,fighting with relatives,fighting with family and friends....is just a normal Cases....no need to committed suicide or doing something thats haram...(prohibited)...we chose to live in world not to die....believe is Allah steadfast in our prayer 5x a day....and patience...u must learn the virtue of patience...what has Nabi SAW...has thought us to be patience...jusT ignored what people said or hurt us..they the weapon we are the cause nothing can killed us if the cause dont act first....the traits of fisting is unuseful cause fighting and picking up each other is the waY of Syaitan trick us to do it...cause anytime we angry we take ablution water(wuduk) and say: A'uzubillah minas syaitanir Rajim.... about 100x..u will be calm..and if u memorize surah An-Nas,Al-falaq and ayatul kursi of Allah u will protected by Allah...no need to worried... say some zikir and salawat to Allah........u will be fine dont leave ya obligatory 5x a day prayer and do some additional prayers to allah...be happy ...insyaallah allah will guidE you....~
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    Re: i cant control my self...

    sis u kno what u should do, whenever someone gets rude to you or your eldest sister does something rude just get up and smile dont say a single word. Then ur sister will start thinking hey my rudeness isnt effecting her at all whats going on here??

    fighting fire with fire never helps i think lol, therefore you should fight it with something else. Be the calm one in your family be stronger then ur siblings.

    If none of the above works then go join a boxing club nd beat ur siblings until they love you. lol jking
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    Re: i cant control my self...

    format_quote Originally Posted by IbnAbdulHakim View Post
    i dont see any problem...


    this sounds like a normal family to me lol


    your sister should be more considerate
    ur younga sister should be more respectful
    your mother should be more fair
    and you wish your father was well



    but hey this is dunya not jannah, so we gotta be patient
    yes but how long can a person be patient.... when i was young i used to hold it in.. n just move on.. but lately its gettin tooo much n i just blew up :enough!: i just want em to leave me ALONE... bas hopefully everything works out inshallah... thanks
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    Re: i cant control my self...

    format_quote Originally Posted by nebula View Post
    sis u kno what u should do, whenever someone gets rude to you or your eldest sister does something rude just get up and smile dont say a single word. Then ur sister will start thinking hey my rudeness isnt effecting her at all whats going on here??


    fighting fire with fire never helps i think lol, therefore you should fight it with something else. Be the calm one in your family be stronger then ur siblings.

    If none of the above works then go join a boxing club nd beat ur siblings until they love you. lol jking

    well i ll try to do my best.. its just when i wrote this .. I Was sooo mad i just needed like any advise anywayz thank u n thanks to everyone


    Yeah grt idea i Should join a BOxing Club...... wat a grt i dea.. lol but still i just dont wanna kill em... cuz if i do end up fightin then We wont stop until one of us is killed N we dont want that to HAPPPEN Yeah n then they will love me more than EVER jk.. peace wa 3lykom el salam
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    Re: i cant control my self...

    Try to talk with some professional man or woman about that electricity thing. Its not normal whats happening in your house. I can plug here whatever i want without to cut off other stuffs used by my parents.
    Last edited by Tania; 06-29-2008 at 09:01 PM.
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    Re: i cant control my self...

    وعليكم السلام ورحمة الله وبركاته
    To stop problems and protect the home one can read sura baqarah. You can also search for other Islamic ways to protect the home. Generally all kinds of remberance of Allah will help. Just keep repeating the dhikr (rememberance /supplications) whenever some issue arrives. If shaytaan makes waswas then say "audu biallahi min as shaytani rajeem".

    I noticed in the message that there is no mention of Allah The Most Merciful. This may be a sign that you are not keen on dhikr and for such people many problems come to them without them understanding why. The message also reminded me of the story of the Prophet Yusuf and his brothers in sura Yusuf but this may not be the same case. It just reminded me.

    Allahu Alim.
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