does islam allow a husband to force his wife into something that she isnt ready for???
my husband has told me to start covering my head when im outside the house. is it right for him to force me if im not ready??? not ready as iman is not at that stage at the moment.
Even if i did start wearing a scarf i know it wouldnt last very long. Because id be doing it to please my husband not Allah if you know what i mean.
please help
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Salam alaikum sis,
As far as i am concerned forcing someone to do something is not encouraged nor allowed in islam... plus as you said yourself as a muslim brother your husband needs to realise why people wear the hijab and in this world what as muslims our intentions should be and that is to please and do things for Allah swt's sake and ONLY for His sake otherwise it will not be accepted.
so by you wearing the hijab is neither gonna ripen your righteous deeds nor make you a better muslim cos simply your husband has forced you to it.
but if you start to wear it to please Allah swt then Insha'Allah Allah swt will multiply your rewards in abundance and bestow many barakahs in your life cos it was done for Him.
i pray that Insha'Allah Allah swt disposes all your affairs for you and makes your imaan strong, forgives you for all your sins and bestows mny many barakahs upon your marriage and family... and that He Insha'Allah rewards you with Jannah in the akhira.
walikum asalam.
I know that at times i may be annoying or mistaken when i say some things or it may unintentionally God forbid offend u & if that is the case then i sincerely apologise from the bottom of my heart & ask Allah swt's & ur forgiveness, so please do Insha'Allah forgive me and correct me.
To my understanding, sister, you have an obligation to be obedient to your husband, as long as he doesn't ask you do to something that is haraam.
Islamically, he is the head of the household and it is his duty to ensure that Islamic standards are maintained. It is his duty to ensure you wear the hijab and it is your duty to obey him (and of course, ultimately, Allah).
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What are you on about? Yeah she must be obedient to her man, but forced into doing something she doesn't want to do?
Can you force a Non-Muslim to become Muslim?
Can you force someone into following Islaam?
She would be doing it to plesae her husband and not Allaah,
Listen I don't have the knowlege or nothing, but from what I can see your post isn't lookin' good, can you atleast provide dhaleel for 'A husband can force his wife into doing the hijaab because she must be obedient towards him'
does islam allow a husband to force his wife into something that she isnt ready for???
my husband has told me to start covering my head when im outside the house. is it right for him to force me if im not ready??? not ready as iman is not at that stage at the moment.
Even if i did start wearing a scarf i know it wouldnt last very long. Because id be doing it to please my husband not Allah if you know what i mean.
please help
You should know sister that if you please your husband you are also pleasing Allah.
And it is your duty to Allah as well as your husband to cover your head.
your husband is sinning every second YOU are exposed in public.
he gets the sin, you get the sin.... THINK ABOUT IT
exactly, your husband is responsible before allah about his family so he want you to wear hijab to protect yourself and also protect himself when allah asking him in the hereafter
Sis my advice is to read about Hijab. Why do we wear it? what are the befits etc. If you're husband sees you are making an effort and considering it he'll be pleased InshAllah. And, you'll be ready to wear it for the right reasons InshAllah. Just educate yourself on the issue
hmmm interesting question. Theres no point in wearing the hijab just for your husband, its not him you need to please with regards to hijab, its Allah. Look deep into your heart and think about why you dont want to wear the hijab? why dont you want to please Allah?Is it for fashion reasons, because you feel you dont look good, because your other family members may not like it?
Whilst your husband cant 'force' you by gluing it onto your head heres a couple of ayahs that i find appropriate
O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded.
66:6
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husbands absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husbands property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see illconduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.
4:34
I'm just wondering how the sister in question is felt to be under "force".
I assume that the husband isnt physically force-wrapping a hijab around her head, so what sort of pressure is she under? Mental pressure,"threats" of divorce unless she adopts it?
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Firstly: It is compulsory to wear the Hijab, not just the hijab, but to also wear clothes that are modest and not revealing, so that your body shape can in no way be accidentally even shown to non-mahram males.
Secondly, How do you feel that you're being forced sis? Threats? Just the fact the he 'told' you to wear the Hijab?
Thirdly, in a relationship isn't it necessary to be understanding of the other half? I mean I wonder what he may be feeling for every time you're exposed. Forget that as someone else has already mentioned, what about changing your intentions? Or at least researching about the Head scarf and why it's worn.
