For Allah sake any body can help me

Akhi quote for me the question you want me to help you with , please would ya?

you said that you don`t want see doctors anymore, and what should you do?

honestly, I don`t know...

I don`t want to cause you any harm...but I believe that what you have from issues could be cured without doctors and this is my own opinion...

I believe that all mental problems have one cure...and its is to submit to Allah completely and that by reading Quraan and following its commandments and you will never ever find a doctor like Qur`aan ever...

Allah says:"O mankind, there has to come to you instruction from your Lord and healing for what is in the breasts and guidance and mercy for the believers. (57) " Surat Yunus.

and says:"And We send down of the Qur'an that which is healing and mercy for the believers, but it does not increase the wrongdoers except in loss. (82" Surat Al Israa.

and about the fears you have; they won`t be cured with medications but with you yourself after Allah; you need to face all your fears by yourself to be freed from them all...in shaa Allah...

hope this helps it has some nice tips for overcoming depression

As-salamu `alaykum.

I know that this is a bad thing to say, but I feel like it is inevitable that I will die by suicide. It is not that I want to, but depression runs in my family. Two of my uncles committed suicide and I am often very depressed for no reason. Please tell me how I can avoid this fate. When I am depressed I feel like I have no control over myself. I am quite a good student, but I have become so depressed lately that I am not going to school or doing my homework. Please give me some advice as soon as possible
Wa `alaykum as-salamu wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Dear brother in Islam, we are pleased by receiving your question, for it reflects your conviction of the fact that Islam offers workable solutions to the world’s complicated problems. May Allah guide the perplexed people to the light of Islam!

As for your question, a Muslim should never surrender to depression, despair, or evil thoughts. A Muslim should resort to Allah and seek His help against these evils. At the same time, medical treatment should not be ignored.

Responding to your question, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:


It is most likely that you are suffering from a serious form of depression; it is important that you seek immediate medical help. Get in touch with your family doctor and he will refer you to a specialist in this field.

Islam teaches us never to despair of Allah’s mercy. So do not ever lose hope, but do what is necessary in order to take care of your health. This involves consulting doctors, obtaining treatment and taking medication. Since Allah has ordered us to take care of our health, it is our religious duty to seek medical attention in order to save ourselves from self-destruction. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Verily your body has rights; your soul has rights and your Lord has rights… so give each one his/her due.”

Depression is a very serious condition and unless treated correctly it could be fatal, so do not wait to obtain proper treatment: While doing so, you should also be consistent in resorting to spiritual healing. Here are a few things you may practice on a consistent basis:

1) Be diligent in performing your salah; Salah, when done consciously and with full awareness, will prove to be a true source of spiritual healing and it is the best way to obtain relief from stress.

2) Before retiring to bed every day, read surat Al-Fatihah and the last three surahs of the Qur’an and blow into your hands and wipe over your whole body, preferably three times. You may also repeat the same at other times of the day or night as you wish.

3) Try to read at least ten verses of the Qur’an every day.

4) Listen to the Qur’an as much as possible; try to play a recording of the Qur’an at all times.

5) Keep yourself busy doing something beneficial, for a mind that is not occupied with good things will most likely be occupied with idle matters; remember if you do not keep yourself busy with good works, Satan will make sure to keep you busy with his negative and destructive work.

6) Say the following supplications (du`a's) while believing in their efficacy, and expecting cure and relief from Allah:

Allahummarahmataka arju fala takilnee ila nafsee tarfata `ayn; wa aslih lee sha'nee kullahu, la ilaha illa anata(O Allah! I implore Your grace and mercy; so do not leave me to my own devices even for a single instant!)

La ilaha illa Allah al-`azeem al-haleem, la ilaha illa Allah rabbu al-`arshi al-`azeem, la ilaha illa Allahu rabbu al-ssamawati wa al-ardhi wa rabbu al-`arshi al-kareem(There is no god but Allah, the Great, the Clement; there is no god but Allah, Lord of the Mighty Throne; there is no god but Allah, Lord of the heavens and the earth, and Lord of the Mighty Throne.)

