Why Do My Dua Never Get Accepted?

format_quote Originally Posted by Nitro Zeus

Why you can’t sleep well? Trust me on this, it will work, I have read about this. But there’s still no guarantee that you’ll get it but you must have strong faith and confidence and trust in Him and live the rest up to God.

I have neighbours that are extreme jaheels. Think constantly slamming doors, day in day out, all day. It normally stops at about 1am but that doesn't mean someone will not wake up and go to the bathroom and slam all the doors again. My poor nephews are scared of coming here due to the noise.

The Police can't do anything. The local Council say "it's their house and they can do what they like". As "Muslims", you would have thought they would have some akhlaq, but no.

I know you will be shouting "move out", but my Mom will not move and she is elderly and poorly and there's my problem. I can't just ditch her (oh trust me, I would love to and I have even thought about it, but I am not that callous) and move out because there will be no one to look after her.

format_quote Originally Posted by Nitro Zeus

I’m so sorry to hear this, if I were you I would tell to others “stop making noises, some people are trying to sleep!!!” Be tough in these situations, sometimes you have to be bad in order to get what you want. Or, if no, try to ignore, put the headphones in your ears and put your favorite music and sleep. Or, take something that will make you feel sleepy in such that when you close your eyes, you will fall asleep and you’ll not hear anything till the morning and the problem is solved, I suppose. I hope this advice is good.

If they had any humanity they would close doors not bang them. We've tried speaking to them about it but they only slam more.

I know this is my test but I am really struggling with it.

I do have ear phones on in my bedroom every night. Otherwise a loud door slam will end up in a panic attack. I've also been on sleeping tablets for a long time but they don't make any difference.

I've found a forum where people suffering from nightmare neighbours chat and that has helped me a lot.

What I would do for some peace though.

Thanks for your help.

format_quote Originally Posted by hisnameiszzz

I have neighbours that are extreme jaheels. Think constantly slamming doors, day in day out, all day. It normally stops at about 1am but that doesn't mean someone will not wake up and go to the bathroom and slam all the doors again. My poor nephews are scared of coming here due to the noise.

The Police can't do anything. The local Council say "it's their house and they can do what they like". As "Muslims", you would have thought they would have some akhlaq, but no.

I know you will be shouting "move out", but my Mom will not move and she is elderly and poorly and there's my problem. I can't just ditch her (oh trust me, I would love to and I have even thought about it, but I am not that callous) and move out because there will be no one to look after her.

Brother .. did you come back to islam ??
It seems like you are suffering from mass it means jinns.
Csn I ask you something ?
Does your neighbors practice sihr ?? If no ... have you ever you or one of yiur family do such things like reading books of sihr or some of those practicing things ??
So I think you have to do rukyah you and your whole family
Another thing you can say
Allahumma kfinihim bima shieta wa kayfa shieta innaka ala kulli shayin kadeer
اللهم اكفنيهم بما شئت وكيف شئت انك علی كل شيء قدير
Do know that this life is nothing
Ask yourself where is my grandparents and them grandparent ... all they passed away and we will also ..
So ... try to see how much things you have while others don't have but they are so happy
You know if you don't appreciate the "small" things that you have you will never be happy with the things that you don't
Because you also have something that is a dreams for someone else
Try to think of your eyes are they not a big gift many people wish to have ??
Your hands you understanding ... a lot of things
Brother as one who used to have panic attacks ... I can tell you that i start to know that everything can be a good ... even that years with those panic
You know why ??
Because before that I wasn't think that I have something in my life
I was thinking that I am the unhappy person in this world
But after that problem I repent to allah and promised him to be a good muslim if my suffering stoped
And after that my problem became to heal gradually.
Till allah take away everything from me alhamdulillah
But after that I became another person
My patient my life my understanding of this dunya my happiness because when I just think of the peace of mind I get with my repentance I know that allah can give you to test you and can take away from you somethings for your benefit.
But you can't know this now ... but after a time of trying to accept your situation and trying to change what you can change into the best .

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format_quote Originally Posted by hisnameiszzz

I have neighbours that are extreme jaheels. Think constantly slamming doors, day in day out, all day. It normally stops at about 1am but that doesn't mean someone will not wake up and go to the bathroom and slam all the doors again. My poor nephews are scared of coming here due to the noise.

