My husband get kissed today by 2 christian women

**touba** · 08-14-2009

Assalamou alaikoum,

Today i was out with my husband and in the street we meet his friend wifes and sister , my husband friend is muslim but married with non muslim woman christian and when they saw my husband the 2 women push my husband and kissed him in front of me even me i couldnt kiss them nor shake hands with them all i said hello please is this haram ?

**Tony** · 08-14-2009

I dont know why its acceptable to kiss and hug ppl who are friends let alone someones spouse. Even b4 I was Muslim this sort of contact made me feel very uncomfortable and unnescessary invasion of space, the wierd thing is, anyone I refused contact with generally veiwed me as th strange one !!! If it had happened to me in front of my wife, that would have been two more christians thrown to the lions for sure

**touba** · 08-14-2009

Originally Posted by Tony

I dont know why its acceptable to kiss and hug ppl who are friends let alone someones spouse. Even b4 I was Muslim this sort of contact made me feel very uncomfortable and unnescessary invasion of space, the wierd thing is, anyone I refused contact with generally veiwed me as th strange one !!! If it had happened to me in front of my wife, that would have been two more christians thrown to the lions for sure

brother what can i do they jumped on my husband i was afraid from them , you know is normal for christian women to kiss a man thats their culture and lifestyle and my husband didnt kiss them anyway but they forced him , I would like to know if it is haram ?

Jazakoum allah khayiran

**Tony** · 08-14-2009

Both of you did nothing wrong so I dont think you can have done anything haraam. Sister you dont need to be scared of christians, espescially kissy ones, I am sure its not normal part of christian behaviour

**touba** · 08-14-2009

Originally Posted by Tony

Both of you did nothing wrong so I dont think you can have done anything haraam. Sister you dont need to be scared of christians, espescially kissy ones, I am sure its not normal part of christian behaviour

Jazaka Allah khayiran brother

**markislam** · 08-15-2009

you should listen to Dr Zakir Naik on you tube he talks about this topic, just know it is not haram they did not do it in a bad way it is their culture.

**bamboozled** · 08-15-2009

Something similar happened to me.

I handed a gift to one of my friends Mums and she leaned in to give me a kiss on the cheek to say thanks.

You should just take the person aside, or better yet your husband and tell they you dont feel comfortable in such practices. Inshallah they will understand.

**Muslim Woman** · 08-15-2009

Originally Posted by touba

brother what can i do they jumped on my husband

either u or ur husband should have told them politely but firmly that it's not allowed in our religion ; we can't do that / can't accept this kind of greetings , sorry.

What if a Christian man tries to kiss u ? Surely u won't allow him to do that ? Remember it's haram .

**GreyKode** · 08-15-2009

Woe Woe guys, it is haram, your husband is muslim no?, he should know better, I keep saying this, quasi-muslim behaviour will only lead to trouble. Just like he won't allow any stranger man to kiss you sister so he should also avoid the kissing from other women.

You can't accept something that is in the culture of others that is haram, Islam comes first brothers and sisters.

May ALLAH guide us all and protect us from shaytan.

**markislam** · 08-15-2009

yes i agree but in this case this happened un expectantly how does one prepare for this

**Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн** · 08-15-2009

^^Something like that happened to me at my brothers graduation. Cause I know my brothers friend from high school and before I started practising. First he came to shake my hand and then leaned forward to kiss me on the cheek

I leaned back and he came further and I jus kept moving away

What sucks more is that my parents and brothers were there

They honestly do not know any better

**GreyKode** · 08-15-2009

Originally Posted by markislam

you should listen to Dr Zakir Naik on you tube he talks about this topic, just know it is not haram they did not do it in a bad way it is their culture.

Doing something that is haram out of ignorance will (god-willing) not be accounted as a sin, but we should stick to the right teachings of Islam, once we know that something is haram we should avoid it completely.
Plus, since the woman probably knew he was a muslim she shouldn't have a problem acting in accordance with his beliefs.
But, I suspect that this type of behaviour was encouraged(or at least not corrected) by your husband at some point earlier in their friendship and thus some of the blame falls on him too.

**Clover** · 08-15-2009

I have this happen all the time, I mean, it's not that weird. Of course, I'm not married lol.