Also, Alpha dude really does have a point
Lastly, please forgive me for sounding harsh!
Firstly: It is compulsory to wear the Hijab, not just the hijab, but to also wear clothes that are modest and not revealing, so that your body shape can in no way be accidentally even shown to non-mahram males.
Secondly, How do you feel that you're being forced sis? Threats? Just the fact the he 'told' you to wear the Hijab?
Thirdly, in a relationship isn't it necessary to be understanding of the other half? I mean I wonder what he may be feeling for every time you're exposed. Forget that as someone else has already mentioned, what about changing your intentions? Or at least researching about the Head scarf and why it's worn.
Also, Alpha dude really does have a point
Lastly, please forgive me for sounding harsh!
You are correct except, believe it or not there is NO WAY ANYONE CAN COVER THEIR BODY SHAPE. I have seen sisters covered from head to toe wearing loose clothes, and i could still know if they were skinny or fat.
We are told to cover ourselves modestly, the chest, hips, thighs, and cravy areas should be covered with loose clothing.
70:28 Lo! the doom of their Lord is that before which none can feel secure
Whether the husband is forcing or not. Whether the imaan is weak or not. If you can eat the food Allah gives you whether you are starving to death or not, surely you can obey the commands of your Creator to please Him - or not? Show your gratitude by obeying Him. I ache to think that we thank another human being 2-3 times for doinga small task for us. But when it comes to thanking Allah for the endless blessings He has given us, we pretend we didn't notice them or take them for granted and say we need to have imaan to do that? SubhanAllah! How we deceive ourselves.
Not only is it disobeying Allah, it is openly declaring to others that you are disobedient. My dear sis, shun away the voice of your nafs and of the shaytaan. You take one step towards pleasing Allah (not yourself) and Allah will please you. Hijab never takes from a woman's beauty, except that it enhances her in a pure kind of beauty which is appreciated not with lust but with admiration and muslim pride.
May Allah reward your husband for asking you to wear hijab. And may He increase you in righteousness and imaan. Ameen.
You should know sister that if you please your husband you are also pleasing Allah.
And it is your duty to Allah as well as your husband to cover your head.
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your husband is sinning every second YOU are exposed in public.
he gets the sin, you get the sin.... THINK ABOUT IT
format_quote Originally Posted by SAYA
exactly, your husband is responsible before allah about his family so he want you to wear hijab to protect yourself and also protect himself when allah asking him in the hereafter
Can somebody supply evidence for these statements?
Thanks
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Can somebody supply evidence for these statements?
Thanks
4:34 Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are Qanitat, and guard in the husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard. As to those women on whose part you see ill conduct, admonish them, and abandon them in their beds, and beat them, but if they return to obedience, do not seek a means against them. Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great
from Quran explanation- (tafsir ibn kathir)
Qanitat- obedient to their husbands, as Ibn `Abbas and others stated
Imam Ahmad recorded that `Abdur-Rahman bin 'Awf said that the Messenger of Allah said,
If the woman prayed her five daily prayers, fasted her month, protected her chastity and obeyed her husband, she will be told, 'Enter Paradise from any of its doors you wish
The Messenger of Allah said
If I were to command anyone to prostrate before anyone, I would have commanded the wife to prostrate before her husband, because of the enormity of his right upon her.
both the man and woman has marriage rights and duties, and one of the duties of a woman is to be obedient to her husband. that doesnt mean like if he says the sun is green then you must obey and agree or anything though.
and yes, every man will be asked about his family on the day of judgement
This thread makes me Im a hijabi, not married but really what the hek?
think twice bout wat u jus sed
Abdullah ibn Umar reported that the Prophet (saw) said:
"Three people will not enter paradise, and Allaah will not0 look to them on the Day of Judgement: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the woman who imitates men and the ad-Dayooth." (Ahmad)
Ad-Dayooth[1] is the man who permits women for whom he is responsible (eg: mother, wife, sister etc.) to engage in illicit sexual relations, or to display their beauty to strange men, thereby stimulating their sexual desires.
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My tears testify that i have a heart
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Wearing the Hijab for just sake of husband would be wrong in only the way that you would be doing it to please him. But shouldn't you do it for only Allah and to please him only?
I don't wear hijab yet but inshAllah I will soon.
Sister I hope Allah makes this struggle easier for you.
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