The Police can't do anything. The local Council say "it's their house and they can do what they like". As "Muslims", you would have thought they would have some akhlaq, but no.

I know you will be shouting "move out", but my Mom will not move and she is elderly and poorly and there's my problem. I can't just ditch her (oh trust me, I would love to and I have even thought about it, but I am not that callous) and move out because there will be no one to look after her.

Brother .. did you come back to islam ??
It seems like you are suffering from mass it means jinns.
Csn I ask you something ?
Does your neighbors practice sihr ?? If no ... have you ever you or one of yiur family do such things like reading books of sihr or some of those practicing things ??
So I think you have to do rukyah you and your whole family
Another thing you can say
Allahumma kfinihim bima shieta wa kayfa shieta innaka ala kulli shayin kadeer
اللهم اكفنيهم بما شئت وكيف شئت انك علی كل شيء قدير
Do know that this life is nothing
Ask yourself where is my grandparents and them grandparent ... all they passed away and we will also ..
So ... try to see how much things you have while others don't have but they are so happy
You know if you don't appreciate the "small" things that you have you will never be happy with the things that you don't
Because you also have something that is a dreams for someone else
Try to think of your eyes are they not a big gift many people wish to have ??
Your hands you understanding ... a lot of things
Brother as one who used to have panic attacks ... I can tell you that i start to know that everything can be a good ... even that years with those panic
You know why ??
Because before that I wasn't think that I have something in my life
I was thinking that I am the unhappy person in this world
But after that problem I repent to allah and promised him to be a good muslim if my suffering stoped
And after that my problem became to heal gradually.
Till allah take away everything from me alhamdulillah
But after that I became another person
My patient my life my understanding of this dunya my happiness because when I just think of the peace of mind I get with my repentance I know that allah can give you to test you and can take away from you somethings for your benefit.
But you can't know this now ... but after a time of trying to accept your situation and trying to change what you can change into the best .

Never give up..Never surrender... Everything is going to be alright..Always be hopeful...

All my friends tell me to move out. As I have explained, my Mom will not move (her husband was very manipulative and controlling - he kept her locked up at home and never let her out) so I can understand where she is coming from. But living next to these animals is making me ill. It's also affecting her a lot. She has lost a lot of weight, her hair is falling out. I know she is getting old but the noise stresses her. Each time the animals slam a door or bang something, she looks at the clock in a frightened manner.

I'm stuck in between a rock and a hard place. My head says just move. My heart says don't (if I go, who will look after Mom and cook and clean).

The noise is always going to be bad. The house we live in is poorly built and the animals we live next door to have no understanding of Huquqool Ibaad or Akhlaq, no two ways about it. However, if you were to ask our neighbours on the other side, they would tell you they don't hear a sound from us. We close doors, not slam them. We walk up and down steps, not pound up and down. We don't purposefully bang things against the wall to frighten them.

The more I think about it, the more upset I get. I rarely get any sleep and it's late at night that Satan comes to talk to me and whispers all kinds of things into my head. I think this is one of the reasons my faith went. I have no one to talk to. My non Muslim friends do not talk about religion. My Muslim friends are Muslim by name only - they've suggested I go and drink with them and go dancing and forget about all my worries, lol.

I just don't know what to do anymore.

format_quote Originally Posted by *charisma*

I'm just thinking of how you've left islam during a time when you're reaping all of these rewards from this hardship

Seriously though..do you think there's a small possibility that your mom will warm up to a new place after she moves in?? Does she ever leave the house at all? I mean it could start off as a staying there for few hours a day to spending one night there per week..you know, sort of slowly acclimating her to the new place until she is fully comfortable without her feeling that she has to commit to it right away?

I know where you are coming from kind sister but the Satan's whispers got too much for me. I feel ashamed but it is what it is. I'm not happy about it but I am not.

She won't move out. We've been there and done that. I even put an offer on a small 2 bedroomed house but had to pull out because she stopped talking to me and each time I mentioned moving, she just completely ignored me like I did not exist. I've been showing her pictures of bungalows but she just glazes over and stops talking to me for days on end.

She rarely goes out unless it is a hospital appointment. She has really bad arthritis and her left leg completely freezes up quite often so I have to lift her down the stairs. It's actually really sad. I just want her to be happy and to be able to relax and enjoy her later years but it's not possible in this house.

