Marriage: muslim girl, non-muslim guy

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Sister sevgi or anyone confused about this issue, please read this (an excerpt from a longer article):

"In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,

Inter-marriage between Muslims and non-Muslims is something that has been clearly prohibited in the Quran and Sunnah, thus not permissible in any way. The only exception to this general rule is the marriage of Muslim men with Christian and Jewish girls, and that also with certain conditions.

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A question may arise here, that if the difference between Muslims and people of the book is considered to be lighter as compared to other faiths, then why is it unlawful for Muslim girls to marry Christian and Jewish men?

The answer to this question is that, women are somewhat weak and emotional by nature. Then the husband has been given a caretaking and controlling role over the wife. As such, it is very likely that the Muslim wife may fall prey and become impressed with her husband's faith. The chances of the husband becoming affected by his wife's faith are remote, thus the difference between the two situations is clear.

Moreover, by marrying a Christian or a Jewish man, the status of the Muslim wife would be affected, for the wife normally takes the nationality and status given by her husband�s law. A Christian or a Jewish woman marrying a Muslim man would be expected eventually to accept Islam, while the possibility of a Muslim woman changing her faith to that of her husband is very likely. Therefore, only Muslim men were given this permission of marrying with women from the people of the book.

Secondly, women who are Christians and Jews merely by name, and do not really believe in any religion, like a large number of people in the west, cannot be termed as people of the book (ahl al-Kitab). They are atheist in reality and it will not be permissible for Muslim men to marry them.

Therefore, one must first make sure that the woman is truly a believing Christian or Jew, and then consider contracting marriage with them.

Thirdly, it should be remembered that the meaning of the permission of marrying Christian and Jewish women is simply that, if a marriage contract was performed with them, it would be valid according to Islam and the children born out of this wedlock will be considered legitimate.

However, there are various narrations that establish its undesirability. A Muslim man is advised in the Hadith to select a life partner who fully observes the injunctions of Islam, so that she becomes a means of attaining piety. If that is the case, then marrying Christian and Jewish girls would be disliked.

This is the reason why Sayyiduna Umar ibn al-Khattab (Allah be pleased with him) prevented many such marriages in his lifetime because of what he had seen of the corruption that resulted in Iraq and Syria. (See: Muhammad ibn al-Hasan, Kitab al-Athar).

Finally, this permission is only when one is confident that he himself or his children will not be affected by this marriage. In the early days, Muslims were duly equipped with adequate Islamic knowledge and an unshaken commitment towards their religion. As such, there was no risk of the husband being affected by his wife�s religion. Rather, the wife would see the glory of Islam, thus enter into the fold of Islam.

Therefore, if a Muslim male is confident that marriage with a Christian or Jewish girl will have no affect on his and his children�s Islamic identity and commitment, then there is no bar against such marriages. However, if he is not so confident, he must avoid entering into such marriages.

And Allah knows best"

Just to add: personally Id marry rather marry a Muslim girl any day! The idea of marrying a kafir who does not worship the same Lord as me or appreciates Allah and Islam the way we do is just BLERGH! the fact that she is not grateful to Allah the way we are would be a major put off.

May Allah guide your friend and all of us, ameen.

format_quote Originally Posted by AntiKarateKid

By the way, how is it noble for him not to revert because of loyalty to his parents? Obviously this is more important to him than loyalty to Allah.

Have you forgotten the first Muslims had to fight their families when they reverted? Have you forgotten that they were the best generation?

This thread is getting nonsensical. That sister has gotten her answer. It is haram. Moreover, that bad influence is affecting the sister asking the question.

To think, she says "what harm can he be to her children?" Well so far she loves a guy who thinks Islam is illogical and backward, who picks and chooses things from other religons, and who values his family over faith.

She has already been corrupted. I can only imagine what would happen to their children.

I agree with anti, What's to talk about, it's haraam. If you don't like it cos it doesn't agree with your desires tough, Islam is submission to Allah's will, it's allah's will that the muslim women doesn't marry the man who hasn't taken shahada so what is your problem?