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    I have a hard time dealing with this. I watch videos, I hear people, and I read what people type on the net. A lot of times, people say all the general things like subhanallah, alhamdulillah, mashallah, etc. whenever something happens that's fitting for that specific word. Arabic isn't my native language, so I don't know how much of an effect that has but, I even see reverts doing it who also don't speak Arabic, so I don't think that's an excuse. The issue I have is when or if I say such things or even type them on the net to other people, I don't feel like it's genuine. Even making dua. The only time I feel sincere when making dua is towards me and my family. I see people in the masjid with their hands in the air when the imam makes dua at the end and I even saw one guy crying. Is it just my personality which makes me this way or do I just have a 'hard heart' so to speak. Sorry if this wasn't clear enough. I wasn't really sure how to explain my thoughts
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    Re: I struggle with being sincere

    ^ Everybody is different. Just be yourself and do your best.
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    Re: I struggle with being sincere

    format_quote Originally Posted by anonymous View Post
    I have a hard time dealing with this. I watch videos, I hear people, and I read what people type on the net. A lot of times, people say all the general things like subhanallah, alhamdulillah, mashallah, etc. whenever something happens that's fitting for that specific word. Arabic isn't my native language, so I don't know how much of an effect that has but, I even see reverts doing it who also don't speak Arabic, so I don't think that's an excuse. The issue I have is when or if I say such things or even type them on the net to other people, I don't feel like it's genuine. Even making dua. The only time I feel sincere when making dua is towards me and my family. I see people in the masjid with their hands in the air when the imam makes dua at the end and I even saw one guy crying. Is it just my personality which makes me this way or do I just have a 'hard heart' so to speak. Sorry if this wasn't clear enough. I wasn't really sure how to explain my thoughts
    Sincerity in intention is one of the main factors for which we are rewarded in our physical acts of worship.

    Sincerity of resolve means certain desire to do an action and not hesitating to do it. If his resolve is sincere, all that is left is sincerity of action, which is doing one’s best and striving one’s utmost when doing it , and not letting anything, outward or inward, hold him back from it. Resolve of purpose prevents him from becoming weak-willed and sincerity of action prevents him from becoming lazy or lethargic. If a person is sincere towards Allah in all his affairs, Allah will give him more than He gives to others, and this sincerity results from true love of Allah and true trust in Him. So the most sincere of people is the one who is loves Allah most and puts most trust in Him.

    https://islamqa.info/en/search?key=sincerity


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    Except Allah none knows whats in their heart . And Its a Good Muslim duty and trait to keep good doubts of other Muslims. If they show off they will be answerable to Allah .

    Its Nothing wrong and its right to praise Allah whenever its necessary . And praying for other Muslims is very virtuous if i locate the hadith i will post for you, its the sunnah of Prophets.
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    Re: I struggle with being sincere

    Isn't the struggle a part of the deen?

    Aren't we suppose to struggle MORE on matters of principles regarding our faith?

    So, I guess it would be normal to have these issues. Everyone will struggle with one or more important (if not fundamental) things. We are created weak but our 'mind' and 'will' can create wonders, if Allah wills it. We will fail time and again and Allah is Most Forgiving. That we have to believe.

    I mostly lack the feeling of empathy, but that does not mean that I have not learnt to gauge it over the course of my life, taking examples from people to evaluate my own way..

    As said in an earlier post, sincerity is related to your intention. For me personally, the real intention was the hardest part, my underlying struggle, essentially. Why I do things? What made it harder was how do I relate waking up for the sake of Allah, Allah Gave us sleep and we have to appreciate sleep and hence we sleep because Allah gave us the mercy of sleep. Allah tells us to not forget about our portions on earth, provisioned for, already! So the bounty is there for us, and our struggle with each step in seeking our portion in a halal way, as well as calling people to the deen (this is an entire topic in itself but I also realise that many of my acquaintances will point a finger at me to say that it's my fault. I knew but never told them about the deen, come the Day of Reckoning).

    May Allah forgive me. I hope I at least showed a good example!

    So, there is a lot to struggle with. Accept that it will always be there. It just changes shape and form and duration. Learn from it and overcome them, one at a time.. in syaa Allah.

    On those mashaAllah, and all, just learn their meanings and see when it's said and say that in English ! (under your breath)


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    Re: I struggle with being sincere

    It just sounds like your heart needs some softening. I guarantee you that you are not alone and all humans have a level of selfishness. Some have it bad, for some it is a mild case.

    You should make it a goal to soften your heart in whatever way you can insha'Allah.
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    Re: I struggle with being sincere

    format_quote Originally Posted by anonymous View Post
    I have a hard time dealing with this. I watch videos, I hear people, and I read what people type on the net. A lot of times, people say all the general things like subhanallah, alhamdulillah, mashallah, etc. whenever something happens that's fitting for that specific word. Arabic isn't my native language, so I don't know how much of an effect that has but, I even see reverts doing it who also don't speak Arabic, so I don't think that's an excuse. The issue I have is when or if I say such things or even type them on the net to other people, I don't feel like it's genuine. Even making dua. The only time I feel sincere when making dua is towards me and my family. I see people in the masjid with their hands in the air when the imam makes dua at the end and I even saw one guy crying. Is it just my personality which makes me this way or do I just have a 'hard heart' so to speak. Sorry if this wasn't clear enough. I wasn't really sure how to explain my thoughts
    If you never cry in salah or while doing dua/tawba or recitation, then thnk over it.
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    Re: I struggle with being sincere

    this is satans game, he wants you to stop saying these words; you shouldn't even think about whether it is sincere or not; imagine a person who never says them words?; so it is so much better to say it!
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    Re: I struggle with being sincere

    I think it's important not to force some things on yourself.

    Try and focus at first on doing the fundamentals sincerely with ikhlaas.
    So that would probably salat.
    Sincerity isn't just a feeling so don't focus on that.
    The thing you should be seeking is the pleasure of Allah. You can renew your intention if you feel like you are doing it just because it's routine.

    Sincerity is something in he heart but it will also show itself in your actions. So, during salat that would be to make sure you are praying properly with khushoo following the way the prophet :saw: read and not rushing or being distracted.

    Read up on khushoo iA

    format_quote Originally Posted by anonymous View Post
    I have a hard time dealing with this. I watch videos, I hear people, and I read what people type on the net. A lot of times, people say all the general things like subhanallah, alhamdulillah, mashallah, etc. whenever something happens that's fitting for that specific word. Arabic isn't my native language, so I don't know how much of an effect that has but, I even see reverts doing it who also don't speak Arabic, so I don't think that's an excuse. The issue I have is when or if I say such things or even type them on the net to other people, I don't feel like it's genuine. Even making dua. The only time I feel sincere when making dua is towards me and my family. I see people in the masjid with their hands in the air when the imam makes dua at the end and I even saw one guy crying. Is it just my personality which makes me this way or do I just have a 'hard heart' so to speak. Sorry if this wasn't clear enough. I wasn't really sure how to explain my thoughts
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