Thanks so much for replying. Your response means a lot and I do appreciate it.

format_quote Originally Posted by hisnameiszzz

I know where you are coming from kind sister but the Satan's whispers got too much for me. I feel ashamed but it is what it is. I'm not happy about it but I am not.

She won't move out. We've been there and done that. I even put an offer on a small 2 bedroomed house but had to pull out because she stopped talking to me and each time I mentioned moving, she just completely ignored me like I did not exist. I've been showing her pictures of bungalows but she just glazes over and stops talking to me for days on end.

She rarely goes out unless it is a hospital appointment. She has really bad arthritis and her left leg completely freezes up quite often so I have to lift her down the stairs. It's actually really sad. I just want her to be happy and to be able to relax and enjoy her later years but it's not possible in this house.

Thanks so much for replying. Your response means a lot and I do appreciate it.

May allah grant shifa to her inshallah

format_quote Originally Posted by *charisma*

Can you buy the neighbor's house? lool

I hope one day you find your way bro. I genuinely mean that. It seems you have some faith left but it's just clouded by all of the hardships, loneliness, and shaytan. I hope one day you will be strong enough to overcome that, overcome this situation, and any other hardships in your future and return to Allah with all of the sincerity, love, and strength you deserve to have ameen.

Your mom is a tough one, I give her that Had you lived near I wouldn't have minded taking care of her while you got some snoozes in, but alas this is life..and I'm sure you're doing a much better job than anyone else could.

Inshallah khair. One day it'll be over..nothing lasts forever.

Well they won't sell it will they. Although before they moved in, the man who lived there asked my Dad to buy it but my Dad said no. He sent most of our money to his sisters abroad (they were never poor and had more money than us but it is what it is), so that's still a bone of contention. If he had bought that house, how things would have been different. I guess this was in our kismet.

I don't think I ever left my faith but I did get very cross with Allah (not that I have any right!). It's just when my sleep went due to the panic attacks and what not, I ended up over thinking things and Satan whispered to me every night. And when things went from bad to worse, I just didn't know where to turn. I know I did some crazy angry weird posts on here about 2 / 3 years (how embarrassing) and said all kinds of ridiculous things under the sun but that was the first time in well over 10 years I had the courage to say / type anything so it all came out in a whirl. There was a person who used to post on here and he was very angry with Islam and there was something he said which I thought "actually he may be right". I won't post what he said because I don't want to be the person who leads others who are weak astray.

My faith is coming back bit by bit. Heck, I even do my tasbeehs on the way to work a few times a week, I'm surprised I even remember them all and in the order I used to pray them in - a total of 25 tasbeehs. I've also started praying the Qura'an every Friday. Again, I am surprised I remember it all even though i have not touched it for over 2 years. I even said "thanks" to Allah after Zohar today because the noise was not too bad yesterday.

Bless you, you are a kind lady. My Mom is lovely, just super stubborn. She is not needy nor does she every ask for anything. I just feel partially responsible because my Dad treated her worse than you would treat your worst enemy. She would be so embarrassed if she found out I was moaning and complaining about the noise especially when there are people out there who have no homes etc. I've just made "halim" (cow feet or cow toes or whatever it is) with her, she can't hold bowls anymore due to her arthritis so I had to wash the cow bits and put them in the pot. They were so slimy and animal like - I'm vegetarian you see.

Thanks again for your kind words. It means a lot to me. I guess a few years back when I started yelling, I just wanted someone to talk to for a bit of support. There are a couple of posters on here who have given me a lot of support over the years. I won't forget who you are and how much you have helped me.

