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    Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

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    I know it's embarrassing but I need a clarification on this
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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?



    Islam is the religion of Haya and attiquates. Although, technically it is not unacceptable but if considered in the light of Haya, the answer is NO.

    This question is asked due to seeing westerise culture all around where people are doing all the stuff which gentlemen do in the bedroom.

    If we imagine a society where a strict Hijab is followed and people are very much civilised (in Islamic aspect), can you imagine one can hug his/her wife/husband? Your answer will be simply NO.

    May Allah grant all of us Haya and hijab.
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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    Thank you very much for the reply
    Now I get a clear explanation regarding this issue

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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    No! you cannot give your wife a bear hug in public
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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    format_quote Originally Posted by burhanloey View Post
    I know it's embarrassing but I need a clarification on this
    Asalaamu Alaikum, there is no need for the enbarressment my brother if you don't ask then how will you know? According to Sheikh Mufti Ebrahim Desai:

    Islam is a religion of shame and modesty. We have our own value system. What is normal in people is not always in comformity with Islamic principles and values. There surely is no love like the love between the husband and wife. The husband and wife should also express their love for one another. However, that is a private matter between the two and not for public show. Why do we have to show or prove to people our love for our marriage partners. What will the partner achieve through their show? In fact, it would be hypocrisy to abuse the wife in the confines of the house and still express love for her in public places. Love between the husband and wife must be a real and honest one only for themselves and not for public show.

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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    I was thinking about this today

    but i was thinking is it ok for couples to hold hands
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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    format_quote Originally Posted by nightstar View Post
    I was thinking about this today

    but i was thinking is it ok for couples to hold hands
    Asalaamu Alaikum, it is not appropriate for Muslims to show any kind of affection to each other in public as this love and affection is a private matter just like the beauty of a women is a private matter only for the eyes of the husband then the beauty of the love and affection of partners must also only be for the eyes of the couple in the confines of their own homes and not the eyes of others.

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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Hamza81 View Post
    Asalaamu Alaikum, it is not appropriate for Muslims to show any kind of affection to each other in public as this love and affection is a private matter just like the beauty of a women is a private matter only for the eyes of the husband then the beauty of the love and affection of partners must also only be for the eyes of the couple in the confines of their own homes and not the eyes of others.

    And Allah knows best in all matters
    ws bro

    I always thought holding hands is a sign of protection for the wife, without over doing it. Allah knows best.
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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    format_quote Originally Posted by Yanoorah View Post
    ws bro

    I always thought holding hands is a sign of protection for the wife, without over doing it. Allah knows best.
    only when crossing the road...other than that she can keep her hands to herself
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    There is nothing wrong with holding hands, Subhaan Allaah stop making the religion hard for people.
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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    It's okay if the husband and wife holding hands in public, even if it's okay if the husband hugging his wife. As long as it is not with the intention of showing affection.

    For example, a husband and wife walking in the crowd and they holding hands to prevent them separated. Or husband hug his wife under an umbrella during heavy rains as a form of protection.
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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    Assalaamu alaikum,

    (smile) This is a question that seems to be raised quite a lot, I've noticed. And I think it really comes down to cultural understandings. And linguistic nuances.

    I remember some years ago visiting the Caucasus. And I was astonished to see a couple of male security guards, seemingly all over each other... out in public, at the airport! In Canada, if you see men just holding hands, this generally means they are homosexual. But this is not at all what it means in the Caucasus. It's just that in Caucasian cultures, it's normal for heterosexual men to show affection through physical contact. Affection, not sexuality, is what the touching is all about.

    In Canada, it is normal and usual for married couples to hold each other's hands, or walk arm-in-arm (indeed, if you see an older couple like this, it is cosidered very beautiful, and testament to the committment and deep healthiness of their marriage!). It's not just a question of security, but of affection. Not sexuality, affection.

    Of course, there are those (and I've seen this both here and the Caucasus) who express sexuality in public. It is not a social norm, but it happens. Within certain limits, in Canada, it is not illegal (that I know of), so people generally avert their eyes and try to ignore the embarassing behaviour. We too feel that such acts are best kept to private spaces. Outside of certain limits, it is actually illegal, and people can be prosecuted (indeed, there was a case in the news just recently about this).

    If a husband and wife are holding hands in a caring way, in a society that understands this gesture as one of caring and not sexuality, I do not know of any ahadith that prohibit this. Indeed, I have read in the past that the Prophet (SAWS) displayed his care of his wives in public (unfortunately, I don't have the references; if anyone has knowledge of these, I'd be grateful for them to post them).

    There are cultures that interpret any sort of public show even of affection as scandalous. (smile) And if I lived in those cultures, I would try to take care not to offend local sensitivities. But in Canadian culture, it is not only acceptable to show care, but it is actually subtly not-well-seen to be too distant towards your spouse; it signals to people that there is either unkindness in the relationship, or that the marriage is in trouble. So as I live here, I would try not to upset these particular local sensitivities.


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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    Indonesia maybe is unique case. In Indonesia is common if a guy holding hand with his girlfriend, or even hug her in public. But if married couple holding hands or hugging in public not with the reasons that I've described in my previous post, it's considered as 'unusual'.
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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    The MuslimOfAmerica team would agree with the opinion to not do it unless it is a common and widely accepted thing in the society you live in. If however the reason for holding hands is so that the wife and husband can stay together and not get lost from each other in a crowded area then it should be fine.
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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    format_quote Originally Posted by ~ Sabr ~ View Post


    There is nothing wrong with holding hands, Subhaan Allaah stop making the religion hard for people.
    What's so hard about not holding hands?
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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    really no hugging??
    the values desrcibed by the shiekh..were they tribal arab values or muslim values?
    perhaps even the non muslims at the time of the prophet had to concept of 'PDA'

    i was hoping for a better clarification
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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

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    Re: Can a muslim hug their wife/husband in the public?

    Hmm in Pakistan it is not encouraged at all. But I personally think its alright. As long as it is decent. not to long.
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