Is this hadith weak?

Assalamu alaykum,

No the hadith is sound.

The Prophet (saw) said that a man marries a woman for four reasons; her beauty, wealth, status and piety, but he should marry the one who is pious or he will be from the losers.


Then we have the hadith where the Prophet (saw) told a companion to go and look at the woman he had planned to marry, so that he can be satisfied with her looks.

These two hadiths tell us that a person should marry the one who is religious and with whose looks he is satisfied with.


If a man sought a woman for her piety, then after he saw her, he didn’t like her looks, he’d be rejecting a religious woman. It would be wrong to show interest in a religious woman then reject her due to her looks. But if he has already seen her first and is satisfied with her appearance, then he enquires about her piety and is not satisfied with it, he will be rejecting her because of her lack of religiousness, and that is the right reason to reject a woman for. Hence, this will prevent a man rejecting a religious woman due to her looks.

If it is not, then how can you reject a woman based on her lack of beauty even though her deen satisfied you?

If a person is married for their religiousness alone, and there is a lack of physical affection, it can lead to him looking at other women and can lead to fitnah. However, that does not mean that a person should marry for beauty alone either. Rather it means that a person should marry the one who is religious and with whose appearance they are pleased with. InshaAllah, I hope I explained it alright?

This is the best way to cite a hadith so the authenticity can't be questioned and a person can research the source.

Sahih Al-Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 27:

Narrated Abu Huraira:

The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a losers.

Ukh Umm ul-Shaheed:

I agree with you. But the reality is that the majority of people seek acceptance from others.

Self-Esteem for women is critical in nurturing a healthy relationship with husbands, instructing children, acknowledging and refusing to accept domestic abuse in a marriage, etc

The beauty of a person is entirely subjective and varies from culture to culture and region to region.

There are woman who are considered voluptuous and considered beautiful in one side of the world and in another totally unacceptable.

A person has to accept themselves first.

The beauty contest in Islam is a persons Din.

format_quote Originally Posted by AnonymousGender

One of the Salaf said, the meaning or less, 'Ask about her beauty first and if you are pleased with that, then ask about her religion. Then if you reject her, it is based on her religion. But if you ask about her deen and are satisfied and then reject her based on her beauty, you have rejected the one with good religion.'

If it is not, then how can you reject a woman based on her lack of beauty even though her deen satisfied you? Or am i misunderstanding it all together, its really confusing more then one brother used this hadith against me based on their reason for rejecting me.

ukhi cheer up. i think who ever quoted this hadith to you and then made there own interpretation on it was highly insensitive and arrogant.

what is beauty? beauty is being attractive to somebody. but being not attractive dose not mean that your an ugly duckling rather it means you could find like a million people who are attracted to you and a million people who are not and its the same for everybody.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and there are also many men in islam marry only that woman who is religious and do not care about her looks. i myself have seen that. these are wise and intelligent men because they know there wife has to raise the next generation of our ummah. there kids are not going to learn about islam by the mothers beauty lol

Also there is many people who are shallow to, so they will throw hadiths at you to hide that and make it sound that they are really following what is required of them when in fact they are not following anything thats right only what they themselves see as right for them.

and who ever chooses that woman who is not pious is a looser.

Scents of Jannah, jazakallahu khair you have explain it very clearly

Hanif Jazakallahu khair, i have seen the hadith many times but it never made sense to me and that is why i thought maybe it wasn't sound, and need further explanation on it.

Umm ul-shaheed, Jazakallahu kahir, no he is not worth it all and alhamdulilah i recognize that.

Cat eyes, jazakallahu khair sis, i was not hurt by him sending me the hadith at all because alhamdulilah i think iam fairly attractive i guess the brother was looking for hoor on earth or something. Its just that i became courious about the hadith because he was the second person i have seen using this hadith to reject a prospective. Not only do they use this hadith to reject, but also another one where the prophet(pbh) is asking a young man as to why he hasn't married a virgin so that he can play with her. Anyways kahir insha allah.