Allahummainnee `abduka, ibnu `abdik, ibn amatik, nasiyatee bi yadika, qadin fiyya hukmuka, `adlun fiyya qada'uka; as'aluka bi kull ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fee kitabika aw `allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista`tharta bihi fee `ilmi al-ghaybi `indaka an taj`ala al-Qur'ana rabee`a qalbee wa noora basaree wa jila`a huznee wa dhahaba hammee(O Allah! I am Your servant; son of Your servant, son of Your maid-servant; my forelock is under Your firm grip; Your decree is firmly established in my case; Your rule is just in my case. I ask You, invoking every single name You possess, with which You have called Yourself, or You have revealed in Your scripture, or instructed any of Your creation or You have kept hidden in the realm of the unseen with You, to make the Qur’an the spring of my heart, the light of my eyes, and an alleviator of my grief and a dispeller of my worries!)

May Allah grant you a complete recovery and healing, for He is indeed the Healer and the Curer-ameen.

you have your brothers and sisters on this forum and most importantly you have Allah so no need to feel like all hope is lost

Since you feel all of these negative emotions I am sure there are many that are in your shoes as well
so instead of complaining about how noone helps why not change that?
you could try to start a group/organization...it could even be an online group of some sort to help muslim homosexuals?...maybe even heterosexuals can join.
You all can help each other stay on the straight path and support one another as muslims.

It would help you personally and others as well.

But if you cant start one find one online (im sure theres a few) and join there

format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah

to S.belle,

where I have to join .

I dont know try google and search for a support group
brother qatada posted a link on the first page to a blog you should check it out as well.

if your not able to find one then start your own to help others and yourself.

just a thought bro but dont u have to accept something before you can overcome it?
u have desires for the same gender accept that but dont act out those desires (Allah does not punish us for our desires but by our intentions). once u have accept overcome ur homosexual desires by praying to Allah to take those desires out of ur heart
surround urself with good muslims who can help u stay on the right path and teach u more about islam

format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah

assala mu aliqum . " Amat Allah " I don't want to meet any doctor who support homosexuality . I am ready to meet a doctor who can help me to over come from homosexuality , who don't advice me or counseling me to enjoy my life in wrong way . I need to meet a person or doctor or any thing which can help me to overcome from homosexuality rather then supporting it . Who can understand me .

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

we all understand what you want my respected brother and I have told ya who the best doctor for ya...just if you would listen and act upon what we have told ya to do....

my respected brother return to Qur`aan and surely, you will find the cure...Allah doesn`t want or love evil for His slaves, but the evil is from ourselves within ourselves and we need to beat it by the fear of Allah`s punishment and the desire of His pleasure and love...

satan is seeing now how you are trying and striving to please Allah and he is trying to disappoint you in all possible ways...my noble brother please don`t listen to him; he only wants to drag us all with him to hellfire...

read Qur`aan and understand it and follow its commandments and in shaa Allah you will find happiness ...your soul is hugry and you already have its food my respected brother and it is the rememberance of Allah, Qur`aan, paryers and repentance so, feed it before it dies...

what would you win from suiciding?...do you want to lose this life and the Hereafter life? I tried in the past many times to suicide , and what i have gained? nothing but more misery and deppression...the happiness path was always in front of my eyes but I used to choose the losers path...depression and thinking of ending my life which Allah gave me as a trust and ordered me to mantain it till He takes it again...

I used to be alone in the darkness, lost, depressed, hating my self and lost in sinning away from my Lord for years...and none was there to help me, none stood by my side , none took my hand and others were wishing me harmness and accusing me with things that I am not...telling me that I am a mistake ...Astagferoullah...

who wrapped me with his mercy and kindness? who is the one who was my protector? who is the one who used to watch me listen to me?............none but Allah...and when? He was always there for me but I was blind to see and feel ; giving my self many excuses striving to get people`s help and forgot about the Lord of people and what i have got? nothing but loss...

in the past; it was hard for me to shed tears and I was suffering from chest pain because of this; moving on my bed paining and feeling rage and feeling like my head and my heart are going to explode from anger from depression and used to spit on mirror when I see my face...Astagrefoullah... but when I started praying, when I left all my past sins behind me when I started reading Qur`aan understanding it following its commandments , when I left the whole world all its pleasures and everything in it; heading to my Lord with repentance crying for His help I found Him full of mercy and kindness waiting for me...laa ilaha illa Allah...I changed 180 degree, whom will see me in the past won`t believe that I am the same person and Alhamdulillah for that and May Allah keep us all firm on His straight path of Al Haqq Ameeeeeeeen

what are you waiting for? why not running to Allah The One Who will cure all your illnesses and heals all your pain? why to connect your fate and happiness to mortal people and things while you have The Ever-living the One Who knows you well and Knows all your needs? why to wait from human to draw for ya the guidance lines while Allah had drew them for ya in Quraan and Sunnah?

