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    Sorry i have been missing for so long this is the only chance i have to post my husband is sleeping right now
    he stopped me from praying he and the minster confused me and are making me be christian but i love Allah
    i cant look after myself in fact my mental health is worse my husband has no idea i post here
    i cant get away from him i cant leave i love him but he says Islam is destroying our marriage
    av not prayed for a long time he is with me 24/7 i have no one else to take care of me
    am going to hell
    unsure when i will be able to post again
    sorry this dont make much sense am on a lot of medication at the moment
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    format_quote Originally Posted by _E_ View Post
    Sorry i have been missing for so long this is the only chance i have to post my husband is sleeping right now
    he stopped me from praying he and the minster confused me and are making me be christian but i love Allah
    i cant look after myself in fact my mental health is worse my husband has no idea i post here
    i cant get away from him i cant leave i love him but he says Islam is destroying our marriage
    av not prayed for a long time he is with me 24/7 i have no one else to take care of me
    am going to hell
    unsure when i will be able to post again
    sorry this dont make much sense am on a lot of medication at the moment
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    Hi it _E_ av had to make another account and am on my mobile phone it's the only way I can post here am so lost right now I tr
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    Re: sorry

    format_quote Originally Posted by E2_2 View Post
    Hi it _E_ av had to make another account and am on my mobile phone it's the only way I can post here am so lost right now I tr
    Go to the links we provided you with please ittl help you so much
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    Re: sorry

    Sorry I posted by mistake I tried to kill myself am home now but I can't do anything like prayers or anything I am going to talk to him again about this I not been to the mosque in years and he has thrown out my hijabs unsure if am able to continue like I am I can't live like this
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    format_quote Originally Posted by E2_2 View Post
    Sorry I posted by mistake I tried to kill myself am home now but I can't do anything like prayers or anything I am going to talk to him again about this I not been to the mosque in years and he has thrown out my hijabs unsure if am able to continue like I am I can't live like this
    Go to the links they will help you.
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    thank you for the links my husband says he going to let me pray but he isnt happy at all
    i know he will tell the minster about it when he sees him unsure when that i will be i have to do my first prayer of the day unsure if i have any hijabs but i have scarfs so i can cover myself with that for the time being he said he dont want me to wear the hijab
    i know you have told me to leave him but i cant i love him maybe am blind to what he is doing and its wrong for me to stay here i cant be on my own no one will want to marry me i cant have child and am 40
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    Re: sorry

    format_quote Originally Posted by E2_2 View Post
    thank you for the links my husband says he going to let me pray but he isnt happy at all
    i know he will tell the minster about it when he sees him unsure when that i will be i have to do my first prayer of the day unsure if i have any hijabs but i have scarfs so i can cover myself with that for the time being he said he dont want me to wear the hijab
    i know you have told me to leave him but i cant i love him maybe am blind to what he is doing and its wrong for me to stay here i cant be on my own no one will want to marry me i cant have child and am 40
    That's your choice but be aware that unless he accepts Islam that your marriage is islamicly invalid so it is a major sin for you to engage sexual acts and stuff
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    Re: sorry

    He is putting pressure on me i can't do this anymore ALLah please help me
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    Re: sorry

    format_quote Originally Posted by E2_2 View Post
    He is putting pressure on me i can't do this anymore ALLah please help me
    Hang in there sister
    Its darkest before dawn
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    Re: sorry

    format_quote Originally Posted by E2_2 View Post
    He is putting pressure on me i can't do this anymore ALLah please help me
    How much pressure can he put, sister?

    It may be hard but dont budge.

    You dont have to listen to something that you are not agreeing with. No one can force you to do that. So let him go to the ministers and whatever but you remain firm. May Allah make it easy for you. You will find a way, eventually.

    If he loved you do you think he will let you go through so much mental trauma of forcing, blackmailing and brainwashing?

