Fight with temptation when stay alone at home.

Wa'alaikumsalam. Welcome to the forum, brother.

There are many interesting topic here. Maybe you want to discuss about Islam?. Maybe you want to discuss about halal food?. Seeing photos which taken by members here?. Browse this forum, find the topic that you like, and spend your time here. In Shaa Allah, if you enjoy this forum, then you can fight the desire to watch adult videos.

Yes bro, the cause why you always lose in fighting the temptation is because you don't put something which interesting you in your brain, that can fight the desire to watch adult videos. No wonder if the desire to watch adult videos always win, because there's no rival. So put the desire to watch something that you like in your brain. What you like?. Football?. Motorcycle racing?. Watch videos about football or motorcycle racing every time you feel temptation to watch adult videos.

I know how is being alone. I myself widower after my beloved wife passed away. But alhamdulillah, my activity on Islamicboard saves me from desire to watch adult videos.

Brother you can fight this, listen to the Qu'ran , Pray ,dua, read the Qu'ran go to the mosque if you can
you dont need to watch these type of films , I understand you are lonely But you are never alone Allah (swt ) is always with you no matter what
keep your self busy as much as you can be spend time outside the house if your inside all day you will feel lonely and board start a new hobby.

Assalam Alaikum brother! First of all I would say that to say Alhamdulillah that you have wife and remember the importance of this blessing. Many of us don't have this blessing yet
Secondly you should try keep yourself busy with something positive. You should be watchful of yourself. Because if this bad thing somehow becomes your habit, which many people are suffering from, it may even cost you your marriage! Don't take it as a simple matter, which I know you are not taking it as simple, otherwise you wont be here.
Ideally train yourself to control your desires for longer periods even without wife.
If you need support from other people who are also struggling to keep away from adult contents and temptations, there is very nice group on reddit called muslimNoFap. You may find similar minds, married and unmarried, trying their best to leave this habit.
Don't let yourself to be alone by yourself, or keep yourself busy. Talk with you wife when you get time, join gym, start attending some online course etc, you can even join some part time classes on Islam etc if possible.
In the end would say that when you see any adult content, think of your wife. Think how would she feel if she comes to know that you watches this! She will feel that she is mere sex object for you, from who you just satisfy your needs. This thought is very hurtful for any wife. Allah has put in upon you to take care of her faalings, and to look after her. By doing this you are neglecting Allah's commandment about wife. She only wants you to see her in this state, and how would she feel to know that you dont feel shame to see any woman like this! May Allah help you to lower your gaze

All praises due to Allah alone.
Dear brothers and sisters,
Thank you very much for your valuable suggestion.
Please pray for me.

Switch off the internet until your wife returns

Yes this is easy solution. But without internet I can not contact with my wife, my parents.
Thanks.

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Yes this is easy solution. But without internet I can not contact with my wife, my parents.
Thanks.

You don't need to disconnect the internet.

Just put your wife photo beside the monitor. Look at her photo when you feel an urge to visit adult site, and say "I love you.I promise, I will always be a good husband". In Shaa Allah, you will feel guilty when you see adult movie, and it will help you stop.

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Can't you do sexy speak with your wife over the Internet ?

From what I read from scholars, a person can do sexy talk over phone with wife.
But the point is even those talk will only lead him to temptations, and in the end will lead him to masturbation, because the wife is not there so he will be left unsatisfied. So I dont see point in doing sexy talk with wife. (I don't mean romantic talk)

Secondly I read on some post husband doing sexy talk and then satisfying himself with masturbation. Some even ask wife to send him nude pics etc of herself, which again is totally unacceptable behavior. I personally see it as disrespectful to wife, it somehow means that he is treating her as an object to satisfy himself. The husband should simple try his best to limit the sexual urges. It needs practice and lot of patience. Even at the time of umer, the limit was set of 4 months max for men to stay away from wife during battles.
But in any case it is always better to do it over phone with wife, than to watch porn.

then be religious by observing the 5 pillars of Islam

Thanks for your nice comments.
I also think that internet is the main problem. If no internet then may be no problem. Its better to disconnect. But then I will be disconnected from my family.

Thanks for your comments. Can anyone give a good parental software name for android mobile phone. I have installed one. But it's not perfect. Can block bad video but can not block bad image.
Thanks again. May Allah be always with you.