I am an unmarried individual turning 30 this November. Despite my parents' best efforts spanning years including informing our community, trying halal online match-making, and marriage events, nothing has materialized. Unfortunately, my iman is weakening because of this situation in my life. I have tried to keep a positive mindset and focus on doing other things to keep busy, but it doesn't really work. I feel my heart is broken because of my this situation.
Also, there was a rishta (potential marriage partner) talk with a brother whom I had liked and who had also liked me in return who had to travel overseas for work purposes 1 and 1/2 years ago, and therefore the rishta didn't materialize then. However, recently, with my parents' knowledge and permission, I contacted the brother on email to see if we could again pursue the rishta process again since his work assignment is over, but he hasn't yet responded. I believe the lack of response is also weakening my iman.
Could some of you please pray that the brother responds positively to my email and also that I get married soon and also that my iman become stronger? Thank you. Jazkallah Khayran in advance.
Please, your prayer for me will make me happy. I'm asking for both your help and prayer with the reminders of two hadith. "Whoever brings ease to one in difficulty, Allah will make it easy for him in this life and the hereafter." "The most beloved deed to Allah is to make a Muslim happy, or to remove one of his troubles...." Thank you once again.
wasalam may Allah SWT grant you a pious spouse, grant you sabr and grant you happiness and success in this life and in the akhirah Ameen
be patient my sister, i know it easier said then done but truly Allah SWT loves those who are patient, just know it will happen when its meant to be insha'Allah
Do not feel sad my dear sister. You need to love yourself and find something else that makes you happy and that you love, and through that you may find other who become attracted to you. Be more active in your community, or make more Muslim friends. Turn to Allah more, pray tahajjud more, make more du'a. May allah bless you with a pious brother, but do not grieve if that person is lost still! There's nothing wrong with you. Your circumstance is jus not perfected. Wallah even if two individuals love each other more than they love themselves, are right next to each other ready to be married, have already made plans, if Allah does not will it, it will not happen. So turn to Allah and do not allow your iman to weaken as Allah knows most what your weakness is and is testing your faith, so don't shy away from embracing this struggle by proving to Allah you can handle it.
I'm grateful to all of you who have responded, and I'm also grateful to those who did not respond but have prayed for me - so, thank you.
I continue to ask for your prayers, maybe one of you is closer to Allah SWT and your dua for me will be responded to more quickly. As an update: The brother to whom I'd written the email still hasn't responded; unfortunately, he was my last hope to marry in a reasonable amount of time. In-sha-Allah, since I really like this brother and I'd back then also had a positive istikhara about him, I hope Allah SWT inclines his heart again towards marrying me. Therefore, I humbly request in all sincerity that you all pray the same. Maybe there is khayr (goodness) if our marriage talk starts again.
Thank you once again, all of you.
Sincere Regards,
Less Depressed Sister
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I believe the lack of response is also weakening my iman.
I think charisma gave a good reply, and just a thought, should our iman only be strong when things are going our way, or should we pray for a stronger iman to endure trials?
-The Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:
“There is no-one who is afflicted by distress and grief, and says:
‘Allaahumma inni ‘abduka ibn ‘abdika ibn amatika naasyati bi yadika, maadhin fiyya hukmuka,
‘adlun fiyya qadhaa’uka. As’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu
fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilmil-ghaybi ‘indaka
an taj’al al-Qur’aana rabee’a qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’ huzni wa thihaab hammi
[O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female slave; my forelock is
in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just.
I ask You by every name belonging to You which You have named Yourself with, or revealed
in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge
of the Unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast,
and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety],’ but Allaah will take away his distress
and grief, and replace it with joy.†27
He was asked: “O Messenger of Allaah, should we learn this?†He said: “Of course; everyone who hears it
should learn it.â€
In sha Allah, may Allah endear the one who is meant for you, toward you Ameen Allahuma Ameen...in light of the weakning of your Iman, i agree with the sister above, increase your spiritual intake...ask Allah for Guidance, Allah hears the supplications of all...this is indeed a journey that Allah has tasked you with, for no soul shall bear a burden with that which he/she cannot bear...As-Sabirun, indeed Allah loves those who are patient, so dear sister bear this path you travelling with patience and complete Faith in your Creator...and give more in charity, charity increases our faith...do not focus to much on the marriage aspect, focus on your spiritual aspect and the one that was Created for you will be steered towards you....Ameen
I'm grateful for all your responses and directions; I'm trying to concentrate on my relationship with Allah SWT. I'm entrusting the matter of my marriage to Allah SWT as I can't control what happens in my future. I'm grateful for your prayers and support, and I ask that you keep me in your prayers. Jazkallah khayran for your responses.
Funny that yesterday the talk before the Friday prayers should cover the topic brother @EricH asked. Will the test of Allah lead to the weakening of faith? Or will it lead to the opposite? Just as much the granting of dua leading to complacency..
Bear in mind that life is a test. That is everybody included, even our holy prophet (pbuh) and his was probably the greatest test. Everyone will face their own. We just have to face it patiently and not give up.
As long as my heart does beat, I shall live, not lie
For when my heart does stop its beat, with truth, I die.
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