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Originally Posted by Imraan
And she will be 4 and 5 and 6 and so on.....your presence to her now will be more harmful to her than helpful to her. She will build her life around the family she is living with and she will be happy without you and she will not even think about you and through the environment and her mother she will hate you, resent you, etc and and and and....You coming in now will add more fire to the drama wood. Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa) have tested you and he have given you something better than her, way better, it is just not something you can see in this world as physical material. Don't trade it for Dunaya. You have done everything in your heart to reach her but there is a force that is indestructable...preventing you from seeing her. This is of no fault of your own and therefore will not be punished for it. The best way...to really help your daughter is to move on, let the media, let society, let her family and her win. Let them enforce the stereo type that we don't need fathers and fathers are bad because see, he couldn't do the impossible to access his children because the mother and her family is doing haraam thing by preventing you to see the children. I will happy take the title deadbeat dad and attack in fatherhood. Because to me, I am not being a father to please society. Or take a pat on my head. Or to get appraisal...that is usually women and mothers. They love to be the victims and love to take appraisal for been mothers and love to be glorified and in many cases, so many of them love to be worshipped. You....you are better than that....clean the dust from your chest...rub the mud from your face...standup....do what you need to be done in Islamic shari'ah law and move on. You know......it could be that this girl, that this baby girl....is going to be a monster to you, she might end up destroying you in this world before the afterlife....you don't know that....maybe Allah (Subahanu Wa Talaa) is protecting you from her, how do you know? Maybe if there was no divorce and you still married to this family, as the girl grows older will conspire with her mother against you...you will be the "Yes, dear. Year, honey. As you wish honey. Ask your mother." man...the weak...submissive man with no backbone. She may end up a feminist. Man hating. Gay? She may disagree with Hijjab, object with the command of Allah...constantly question why is there gender difference.....she may even go as far as say that Allah hates women (Authobillah).....how do you know that she may not be all of this? For all you know, that Allah wants to put all the responsibility on the mother and blame on her and give you reason to get high reward in the afterlife for the hardship you are going through and pain you are going through......when you die brother and you see paradise and hellfire in front of you, at that time...you will take your baby girl and throw her by your own in the pit of hellfire if it means you entering paradise.
Better yet, you will take your own mother...who birthed you...breastfed you...and drag her by her own hair as she screams and sacrifice her and throw her in hellfire if it means saving YOUR OWN SKIN....You cannot deny that...because if you don't...she will happily do it herself to you (your own mother). Be thankful you are in this situation...Allah is selling the dunaya in your behalf (something you have hard time doing yourself) for akhira...ever thought that is a possibility? Look at your calamity in taqwaa and yaqeen and be happy with whatever happens to you, because everything from Allah (if you have imaan) is good and for your benefit. Would you rather instead of separating your daughter and you, that Allah takes your health and you live in every second wishing when it is end as form of test and trail? You may not be able to pass the test of your health been taking away from you. Allah knows which test you can handle and which you cannot.
