My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightmare,

The only way to keep in contact with your child is to take your wife to court and get the rights to spend time with your daughter that way your wife can't do anything to stop that

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Originally Posted by 06jeveria

The only way to keep in contact with your child is to take your wife to court and get the rights to spend time with your daughter that way your wife can't do anything to stop that

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Yeah but shes ordering the burning of our cars and breaking of my windows of my family home on days I go to visit my daughter, most likely to scare and intimidate me and my family.... hope my duas (dua of severely oppressed) for justice is answered soon, I know and have firm belief my duas are being accepted, however I pray for retribution, ease and rectification of the situation I am in.

My extended family are saying give the daughter up, how long are you going to tolerate criminal damage? What if they move on to more severe acts...?

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Originally Posted by Imraan

Salaam
What exact steps did you take to perform self ruqya...?

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Wa'alaykumussalaam. This was 3 years ago. I remember filling big jars with water and recited Qur'an ayats on the water (3 Quls, Al fatihah, ayatul Kursi, ayats in one of the islamqa links I mentioned above, and I added some more ayats).
I printed all these ayats on paper and it was 4 pages total. Everyday I made a new batch of water and recited on it.
This is the only water I used - to cook, to make tea, to do wudu, to pour over myself (if I do ghusl/shower/bath, I do ghusl/shower/bath with regular water, then pour the Quran water over myself after that).
The effect started the first time I drank it. It was intense for at least 3 consecutive days, then it got lesser and lesser as days went by. I intended to do self ruqya for 2 weeks but I continued for roughly 2 months, just to be certain there is no residue.
I maintained regular salat and adhkar and dua as usual (including adhkar and dua for protection, which can protect from future affliction, but if the body or house house is already afflicted, the person has to do ruqya)
I saw things in dreams and while I was awake, voices in my ear - through these, Allah revealed to me what type of afflictions, how they attacked me, and why.
I threw away everything that is against Islam that I had in my possession (I am a revert. I became a muslim roughly 1 year before I did self ruqya).
Never in my life, I experienced anything like I experienced during self ruqya. I believed the Qur'an is words of Allah, but through self ruqya and the aftermath, Allah has made it much clearer to me (and I'm only scratching the surface) the magnitude of His words, who He is and the significance of this deen. Further more, I also understand, why the enemies of Islam, will do anything to eliminate any trace of this deen of the earth, including eliminating all muslims on earth, if they can.

Assalam o Alaikum rahamutullahi wa barakuthu brother,

How are you and your family? May Allah help you, In sha Allah everything will be fine. Have you faced any troubles recently again?

JazakAllah khair

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Originally Posted by taha_

Assalam o Alaikum rahamutullahi wa barakuthu brother,

How are you and your family? May Allah help you, In sha Allah everything will be fine. Have you faced any troubles recently again?

JazakAllah khair

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Walaikum salaam, me and my family are doing ok, more worried about covid more than anything else to be honest, my mother is elderly so she needs more protection from it as well as everyone else. The last window break was three weeks ago. I haven't been to see my daughter since and not sure when I will see her next due to covid, it's much worse in London as it has the most cases so I'm reluctant to go. I know they will come again to cause criminal damage when I go to see my daughter again. Sincere duas for safeguarding, help and justice for everyone....... continue

Jazak Allah for remembering me and my family, how are you and how is your family doing?, pray everyone is in best of health and imaan insh Allah...

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Originally Posted by Imraan

Walaikum salaam, me and my family are doing ok, more worried about covid more than anything else to be honest, my mother is elderly so she needs more protection from it as well as everyone else. The last window break was three weeks ago. I haven't been to see my daughter since and not sure when I will see her next due to covid, it's much worse in London as it has the most cases so I'm reluctant to go. I know they will come again to cause criminal damage when I go to see my daughter again. Sincere duas for safeguarding, help and justice for everyone....... continue

Jazak Allah for remembering me and my family, how are you and how is your family doing?, pray everyone is in best of health and imaan insh Allah...

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Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

Alhamdulillah we are still fine. You need to put trust in Allah and try to not panic. Media is just trying to make us panic by saying that covid is dangerous. Worse diseases still exist.

25,000 people die from hunger a day we ain't taking any attention about that.

Life and death are decreed by Allah.

May Allah help all of us and bless us with good health and protect us from diseases. May Allah also help you too.

