Parents forcing me to marry woman of their choice (OP)
My parents are emotionally blackmailing me into marrying girl who is very fat and ugly. Only because her family has promised a heavy dowry and big car.They have already accepted the marriage offer. If they force marriage on me , I will file for divorce and this will really upset my parents and they will commit suicide I am confused what to do. Please suggest
akhi,
she's not unattractive through any fault of her own no matter how you slice it. Perhaps she really is beautiful but her parents are desperate to rid of her? We're only getting one side of the story, anon' side, and he hasn't established credibility to his case by name calling another human being. Please try to put yourself in her place, she is probably a victim of this just the same, not only are her parents putting monetary value to her like a bad product they're trying to remove off the shelf, completely stripping her of her God bestowed self-worth which includes denying Allah swt's laws but the fellow to whom they're trying to sell her to has already decided that she has no accolades beyond her ugliness and obesity.
I don't want to labor the issue. I think it is quite fair that someone 'trolls' him although it isn't my intent and Allah swt knows of my intentions but he needs to gain a little perspective. Him and his parents alike!
I have said "without intention to insult". but maybe subconsciously I had insulted that girl. Okay, it's my fault because I was affected by the OP story which he said that girl parents offer dowry and big car to his parents. So, I made conclusion, that girl parents want to buy a husband for her. Usually case like this happened because there's no any man who wanted to marry their daughters.
If I said "that girl is really unattractive", actually that refer to her ability to maintain appearance, not to something that given by Allah (physical). No, sis, I never want to insult what Allah created.
Do you know sis? I was the "ugly fatty" when I was teenager.
Re: Parents forcing me to marry woman of their choice
format_quote Originally Posted by ardianto
Do you know sis? I was the "ugly fatty" when I was teenager.
That's a subjective thing. You don't need to put yourself down, when there's a host of folks keen on doing that for you anyway, and that amongst other things is my 'beef' with the OP plus just how inane the whole thing is.
al7mdullilah that you don't wish to insult what Allah swt created. I hope he finds himself someone whom he'll find happiness with and in shaa Allah she also deserves better than someone calling her fat and ugly.
As for poverty or killing oneself for cash.. It is Allah swt that provides.
Sometimes a person has to rough it and even though Ramadan comes but once a year and so poorly met by many as a chore, this is in fact how so many live their lives all year round we should all take a license of the allowances Allah swt granted to mold our character.
Re: Parents forcing me to marry woman of their choice
heard plenty of this in here - in sub-continent.... also the in-laws who want to secure the guy for their daughter... they even go to extent of spoiling other marriage offers which are coming to that guy....
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