my respected brother, I got the help from none but been beaten, used and insulted and none gave me his/ her hand to pull me out from the hell pit but The One indeed laaa ilaha ill Allah...

and you now have many people here supporting you my respected brother many people care for you and this is out of Allah`s Mercy, this is a great blessings from Allah so, take the cahnces you have in your hand and make them useful for Allah`s sake....

yes, we are here to help ya but after Allah my noble brother...everyone here gives you his/ her advice and support .. they are so lovely trying their best to take the hand of their beloved brother whom they treasure respect and wish him all happiness...and we will never stop trying to help but you my noble brother have to know that Allah comes always first always and forever and nothing would happen but by His willing...want success, the peace of mind and heart ; run to your Lord; return to Him; complain to Him; cry and tell Him everything; ask His help; ask His mercy and guidance and never let satan deceive you ever...seek Allah`s refuge from satan and keep walking in Allah`s path ; the straight path in shaa Allah...

May Allah guide you and make you from His righteous and pious slaves Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen

take care of yourself and never give up cause you are not a loser as I believe...

humbly, your sister who wishes you all happiness:

Amat Allah

format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah

my dear sister " S.Belle "

How do I know who is good Muslim or bad Muslim ? if you mean to say who is keeping beard and offer Salah those are good Muslim then, I request you to think once again . keeping thoughts about same sex not act on it and stay with full of same sex interested people ,its almost impossible.

I guess I need professional help . I am just riding without knowing direction .

I mean good muslims by their character and how they behave just bc someone has beard or wears hijab doesnt mean they are good muslims.
Once you meet people (maybe at masjid) and you hang outside of masjid then you will see if they are the type of people that you need in your life.
For example those who incourage you to do what is right, to remember Allah, etc. would be helpful in your life.

When I said accept the fact you have homosexual desires....its kinda like an alcoholic when they go to AAA meeting the first thing they have them to do is introduce themselves and have them acknowledge the fact that they are an alcoholic that is what i meant by accept it.

acknowledge the fact that you have homosexual desires and accept it to the point where you will not beat yourself up for having them and yet at the same time you dont act upon those desires. We all have desires and the only way we can overcome them completely is by turning to Allah and asking him to help us.
Dont even allow yourself to become too attracted to those of the same sex if you find yourself thinking in your head those thoughts then stop yourself and lower your gaze so that it can not even began.

assala mu aliqum my brothers and sisters ! I would like to give you special thanks to " Amat Allah and S,Belle "

Wa Alikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh

you are very wellcome my respected brother...

I am sorry to say you that, I could not control the tendency of suicide, So I have forced to meet my old psychiatrist . He give me medicine . I am feeling relax now . But the problem is; I am becoming very horny . I am again extremely sorry that I could not safe my self from masturbation . There are high possibility to have illegal sex If I could not done masturbation . What to do ?

do some sport instead of masturbation or go for a run outside the house and please read here May Allah be pleased with you Ameen:

http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-s...terbation.html

second thing , I like to keep myself very neat and clean . I do aroma bath , I do trimming my underarms and pubic areas , I wear very attractive underwear . And I feel good and happy . I would like to share my happiness with some one. And guys are likes my body shape because my body is very much proportionate and macho muscular , my manly aromatic body , they like my attractive underwear. But now I am thinking whom do I share my this feeling . Because girls are may not like all those things . I have seen in generally females likes very ordinary, passionless guys only . Whom do I share my those felling If I could become straight ?

who told ya that? girls love neat and clean men and The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and his Sahabah (May Allah be pleased with them) used to take care of themselves for their wives...if you are ready for marriage; ask your precious stepmother to find you a wife in shaa Allah...May Allah grant you the perfect match who will make you the happiest after Allah Ameeeeeen

Third thing, I often forget my goal, I often forget to lower my gaze . And I feel some thing is pooling me towards to male . In my case lower gaze is working like a magic . My same sex attraction cant harm much if I keep lower my gaze , but the problem is I often forget to keep lower my gaze . And I keep remembering my past which are regretting me and make me sad .