JazakAllah khair

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Originally Posted by taha_

Assalam o Alaikum rahamutullahi wa barakuthu brother,

How are you and your family? May Allah help you, In sha Allah everything will be fine. Have you faced any troubles recently again?

JazakAllah khair

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ameen.

May Allah ta'ala remove all your difficulties and grant ease, brother @Imraan . May Allah SWT have mercy on you and may He always protect you and your family.

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May Allah ta'ala remove all your difficulties and grant ease, brother @Imraan . May Allah SWT have mercy on you and may He always protect you and your family.

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Jazak Allah for your prayers Sister @bint e aisha .

https://ilmseeker98.wordpress.com/20...nd-protection/

Du'as for Salaamati (peace and protection) – Ilm Seeker يا حَـيُّ يا قَيّـومُ بِـرَحْمَـتِكِ أَسْتَـغـيث ، أَصْلِـحْ لي شَـأْنـي كُلَّـه ، وَلا تَكِلـني إِلى نَفْـسي طَـرْفَةَ عَـين "On You Who is Everliving and Sustains and Protects everything, I seek assistance through the means of your mercy, correct for me all my affairs and do not entrust me to my Nafs (myself) for the moment of a…...

Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam has stated, “When Allah decrees a certain rank (in Jannah) for a person which he cannot reach through his deeds, Allah afflicts him with a test in his body, wealth, or children, and then grants him the patience to bear that test until he reaches the rank decreed for him.” (Abu Dawud)


Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam has stated, “When those who suffered (in this life) will receive their reward on the Day of Qiyamah (judgement), those who enjoyed good health and prosperity will wish that their skins were cut with scissors in the world (so they may attain the same reward.)” (Sunan Tirmidhi)

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Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam has stated, “When Allah decrees a certain rank (in Jannah) for a person which he cannot reach through his deeds, Allah afflicts him with a test in his body, wealth, or children, and then grants him the patience to bear that test until he reaches the rank decreed for him.” (Abu Dawud)


Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam has stated, “When those who suffered (in this life) will receive their reward on the Day of Qiyamah (judgement), those who enjoyed good health and prosperity will wish that their skins were cut with scissors in the world (so they may attain the same reward.)” (Sunan Tirmidhi)

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Assalam Walaikum Sister @bint e aisha , regarding the first statement. Am i going through these hardships in the past years because I am not substantiating enough good deeds that meets the requirements of my place in Jannah. Oh man makes me think, should I have been a hafiz instead of chasing a career through the UK education system as my mom always says to me. Or is it because i have sinned i am paying for it? I need to increase my deeds more if I want some relief. I do perform acts of virtue but now im thinkin its not enough. May Allah swt give me thawfiq to do more than I am currently doing. I fear some acts of virtue will make me feel and look weaker than I already am so some of these acts I leave out i.e. forgiveness.

Now i feel like i've got a target deed level to meet, except i dont know what the target is.

what if ive got a higher rank in jannah than my ex and thats why theyre able to succeed in all the wrong that they do because their tests are substantially less.

Can the rank that is decreed be elevated to something more later?

I just feel they are winning no matter what evil they do. I can't deal with criminals
I feel drained, I sometimes just feel like i dont know what to do. Its hard depending on faith alone. We need action coupled with faith if we want results. Its figuring what action is needed that is the hard part.

sorry for all the questions, i am criticised by many for my ability to be too curious.

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Assalam Walaikum Sister @bint e aisha , regarding the first statement. Am i going through these hardships in the past years because I am not substantiating enough good deeds that meets the requirements of my place in Jannah. Oh man makes me think, should I have been a hafiz instead of chasing a career through the UK education system as my mom always says to me. Or is it because i have sinned i am paying for it? I need to increase my deeds more if I want some relief. I do perform acts of virtue but now im thinkin its not enough. May Allah swt give me thawfiq to do more than I am currently doing. I fear some acts of virtue will make me feel and look weaker than I already am so some of these acts I leave out i.e. forgiveness.

Now i feel like i've got a target deed level to meet, except i dont know what the target is.

what if ive got a higher rank in jannah than my ex and thats why theyre able to succeed in all the wrong that they do because their tests are substantially less.

Can the rank that is decreed be elevated to something more later?

I just feel they are winning no matter what evil they do. I can't deal with criminals
I feel drained, I sometimes just feel like i dont know what to do. Its hard depending on faith alone. We need action coupled with faith if we want results. Its figuring what action is needed that is the hard part.

sorry for all the questions, i am criticised by many for my ability to be too curious.

