Tricky situation

[anonymous]

Asalamu alaikum,

I would like to know what would you do if a mother beats her child when the child misbehaves despite all the advice and islamic advice, what would you do?

Also what if it we're your own mother but you can't always be home to deal with the situation...?

[MuslimInshallah]

Wa alaikum assalaam,


(gently) I think it would be best if you took these questions to someone who can listen to you describe the whole situation fully, and who has insights into the hows and whys of people's behaviour. You could perhaps try looking for a psychologist, or a wise elder. (gently) Please speak to someone. Soon.


May Allah, the Compassionate, Guide you to a good advisor.

[AbdurRahman.]

Wa alaikum assalaam,

Bro, if the hitting is light, keep on advising her that mercy and love towards the child is the way forward and she could verbally admonish him or maybe find non violent ways to punish such as make child stand in corner for 10 mins

If they r hard violent beatings than they have to stop and u have to stress that to her

If u live in West, tell her there is a risk social might take child away

[M.I.A.]

Lol i used to get cained at mosque.. i think i was one of those people that the teacher had no qualms about hitting..

I think you can tell if something is discipline or abuse..

For me personally it made little difference except get me to stop doing something..

Which was the point.. probably.

My mum never did anything of the sort.. infact it has taken several decades for her to raise her voice at me..In defence of the wife and sister in law..

i am most definitely not the man of the house.


My dad has hit me a couple times but it was extremely well deserved..

It has taken several decades for me to be in a similar position again..

Although.. i dont know what iv done wrong now lol..

Its a learning experience.


I dont hit my kids though and would think that hitting girls is unacceptable..

Infact i am astonished how the wife shouts at them sometimes..

If i did that or even less they would literally be in tears..

The wife plays on this no end.. ×_×

I would say within limits, punishment is acceptable..

But it should be distinguished from abuse..

Which is where it gets complicated.. and a matter of perspective.

I have no doubt that corporal punishment can be negated through the manner in which we spend time with children.. or how we express ourselves or our ideas, needs, even how we educate our children..

But its easier in theory and untested in practice..

For a time.

We are who we are.