I will just have to try my best to learn to live with the noise for now until we do eventually move.

when we think religion as some magic pill, it will never work... God loves those who complain to HIm, He understands your nature, and what you have gone through... i often now look at life as an analogy to sholin temple, where a student comes in, practice all needed disciplines and endures what comes his ways,doesnt mean that we dont question our faith, or we dont become distress, but through it we are learning about self and about the world around us.. and most importantly the inner relationship with our Creator, God hasnt left us without Guidance, or to teach us how to solve our issues.... so we go through different ways to change what is creating the stress...do we need to change our perspective, perception or is a practical physical step we need to take that we haven't yet come to.... it forces us to evolve in our thinking, so look at life, to see what it is showing you as objectively as you can when you can, and nurturing the self while we go through understanding our haq is also important... there is a state called the 'the dark night of the soul' it is a concept of a soul going through a process of purification, healing, evolving, awakening, understanding, training the nafs.. it is part of our growth... by the way which is a universal concept, no one can deny.. just people give it different names.. we will always resonate with truth.. as our soul is more evolved than our nafs are aware of.. i hope this helps and glad to see your your perception is supporting the reality you are in right now.. there are phases souls must go through to see more, it stretches our vision and we can learn to equip ourselves better and teaches us strength and discipline, we are solvers .. there is always a way where there is will... in sha Allaah you will find a good lass who will be part of your journey as hers will be part of yours.. may Allaah open up your blessings so you may see what has been going on all along..

Back to square one, the noise over the last week has been abysmal and I am having panic attack after panic attack. I know the whole horde of animals will come over for the Easter Holiday so I am already dreading that. Mum's arthritis has flared up again so I can't even go out.

I wish there was something I could do to cope.

You need to understand one thing, when Allah rabul 'izza plans a person to get more closer to him then He puts them under test. And before Allah rabul 'izza plans to give the test, Allah rabul 'izza also grants the person the strength and capacity to undergo the hardship.

Your daily zikr or doing tasbeehat, along with duas are not going in vain. But rather, this difficulty is pushing you towards a stronger level of Imaan. One needs to get through the push of sabr to attain this. It was not for any reason that the likes of companion such as Bilal (radh) would be put on the burning heats of Arabian desert with a rock on top of the chest. And Khabab (radh) would be dragged on the burning coals, where in the coals would cool down with the burning flesh of his back.

Other Sahabahs like Abu Dhar Ghiffari (radh) was hit by a mob when he openly proclaimed that he became a muslim. Even Abu Bakr (radh) was beaten toughly by the Quraish.

When one opens the book of seerah, it leaves me amazed that when the Prophet (sallahu allay wa salam) went to isra miraaj, the opponents wanted to derail and weaken the Iman of the Sahabah (radh) as to how it is possible to have Prophet (sallahu allay wa salam) go to bait maqdis and then Sidrat Muntaha to meet Rub 'aza wa jam in just over one night? When the opponents tried to inform that the Prophet (sallahu allay wa salam) claims to have gone through this, what did Abu Bakr (radh) say? He did not say 'its not possible because its illogical or impossible' (ilyazubillah min zalik).

He simply said 'I have never heard the Prophet (sallahu allay wa salam) lie, I believe in everything he says' - Hence the title As Sideeq.

It just astonishes me when I open up to remind myself of what really did the companions of the Prophet (sallahu allay wasalam) under went, and what state of Imaan and Sabr they had. SubhanAllah our state is so fragile, that we just give up on small tests.

Rather the Salaf Saliheen would be very happy when they would under-go hardship because they thought that is how they would receive the pleasure of Allah rabul 'izza. They would ask the person under-going hardship to make dua for them, why? because they thought the duas of the person who under-goes hardship is more effective.

I honestly really do want to write on further, and expand on what was the state back during the time of the Prophet (sallahu allay wa salam). How tough would it be that their own people forced the Sahabah (radh) and the Prophet (sallahu allay wa salam) to leave Makkah, which was their very own home and where they grew up. They were forced to leave their families.

But the Sabr did not go in vain, Allah rabul 'izza gave them respect and nobility when they over-took the Holy city of Makkah. But even then the Prophet (sallahu allay wa salam) was so humbled that he bent his head down in humility.

I will try concluding with one verse, rest maybe we can think about it.

'...and be Patient. Indeed Allah is with the patient.' [In Surah Anfal, verse 46]

Do you know what is the beauty of this verse? SubhanAllah...
When you know Allah rabul 'izza is with you while you are going through the trials of Sabr, then what is there to worry?

And since the Rasool Allah (sallahu allay wa salam) was most closest and beloved to Allah rabul 'izza, for this verse to be true to its essence it was the reason why our beloved Rasool Allah (sallahu allay wa salam) faced the most hardships which no one has ever done before and will ever after.

format_quote Originally Posted by hisnameiszzz

This a genuine question. Regardless of what ever prayers I make, they never ever seem to get accepted? Am I really that bad a person or am I just wasting my time asking for things? Ps. I am not asking for worldly things or things that are unlawful.