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This is not about winning, this is about ego. You need to let go of that ego. Who is the best of all creations? Prophet mohammad peace be upon him, yet these children threw mud and trash and stone at him they where able to grow old of age and die and they attacked THE PROPHET OF Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa). Did they win in this world?

Maybe you should stop thinking of winning and losing. You think she won only because she got to tarnish your name, destroy your relationship with your offspring, vandalize your property, take you to court, use man-made law to destroy family and destroy relationship between father and child and her ability to go to the media and male bash her heart content and people cheer her giving her this false illusion of superiority, dominance and having upper hand over men are all form of winning? Everything I just listed here that make you think she won is actually losing and losing and losing and destroying herself and her child. With female been deficient in intellect and before the moderator block my post, attack me or say I am a women hater this is what the prophet peace be upon him (himself) said came as revelation to teach us man-kind or else Allah will not say man have a decree over women nor will he say men are the head of the household...he would have said women are the head of the household no matter how she suppress men at school and academic level which here women outshine men no question about it....it still doesn't change what the prophet peace be upon him said here. Your ex-wife proofs the very deficient in intellect in women, she is the one who is destroying HERSELF and her OWN OFFSPRING even though in the short term it look like YOU ARE THE VICTIM. Here are the actions in the vial the shows why she is not winning:

A) Tarnish your name = By her act of tarnishing her name she is getting the wrath and anger of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa) which in return will punish her in dunaya before akhira. She may get physically abused or emotionally abused and you don't know it. She might have miserable life, get depression, health diseases and even financial calamities and you do not even know it.

B) destroy your relationship with your offpsring = By her act of cutting ties she is getting curse and anger of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa) and Allah threatened hellfire to people who do this. Allah will punish her in dunaya before akhira for her evil act and even in future she and her daughter may not be in good terms or even lose control of her daughter.

C) vandalize your property = By her act of destroying your property she is getting the curse and anger of Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa) and Allah will punish her in hellfire if she does not repent and stop. If she does not repent, Allah will punish her in dunaya before akhira by having her property destroyed. You do not know. Do you?

D) take you to court = By her act of using man-made law over Allah's law she is at a high risk of shirk and kufir. So what better punished than knowing she may end up a disbeliever?

I want you to count how many times she is getting the curse and anger of Allah on her? See how deficient she is in intellect? I feel sorry for your evil ex-wife, she may "LOOK" like the winner even if she end up living happily ever after and die winning and you have no access to your child until you die and meet her in the after-life, she is in fact the biggest loser! Big L.

Your issue is your ego is popped and she have the upper hand on you and you have no control over the situation. You never did have control over your life. Nor does she have control over hers let alone you. You are under the control of Allah (subhanahu Wa Talaa) as everyone of us are. Pray. Worship Allah. Do not associate partners with him. Move. On. Put your trust on Allah and move on.

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Assalam Walaikum Sister @bint e aisha , regarding the first statement. Am i going through these hardships in the past years because I am not substantiating enough good deeds that meets the requirements of my place in Jannah. Oh man makes me think, should I have been a hafiz instead of chasing a career through the UK education system as my mom always says to me.

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Walaikumus Salam warahmatullah brother,

Unfortunately I'm not a person of knowledge but I will try to answer and share whatever I already know and may Allah ta'ala forgive me if there are errors in it.

Our general understanding is that Allah ta’ala afflicts those with trails who are more beloved to Him because He wants to give them more and more in the hereafter. This life is nothing, it is just like a dream. Allah ta'ala knows the reality of this life and we don't. Hence He afflicts people with trials in this worthless life so they can attain eternal peace and happiness in the hereafter.

It was narrated by Sa‘d ibn Abi Waqqaas (may Allah be pleased with him) who said: I said: O Messenger of Allah, who among the people are most sorely tested? He said: “The Prophets, then the next best and the next best. A man will be tested according to his level of religious commitment. If his religious commitment is solid, his test will be more severe, but if there is any weakness in his religious commitment, he will be tested according to his level of religious commitment. And calamity will continue to befall a person until he walks on the earth with no sin on him.”

Narrated by at-Tirmidhi (2398)

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Oh man makes me think, should I have been a hafiz instead of chasing a career through the UK education system as my mom always says to me.