    Lastly, do contact the links given hope it helps.
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    Re: sorry

    format_quote Originally Posted by E2_2 View Post
    thank you for the links my husband says he going to let me pray but he isnt happy at all
    i know he will tell the minster about it when he sees him unsure when that i will be i have to do my first prayer of the day unsure if i have any hijabs but i have scarfs so i can cover myself with that for the time being he said he dont want me to wear the hijab
    i know you have told me to leave him but i cant i love him maybe am blind to what he is doing and its wrong for me to stay here i cant be on my own no one will want to marry me i cant have child and am 40


    My sister you are writing to us because you are in much pain due to your situation. But how will your situation improve if you do not take drastic action? Sometimes in life we have to make decisions and take steps that are out of our comfort zone. Especially if our Imaan (faith) is at risk. It is like choosing between this life and the next. Between Allah and your partner. Who will give you success in this world or the next? Your partner is dragging you towards Jahannam (Hellfire), whilst Allah only wants the best for you in this life and the next.

    Your partner will never be happy with you as long as your a Muslim. He will continue to torment you and "threaten" to contact the pastor. He will ruin your physical and mental health as long as you remain with him. He will never accept that you are a Muslim. So are you willing to live like this for the rest of your life? A life where you cannot even freely practice your Deen? Where you cannot even pray to Allah in peace? without the "fear" of repercussions.

    Allah says: "Neither the Jews, nor the Christians, will accept you, unless you follow their religion..." (Baqarah, 120)

    So my sister you must take the first step and make contact with the help group and local Masjid's. Otherwise your situation will only get worse and so will your physical and mental health. On top of that you are going to be living in major sin each day whilst you are in an illegitimate relationship with a non Muslim. He will try and deceivingly convince you that you cannot be without him and if you leave him then you will never be ale to find anyone else and that you will die lonely etc. My sister whose decision is that? his or Allah's? All the power and might in this Universe to do anything and everything is only in the hands of Allah. So if you make the sacrifice for the sake of Allah and to save your Imaan and deen, then do you not think Allah will do what is best for you?

    Therefore make contact the group and Masjids and put your trust in Allah and he will never let you down nor abandon you. But you have to take the necessary step. If you make this sacrifice for Allah then everything else will fall into place. Otherwise your physical and mental health will continue to worsen and you will risk losing your imaan and ability to practice your Deen and also continue living each day in major sin as you are with a non Muslim man. So the decision is yours but you must take action immediately for your own good.
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    I would advise you to keep together if you are both believers in submiision to Allah, or part ways and find someone who matches your standards and aspirations and let Allah be the judge, it is unwise for both of you to keep wrangling with each other when there are so many to live in harmony with.
    You also mentioned that you contact others whilst he is asleep, and without wanting him to know, if you are doing this despite the fact that he is not forcing or coercing you to stay with him and is not likely to harass you if you leave him, this sounds like conniving and unjust self interest on your part, and it does not in any way appear to be a trusting relationship, actually I would hate the sight of a woman who did that with me and would wish that Allah made a way out for me.
    If you have genuine problems getting by alone or have God-given rights due to you, then it is the duty of those responsible to hand you your rights and reimburse you for damages, and allow you to put your life back together again, and also of those around you to do their reasonable best to assist.

    Judge sincerely by what Allah has revealed wgilst seeking Allah's goodwill.
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    Sister i dont know if you're still on this but my heart is breaking for you literally. Phone a hotline and get counselling i dont care about muslims stigma about mental healthcare. You need to get help sister. I will be keeping you in my duas. I also advise you phonw a domestic abuse helpline and if it gets worse rhe police. Seek healthcare and don't give up, you're a fighter and you can get through this.
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    Sweetheart there will be men interested in you- if not their loss! As for getting remarried maybe put that aside and focus on your mental health. As for everyone saying move out asap, dont make things harder for urself if hes gonna get worse. Allah understands and is the most merciful.
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    Read surat ad duha, pray ( u still can pray without hijab if you are in severe need allah understands) and if the worst happens get ready to leave asap.
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