Wife forced into marriage. Askin for seperaion. I love her. How to convince her???

format_quote Originally Posted by AHJ1

Assalamu-Alaikum,

I am an Indian Muslim.
I got married to this beautiful and amazing girl last year. She is very nice and I am madly in love with my wife. I thank Allah for giving me such a wonderful life partner.

Our relationship had a bumpy beginning though. Our engagement was broken initially because of some misunderstanding. But after a lot of efforts from both sides we ended up marrying each other . I was very happy.
But the happiness was short-lived as I realized that my wife was never in the favor of this alliance and was forced by her parents.
My in-laws are highly religious, educated and open-minded people. I never expected that they would force their daughter. I was devastated on knowing it.

Even though our marriage had happened against her will my wife tried her level best to make up. Her behavior towards me and my family is good. During the initial days of our marriage we shared a very good chemistry (at least i felt so.). But since she has been hurt badly by her family she is often disturbed and sad. The past events haunt her all the time. She is finding it difficult to cope up.She is in depression and seeking psychiatric counseling for her condition. But nothing seems to work so far. She is now asking for a separation as she thinks that is the only solution for her problem.

All this has left me heart broken. I love my wife as much I love my parents. She has become integral part of my life. Initially seeing her condition I agreed for a separation.
But the sheer thought of separation itself is killing me now. I have realized that I have a lot of affection for her and can't imagine my life without her.

Even my family has no problems with her. In fact they are fond of my wife.And they too are very sad with these developments.

From last few months our relationship is not like a normal married couple (no physical intimacy). We are living like friends. In fact I think we are very good friends. We have a very healthy communication, we cook together, we eat together and enjoy doing many activities together. But whenever I try to talk to her about marriage she gets sad and gloom.

I tried to understand the reasons for her rejection of this relationship. Out of the many other factors she has some problem with my behavior as well. I am a straight forward and honest person. I rarely think before making any comment and try to be honest every time. Because of this habit I have hurt many people unintentionally especially my wife on few occasions. She tried to explain me but I never understood. This has made a bad impression on her and she feels we are incompatible enough to part away. I tried to assure her that I will change and I am trying very hard. But she is more than convinced that I wont change and the relationship is doomed.

I love her very much and I am ready to do anything for her. How do I convince her???

Also how do I handle this situation.
On one hand I love her and on the other hand I cant see her suffer. And she is suffering because of our marriage.

Please guide me. I request for dua!!

Asslamu alaikum brother,

I pray you are well.

I am messaging because I came across this post. I pray things are well.

I hope you receive this message and take the time out to reply.

I am currently going through the exact same situation you described in your post. I am really depressed about the situation and don't know what to do.

I wanted to find out what happened with your situation in the end? Did you make things work or not?

And is there any advise you can give me?

I will really appreciate you taking the time out to reply. May Allah reward you and bless you.

Jazakallah Khair