Start by asking very simple requests that you know in your heart are possible for you to accomplish then go and do your best and when you start getting these prayers answered, move on to bigger and better things.

format_quote Originally Posted by BurningHeart

You need to understand one thing, when Allah rabul 'izza plans a person to get more closer to him then He puts them under test. And before Allah rabul 'izza plans to give the test, Allah rabul 'izza also grants the person the strength and capacity to undergo the hardship.

Your daily zikr or doing tasbeehat, along with duas are not going in vain. But rather, this difficulty is pushing you towards a stronger level of Imaan. One needs to get through the push of sabr to attain this.

I'm not sure I will be able to pass this test then.

It goes against everything Islam is about. I've been listening to bayans by Aalims last week, yesterday and today. They've all gone on about the rights of neighbours constantly. Apparently someone who takes the rights of someone else is in danger of punishment. Well 15 plus years and it's still not happened.

Sometimes I feel quite strong and can handle that is a test but then at other times, I end up thinking why do I bother, none of it even makes sense.

Maybe I am the jaheel one after all and the animals next door banging / crashing / making other people's lives hell is actually what a Muslim should do and what Islam is about.

I give up!

format_quote Originally Posted by hisnameiszzz

I'm not sure I will be able to pass this test then.

It goes against everything Islam is about. I've been listening to bayans by Aalims last week, yesterday and today. They've all gone on about the rights of neighbours constantly. Apparently someone who takes the rights of someone else is in danger of punishment. Well 15 plus years and it's still not happened.

Sometimes I feel quite strong and can handle that is a test but then at other times, I end up thinking why do I bother, none of it even makes sense.

Maybe I am the jaheel one after all and the animals next door banging / crashing / making other people's lives hell is actually what a Muslim should do and what Islam is about.

I give up!

No no, don’t give up just like this, have strong faith and strong confidence that it will happen as you wanted. Remember this:

“Never give up on something you really want.”

I have also similar problems like you have but, I try not to think of them and to find solutions to do something about them.

Giving up is not a viable solution here, speaking of giving up we have a certain old tale which speaks of a king (can not remember his name atm) that kept loosing battles, on the eighth loss he sat down and was on the verge of giving up. He noticed a scorpion nearby that kept trying to climb to ceiling, but it kept falling. The king had some pity for it, and told one of his attendants to help the scorpion reach the top and whenever the attendant would try to get near it would try to sting him. So the night they watched the scorpion which kept on falling down, but on the ninth try (or something) it managed to successfully climb.

The king taught to himself, if the scorpion which kept falling down kept on trying and in the end accomplishing its task, why can not I? and the next day he won the battle.

As a muslim, we have to keep trying and not giving up on any tests. At times we will fail keep failing but on the other occasions we will be successful. We as a mere slave of rub 'Azza wa jal alone can not alone succeed in the tests. It is actually the mercy and rahma of Allah rabul 'izza that He allows us to succeed hence we have many duas which continuously were read by the Prophet (sallahu allay wa salam) to show humbleness and know that we alone can not do as we want, it is only the mercy and rahma of Allah rabul 'izza who allows us to succeed.

We to have know well that as you, I or anyone out there travel along life we come along at points that we see something good happening and as a muslim we should do Shukr. And when something bad happens our role is to have Sabr. These two are recipes of life that puts the Imaan of a believer on the state of peace. And what is interesting, for a believer (mu'min) whatever the state falls upon him/her, it is always for the person's benefit and goodness.

As our beloved Prophet (sallahu allay wa salam) has mentioned in a reported hadith:
'Strange is the affair of a mu'min (the believer), verily all his affairs are good for him. If something pleasing befalls him he thanks (Allah) and it becomes better for him. And if something pleasing befalls him he is patient (sabir) and it becomes better for him. And this is only for the mu'min.

We do feel that Zulm (oppression) is being done upon us, this is because we do not know the Islamic History. If we really knew what hardships the Companions (radh), the Prophets ('allay salam), the Salaf Saliheen such as Imam Bukhari (rah), Imam Ahmed bin Hanbal (rah) etc then we would know what troubles we are facing is minor compared to theirs. But SubhanAllah they still remained steadfast upon the deen, never left the Imaan.

