Re: Do parents have a right to make marriage "haraam" for Son if he is not millionair
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My father had passed away. But if my father still alive, I still have to do the nikah procession without wali. Bro, Who said a man should have a wali at nikah?
So you will face the consequences of your disobedience which would create ill-feelings between yourself and your father ?.
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Re: Do parents have a right to make marriage "haraam" for Son if he is not millionair
A male must do nikah procession without wali. He must say Ijab Qabul by himself, different that female who needs a wali to say Ijab Qabul.
How many times I must tell you about it?.Sure you can say the ijabul qabul yourself in the absence of your father ofcourse in the wedding ceremony But what if your parents were to turn you away from your house as they wanted you to either earn like a millionaire or marry a woman from a family which would pay a high dowry i know dowry is haraam but then again are you willing to break of ties with your parents as they are committing a sin ?Breaking of ties with the family itself is a sinWould you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight.” (47:22-23)“ He does not enter Paradise he who breaks up his family ties”. (Bukhari)Isnt it some what of a catch 22 situation ?
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Re: Do parents have a right to make marriage "haraam" for Son if he is not millionair
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How many times I must tell you about it?.Sure you can say the ijabul qabul yourself in the absence of your father ofcourse in the wedding ceremony But what if your parents were to turn you away from your house as they wanted you to either earn like a millionaire or marry a woman from a family which would pay a high dowry i know dowry is haraam but then again are you willing to break of ties with your parents as they are committing a sin ?Breaking of ties with the family itself is a sinWould you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship? Such are they whom Allah has cursed, so that He has made them deaf and blinded their sight.” (47:22-23)“ He does not enter Paradise he who breaks up his family ties”. (Bukhari)Isnt it some what of a catch 22 situation ?
If you are financially independent, you don't need to afraid about a place for living with your wife. You can rent a small cabin.
If your father cut his family ties with you, this is not your fault. As long as you still recognize him as your father, you always respect him, and you always try to make a reconciliation, it's means you do not cut your family ties with your father.
But if you talk about dowry, .... I am sorry, I am not familiar with it. I am from different culture. I hope someone from your culture can gives you a better advice.
Re: Do parents have a right to make marriage "haraam" for Son if he is not millionair
My problem is exactly the same as IloveAllah in the below thread except that I didnt get married fearing my parents will do exactly what his parents did islamicboard.com/advice-support/134311951-marriage-child-conflict-parents-need-islamic-advice-do-whats-right.htmlIloveAllah , welcome to the materialistic parents club , buddy
Brothers and Sisters, what should I do? My instinct is telling me to take care of my son and wife but I feel hurt that my parents want to cut ties with me just because I do not want to let them go but I believe it is haram to abandon a woman and your baby.
This is exactly the sort of point which I was trying to make. bro, Thank you very much for putting this across in your thread.Hence I would like some islamic advice on how to deal with such materialistic parents of iloveallah and not just rants about why man dont need a wali
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Re: Do parents have a right to make marriage "haraam" for Son if he is not millionair
This is a serious issue and i really need some answers . i want to know if i can go to the extent of seeking police protection from my materialistic parents in a similar manner as shown in the news articles below articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2012-02-03/mysore/31020685_1_inter-caste-marriage-marriageable-age-police-protectionarticles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2011-08-27/coimbatore/29935783_1_inter-caste-marriage-police-protection-dalit-family
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