its ok, we all forget sometimes, just try your best to be better and better andtry to carry in your pocket a small Mus`haff (Qur`aan) and whenever you feel something take it out , open it and read, that surely will help in shaa Allah as a reminder...May Allah be with you Ameen

forth thing, My willpower is very less . Environment and situation are very much affecting me. I start flowing my self according to environment . If I get Islamic environment I start becoming a pure Muslim. If I get wrong environment I start becoming wrong . I guess this is not good . How can I make strong willpower ?

let your honesty and sincerety of becoming a real and pure Muslim lead your way after Allah, my respected brother pull yourself together and try your best to concentrate on the real purpose of you being created and if you would let all of this world and what in it out of your head then you will never care for the world and everything in it, my respected brother let the fire inside you take you directly to Allah, walk on the straight path and don`t left or right just a head and you can do it in shaa Allah, you are strong enough to do it, you were so brave coming here talking about your proble and taking many steps to change your self so, keep going and never let anything or anyone stop you ...May Allah help you and give you more strength Ameeeeeeen

fifth thing, Whatever improvement happened on me that is for your supports Insha Allah . I need your supports continuously . So please forgive me if I have done any mistake or if I do any mistake . please let me know if I do any mistake . I hope you understood what I mean . Thank you . Please pray for me . so that Allah accept me . I believe , if Allah accept me; who has dare to ignore me

whatever improvement happens with you then it is from Allah and out of His Mercy may Allah accept you , be pleased with you and make you amongst His best righteous and pious servants and slaves Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeen.
you are forgiven always and forever tho you hurt none of us but always were to kind and respected May Allah bless you and protect you from all harms Ameeeeeeen

take care of yourself my noble brother in shaa Allah...

leaving you under Allah`s sight, care and protection...

Humbly:

Amat Allah.

format_quote Originally Posted by hopeonallah

I may keeping a vain hope . I may wasting my as well as your time . I don't know whats going on with me . I just tell you that I am really tired . I cant bear any more . I am too tired . I want to sleep . I want to a long sleep . long and long sleep . I don't want to wake up any more . I don't want to see any more this painful world . I need relax . Living alone is very painful. By hearing this pain cant understand . It can be understand by experience only . All human being have company , all type of animal also have company . I am the only one species who does not have any company . No one can understand my pain . No one has time for it . every body have their own problem . some one busy for their happiness . some one busy with their needs . I am a very funny . I should understand why people give attention towards me . Who I am ? I am really funny . I am worst . I am waste . I am itself a hell .

Astaghfero allah Al Atheem...

don`t say this about yourself my respevted brother , WaAllahi you are so precious to usand you try to visit your stepmother so much stay with her talk to her and tell her that you feel lonely, she might find you a wife ...

please we are here with you in shaa Allah, sometimes I don`t reply to you directly because I don`t have any Idea in how to help ya and how to answer your Questions in a helpful way trying not to give you false advices...by Allah, be strong ; you are not lonely you have Allah before everyone and everything... my respected brother, what is your hobby? what do you like to do??

look for example : I love drawing and specially for those whom I love , treasure and respect and surely you are one of them May Allah be pleased with you....Ameeen

Humbly here you are the link: http://www.islamicboard.com/creative...ml#post1422625

so, what is your hobby? tell us about it? there must be something...and what are your interests? what your fave colors , places , fruits..etc...

try your best to utilize of what you have ,what you love and what you fave too

share with us and talk with us more about things you love to have and to do...empty your heart and feel free in shaa Allah...tell us how do you feel about Allah Islam and the Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings of Allah be upon him...explore your self from inside and you will find so much wonders in shaa Allah and believe me after Allah and trying to be His true slave and what I have mentioned above you will be happy in shaa Allah...

May Allah protect you from all harms Ameeeeeen and don`t say such things about yourself and never think about such bad things , you are higher than what you are thinking and your life and soul are so precious to be wasted just like that....

we all love you unconditionaly, deeply and endlessly for the sake of Allah and never think that we don`t care for you and you said you are feeling lonely and we don`t know how you feel...but I am telling you that we know how you feel and we have felt that before but after knowing Allah we are not anymore... try to fill your days with Allah`s rememberance and also with what Allah has blessed you with...

May Allah help us to help ya right and be good brothers and sisters to you Ameeeeeeeeen