**Cabdullahi** · 08-15-2009

Originally Posted by Light of Heaven

^^Something like that happened to me at my brothers graduation. Cause I know my brothers friend from high school and before I started practising. First he came to shake my hand and then leaned forward to kiss me on the cheek

I leaned back and he came further and I jus kept moving away

What sucks more is that my parents and brothers were there

They honestly do not know any better

ohh snap! if only you prepared donkey doo doo the night before wrapped up in tissue paper so just when he was about to kiss you'd move away and stick the tissue roll in his mouth

**Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн** · 08-15-2009

^^Dude that's just disgusting lol. What kind of dawah would I be giving

Nasteh.

**markislam** · 08-15-2009

that was nasty

Originally Posted by Abdullahii

ohh snap! if only you prepared donkey doo doo the night before wrapped up in tissue paper so just when he was about to kiss you'd move away and stick the tissue roll in his mouth

**Ummu Sufyaan** · 08-15-2009

wa alaykum us-Salaam

Originally Posted by touba

Assalamou alaikoum,

Today i was out with my husband and in the street we meet his friend wifes and sister , my husband friend is muslim but married with non muslim woman christian and when they saw my husband the 2 women push my husband and kissed him in front of me even me i couldnt kiss them nor shake hands with them all i said hello please is this haram ?

lol if someone doen that to my husband, they would be in biiiigggg trouble! and he would too! lol...

**aadil77** · 08-15-2009

Originally Posted by Abdullahii

ohh snap! if only you prepared donkey doo doo the night before wrapped up in tissue paper so just when he was about to kiss you'd move away and stick the tissue roll in his mouth

how old are you, 5?

best thing to do is duck dodge and dodge

**andgar** · 08-15-2009

asalamalakum

Then I messed up big time.

I recently met my girlfriend's mom, and when I greeted her there was this awkward moment where I wasn't sure whether to just shake her hand, and she got close to me in a 'hug' nice to meet you motion, and it was an awkward moment where I semi kissed her on the cheek. The same thing happened when I was saying goodbye to her, where we both kinda didn't know what to do, but again.... she was leaning over towards me in the 'hug' position.

I went to dinner with my gf, her friends and a few family members and when I was leaving them, I was shaking their hands. Her cousin, said we were family now (even tho I haven't married her cousin yet) and gave me a hug..... was that wrong?

I also thought that was more of a cultural etiquette rather than a religious one, but I'm still new to Islam so I might be wrong.

**Abdu-l-Majeed** · 08-15-2009

Originally Posted by markislam

you should listen to Dr Zakir Naik on you tube he talks about this topic, just know it is not haram they did not do it in a bad way it is their culture.

Originally Posted by Tony

Both of you did nothing wrong so I dont think you can have done anything haraam. Sister you dont need to be scared of christians, espescially kissy ones, I am sure its not normal part of christian behaviour

Please, stop talking things you don't know.

If Christians have their own culture, we, Muslims, have our own.

Originally Posted by touba

Assalamou alaikoum,

Today i was out with my husband and in the street we meet his friend wifes and sister , my husband friend is muslim but married with non muslim woman christian and when they saw my husband the 2 women push my husband and kissed him in front of me even me i couldnt kiss them nor shake hands with them all i said hello please is this haram ?

Wa alaykumus-Salam wa rahmatullah.

Yes, ukhtee, that is haram. Kissing, hugging or shaking hands with non-mahrams is haram, here's a Q&A.

I know it's sometimes hard to get out of such a situation, but it is NOT impossible. I thought: "Hey, they'll get offensed, they'll feel bad"... Firstly, that's not true at all! I personally never met anyone anyone who got offensed because I didn't want to shake hands. And what's even more important, we should be afraid for ourselves if we're not able to say a simple, polite sentence like "I'm sorry, but I don't shake with women, it's nothing personally, don't worry", out of fear of Allah's punishment and out of love of Allah.

Maybe not really related to this, but once a brother read to me an excerpt from one of Ibn al-Qayyims works, and theer was something liek this: Iblees, la'natullahi alayh, presents to us our loosening in your religion as being wise callers to Islam.