If I move just a bit more deeper, generally we translate Sabr has patience in English but this is the third level of Sabr. According to Islamic translation the first two stages of Sabr are linked to steadfastness. Where the highest stage of Sabr is steadfastness in the Ibadah of Rub 'Azza wa Jal and the second level is steadfastness in staying away from Sins while the last stage is having patience in any difficulties.

Getting back to the point.

Speaking of neighbours, the Shaytan never wants the person of Imaan to climb the ladders of reaching closer to Allah rabul 'izza hence one way he does succeeds in his task is by trying to hoard evil thoughts in the heart for others. Or in other words having malice and hatred.

Certainly we are thought to have the rights of the neighbours. And to do well to others even if others are doing badly or wrongly towards you. Do not live with the motto that one does good to only those who do good to them, but rather ensure that one fulfils the rights. And when one executes justice upon everything around us, then we find harmony within the life.

Truly I can understand how disturbing it is to have such neighbours. I remember one of our neighbours were couples who were late night partying type, with loud music on while alcohol being served. But we, as a family, did what was right which was to be good to them. What we did was we sent some dishes that were cooked in our home, and any other gifts that could be sent along. It so did happened, that they started feeling guilty and bad for what they are doing and they knew that we are muslims living right next-door. Until they literally shifted their home somewhere else. There was another family on the other side of neighbour-hood, similar case and they shifted.

The next neighbour that came across were Arabs, they had white huskies which would bark loud. We did the same, subhanAllah they gave away the dogs and in Ramadan they kept on sending their traditional iftaar foods. Even though we barely met, and they also left later onwards. The current neighbour now are from Shia ideology, I guess they are impressed enough that whenever we pass by the dad of the house would wave and he would be seen sitting right nearby the first saff (row) for Juma prayers (:P) lol.

On the other side we have neighbours that are Hindus, pretty staunch. At first they were aggressive in their approach to see us muslims living, they would tilt around with the rubbish bin outside. But we did what was right, which was to give things to their house. Even now when my mum passes by them the lady of the house waves and she even visited to ask if we can give any vegetables that grow in our backyard.

Yes, pretty much had different neighbours across.

It is about doing our own part. The power of Sunnah of even smiling to a brother has a large impact on the person. Give it a test, if you know a muslim that approaches harshly to you or is aggressive. Just walk down and say 'Assalamualaikum' with hand out, he will reply and as a matter of fact a time will come when he will be the first giving salaams to you.

When we have neighbours around, we should show our good conducts and manners. I understand it is not easy, and it does takes guts. Knowing that a neighbour maybe hostile or aggressive but you got to do your part. Try sending gifts or some food across, in the end of the day, they also have a heart and they will feel guiltiness in their own part.

It is a shortcoming for us to see the next generation having really bad manners, and I say that as a muslim who is looking around the next generation of muslims growing up. There is no sense of shame or haya on how they treat the elders let other any other person out there. When such as our Akhlaq, then we really can not expect a first good impression on us muslims. But if we truly stick to what Islam teaches us, the Shari'a teaches us that we will realise that people will start respecting and loving us.

I still feel the need to write further, but I really do not want it to make a big whole essay. And truthfully, I have not managed to re-read what I have written above so do excuse my grammatical mistakes. But I will conclude with one incident of Sultan Salahudeen Ayyubi (rah), and this incident I still have not managed to get it across in book or written form but I have heard from one of our teachers. (so not sure about authenticity unless someone knows here)

When Sultan Salahudeen Ayyubi (rah) was fighting the crusades, it so happened that the leader/commander of the crusades fell ill. What Salahudeen Ayyubi (rah) did was he sent his personal physician (who was a jew) to attend for the aid of the commander.

The relations of Christians and Jews were not good at that time, while the leader was fighting Sultan's army. But as a muslim person Sultan Salahudeen Ayyubi (rah) did what was deemed good and right. Even the opponents felt it when Sulahudeen Ayyubi (rah) passed away.

So yes, as a muslim we should do good even if anyone does bad towards us. Be it neighbour, or any family relatives. Its tough but it never goes in vain, because we will see the importance of it when once we go to grave.