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    My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

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    WHAT TO DO, WHAT TO DO!!
    I have a student loan to pay off that has interest and than my grandma calls this morning asking me to pay for her hajj. My mom doesn't work and my dads earnings are haram and my grandma doesn't want haram money. I really want to make my Grandma happy but I'm already committing a huge sin, Riba, and I feel like I should get that sorted first. Also keep in mind that I don't have a job yet so interest is accumulating. My grandma really wants to go to Hajj before she dies and I really don't want to let her down. What should I do?

    *Please keep me in your duas that I find a job fast.*
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    My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    Hajj is obligatory for people who can afford it. Has your grandma done umrah?

    Look for websites that make donations for Hajj and explain your situation.
    My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    Sis, I can't really help you on this matter,

    I will say that from what I have read if you are financially stressed or have a debt or loan or anything like that over your head then you should wait until you perform Hajj, in your case it is different in that you will be paying for it but your grandmother will be going. Someone with more knowledge could clarify this inshaAllah.

    Try to get a job as soon as possible inshaAllah, you will be in my duas. In the meantime, why don't you explain your situation to your grandmother? Just tell her you are having problems at the moment, but as soon as you can you will pay for her to go on Hajj, I'm sure she would understand.
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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Dreamchaser View Post
    WHAT TO DO, WHAT TO DO!!
    I have a student loan to pay off that has interest and than my grandma calls this morning asking me to pay for her hajj. My mom doesn't work and my dads earnings are haram and my grandma doesn't want haram money. I really want to make my Grandma happy but I'm already committing a huge sin, Riba, and I feel like I should get that sorted first. Also keep in mind that I don't have a job yet so interest is accumulating. My grandma really wants to go to Hajj before she dies and I really don't want to let her down. What should I do?

    *Please keep me in your duas that I find a job fast.*
    Avoiding riba is obligatory, your grandmother going on hajj if she cannot afford is not. So tell her simply you cannot afford it.
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    My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    If I tell her I can't afford it that might break her heart. My grandma basically thinks money grows on trees where I live because she lives back home where there's not much stuff, but if she only knew the struggle.
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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.



    Unless you have done Hajj yourself, you cannot pay for someone else's.
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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.



    format_quote Originally Posted by FreedomStands View Post
    Taking "interest" in the modern world is not really so much of a sin because you are the poor person. The Qur'an does not blame the poor person for taking out loans. .

    Are u sure ? Pl. give reference from Quran or Hadith
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    format_quote Originally Posted by ~ Sabr ~ View Post


    Unless you have done Hajj yourself, you cannot pay for someone else's.
    to my knowledge , one can't go for someone else if s/he did not perform his/her obligatory Hajj . Not sure about sponsorship.
    My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

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    format_quote Originally Posted by Dreamchaser View Post
    I have a student loan to pay off that has interest *

    tell grandma Hajj is not obligatory for her . If u take another loan with interest , it may not be halal money for her . She is not taking money from her son but asking u ? That's strange .


    Ask a Mufti and explain to her with patience .
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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Muslim Woman View Post





    tell grandma Hajj is not obligatory for her . If u take another loan with interest , it may not be halal money for her . She is not taking money from her son but asking u ? That's strange .


    Ask a Mufti and explain to her with patience .
    My dads earnings are haram and she doesn't want haram money.
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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    i have a job interview on Thursday, pray for me ya'll. For some weird reason i can never get through the interview process,my nerves always kick in.
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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    format_quote Originally Posted by FreedomStands View Post
    May I know what these haram earnings are? Does he lend money at interest or own a bar or something? I'm just curious.
    sorry i can't expose him!

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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    format_quote Originally Posted by FreedomStands View Post
    Certainly, and thank you for asking.

    Firstly, in using your reasoning ability, do you think it is righteous or just (regardless of what anyone thinks any religion says), to blame a poor person in need of borrowing money in order to survive for taking out a loan?

    It is not. It is unjust for the giver of the loan to demand of the poor person even more than they asked for initially, thus making the "poor poorer, the rich richer".

    The needy person was in need, they are not condemned for being in need.

    Now to the Qur'an:

    .....
    Does reasoning come before the Quran?

    The verses you quoted clearly show that interest based transactions are unlawful. It is haram for any Muslim to agree to an unlawful transaction.

    The needy person was in need, they are not condemned for being in need
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    They are not condemned for being in need but they are condemned for agreeing to a transaction severely forbidden by Allah.


    We should be careful about speaking without correct knowledge and understanding. This is a very serious matter.
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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    format_quote Originally Posted by FreedomStands View Post
    Can you at least list a few things that are "haram earnings" and include in it what he does without saying which one it is? I just want to better understand what you're talking about or believe in.
    -Owing a shisha bar
    -Selling drugs
    - living off of disability benefits or welfare when capable of working
    -stealing
    -owning a interest based business, etc.

    Those are all haram earnings and what do you mean 'believe in? lol what is there to lie about?
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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    format_quote Originally Posted by FreedomStands View Post
    If one can not avoid taking a loan for their survival, they are not in the same position as the one who is asking for....
    Survival? Is someone going to die if they don't get a loan for a house or university fee ?
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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    format_quote Originally Posted by FreedomStands View Post
    Also, I don't care much what anyone else says or any books.
    Then your position is quite clear.
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    format_quote Originally Posted by FreedomStands View Post
    People take the Qur'an as a God in many cases, and end up going astray due to their own interpretations.....

    there are off topic here .

    Taking loan with interest is not a must for an old lady to go Hajj . It's not obligatory for her . Family members must convince her that she must not put pressure on anyone to send her to Hajj . If she had enough money and she could sponsor her Muharim , then it was a different matter . Now , it's not . So , pl. don't encourage anyone to disobey Allah . And Allah Knows Best.
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    format_quote Originally Posted by Dreamchaser View Post
    i have a job interview on Thursday, pray for me ya'll. For some weird reason i can never get through the interview process,my nerves always kick in.

    may Allah grants what is best for u .
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    format_quote Originally Posted by FreedomStands View Post
    I never once in this thread supported the taking of interest or the practice of usury or interest, and so many came and falsely accused me, and now even the original poster has taken to saying that I don't know what I am talking about. So are you people twisted or something? Is it right to make false accusations out of nowhere with no basis whatsoever? My posts are available for all to see that I didn't say what people are insulting me for at all.

    u wrote : Taking "interest" in the modern world is not really so much of a sin because you are the poor person. The Qur'an does not blame the poor person for taking out loans.......


    these lines and few other lines gave me ( and may be others ) an impression that u are not against loan with interest .
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    Re: My grandma wants me to pay for her Hajj.

    format_quote Originally Posted by Muslim Woman View Post


    to my knowledge , one can't go for someone else if s/he did not perform his/her obligatory Hajj . Not sure about sponsorship.
    This is what I mean
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