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If you feel you should have been a hafiz then I would say it is never too late. Qur'an can be memorised at any age. And we have so many examples around us. Even the Prophet صلی الله عليه وسلم and his Sahabah memorised the Qur'an at older ages. So you can start inshaAllah. I was listening to a scholar and he said if all of you can't memorise the whole Qur'an then at least last five juzz should be memorised. May Allah grant us the tawfeeq.

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Or is it because i have sinned i am paying for it?

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If you think it is because of sins then too it is a blessing of Allah. It's always a win win situation for a Muslim alhamdulillah. The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:

“If Allah wills good for His slave, He hastens his punishment in this world, and if He wills bad for His slave, He withholds from him (the punishment for) his sin, until He requites him for it on the Day of Resurrection.” at-Tirmidhi (2396)

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I need to increase my deeds more if I want some relief. I do perform acts of virtue but now im thinkin its not enough. May Allah swt give me thawfiq to do more than I am currently doing. I fear some acts of virtue will make me feel and look weaker than I already am so some of these acts I leave out i.e. forgiveness.

Now i feel like i've got a target deed level to meet, except i dont know what the target is.

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Ameen thumma ameen. It's always good to increase your hasanat. The more the better inshaAllah.

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what if ive got a higher rank in jannah than my ex and thats why theyre able to succeed in all the wrong that they do because their tests are substantially less.

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I don't think I properly understood your question, but please read the hadith I've quoted above once again. When Allah wills bad for His slave, He withholds from him the punishment for his sin until the day of resurrection. May Allah ta'ala protect us. You should be grateful that you are facing difficulties in this life so your hereafter will be better inshaAllah.

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Can the rank that is decreed be elevated to something more later?

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If Allah wills, yes.

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I just feel they are winning no matter what evil they do. I can't deal with criminals
I feel drained, I sometimes just feel like i dont know what to do. Its hard depending on faith alone. We need action coupled with faith if we want results. Its figuring what action is needed that is the hard part.

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Allah ta'ala is JUST. Never ever believe that He will unjustly make the oppressors win. If you feel like they are winning, it is only in this world. Akhirat is for you inshaAllah.

And yes action is always required. Tie the camel and then make tawakkul. The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam said: “Take precautions as everybody is guided to that which has been destined for him.”

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sorry for all the questions, i am criticised by many for my ability to be too curious.

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No need to say sorry as it is always good to ask questions, we all learn from it so you're most welcome.

Wassalam

@Imraan . It doesn't matter hafiz or not. You are good man and loved by Allah. How many hafiz are there but don't apply the Quran in their life or even are good people? I met one hafiz who swore a false oath on the book of Allah. A true hafiz is man who understands and memorizes so that he
APPLIES Quran to his life. Hafiz is nothing if he its just letters and sounds memorizing so he can show off as a bride price, position, or "guaranteed" position in janah. Apply Quran is more important. Whatever happens is they way Allah wanted and decreed. May Allah bless you and make it 3asy for yoy

They broke my windows again last night. My mother was praying in the front room while it happened. Thankfully none of the bricks made it into the house.

Managed to get a registration of the car after myself and the police pursued the car as it was heading south towards London, police apprehended them on the motorway as they were trying to get away. Police took their details and then let them go.

Now we await police action insh Allah.

Innallaha ma'as sabireen.

Please remember me and my family in your prayers... especially the women folk that live in my house.

Jazak Allah.

May Allah SWT protect you all. I don’t know what to say. SubhanAllah. It’s quite shocking to read your story.
May Allah SWT bless you and reward you for struggles. Ameen

If anyone can help me get details from just a car registration in the UK let me know. PM me. The police know but will not disclose that kind of information to the public due to data protection.

"Stand firm for your rights" which is what it looks like that I am doing, however collateral damage is more terror and trauma to female folk for now, even myself I feel the trauma.

This is where we are supposed to be!, why? because Allah wills it and Allah swt wants us right where we are right now! ..........Yallaah, I miss the good old days!

If the police knows then maybe they will disclose it to you inshaAllah
The police will probably ask you first, if you want to press charges (anyone in the right mind will, but they usually ask first) and if you said you will, then they will disclose the information to you.
I don't know why but it feels like you are getting close to the end of this horrible situation inshaAllah May Allah grant you the best outcome and may He bless you all with safety, good health and patience until it all ends

Its interesting that they let them go after the car chase. They would have been locked up instantly over here and the details about the case would have been disclosed to you almost immediately.