My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightmare,

Assalam walaikum

in february i was called into the police station for the third time in regards to false allegations. shortly after i was exonerated and no further action taken by police. I am yet to make counter allegations against my ex and family in regards to malicious allegations, harrasment.

the window breakers havent come since june last year and the police are really slow

on a positive note, in sha Allah i will be remarried this weekend.

The wife to be knows the history and knows I will still pursue my daughter (i'm thinking just that little bit further.... because i still have patience and I am attached), contact with kid to be reinstated within 2 or 3 months..... anyway she's ok with everything. all family background checked out ok, now its down to the wife to be's character, which i'll only know once she lives with me.

I pray that im not tested further, as i dont think i can take another heart break or witness another failed marriage. I will maintain positivity, start fresh and look onward in sha Allah, i do still remember everything daily and i pray daily, the trauma is still there lingering around along with everything else and worried i may be called in to the police station again.

Please remember me and my family in your prayers, please do pray for me.

everything that happens...... Bi Idthnillah...

Jazak Allah Khair

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Originally Posted by Imraan

Assalam walaikum

in february i was called into the police station for the third time in regards to false allegations. shortly after i was exonerated and no further action taken by police. I am yet to make counter allegations against my ex and family in regards to malicious allegations, harrasment.

the window breakers havent come since june last year and the police are really slow

on a positive note, in sha Allah i will be remarried this weekend.

The wife to be knows the history and knows I will still pursue my daughter (i'm thinking just that little bit further.... because i still have patience and I am attached), contact with kid to be reinstated within 2 or 3 months..... anyway she's ok with everything. all family background checked out ok, now its down to the wife to be's character, which i'll only know once she lives with me.

I pray that im not tested further, as i dont think i can take another heart break or witness another failed marriage. I will maintain positivity, start fresh and look onward in sha Allah, i do still remember everything daily and i pray daily, the trauma is still there lingering around along with everything else and worried i may be called in to the police station again.

Please remember me and my family in your prayers, please do pray for me.

everything that happens...... Bi Idthnillah...

Jazak Allah Khair

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May Allah make it easy for you, brother.

Aoa. Reading this i feel like i am reading my future. Difference is i don't like the guy my parents have picked out for me but social pressure and constant loneliness drove me to say yes. I wont be happy with the guy and i will take up every moment of escaping his house when i can.

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Eventually make his life miserable.

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Originally Posted by Imraan

Assalam walaikum

in february i was called into the police station for the third time in regards to false allegations. shortly after i was exonerated and no further action taken by police. I am yet to make counter allegations against my ex and family in regards to malicious allegations, harrasment.

the window breakers havent come since june last year and the police are really slow

on a positive note, in sha Allah i will be remarried this weekend.

The wife to be knows the history and knows I will still pursue my daughter (i'm thinking just that little bit further.... because i still have patience and I am attached), contact with kid to be reinstated within 2 or 3 months..... anyway she's ok with everything. all family background checked out ok, now its down to the wife to be's character, which i'll only know once she lives with me.

I pray that im not tested further, as i dont think i can take another heart break or witness another failed marriage. I will maintain positivity, start fresh and look onward in sha Allah, i do still remember everything daily and i pray daily, the trauma is still there lingering around along with everything else and worried i may be called in to the police station again.

Please remember me and my family in your prayers, please do pray for me.

everything that happens...... Bi Idthnillah...

Jazak Allah Khair

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Brother, I am curious. How are you feeling today? I hope you are doing good? I pray you are doing well, brother. I hope your new marriage will be better than the first one :D I pray that Allah bless you with many sons and daughters who are pleasing to your eyes and be of good character and imaan, ameen.

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Originally Posted by iammuslim98

Aoa. Reading this i feel like i am reading my future. Difference is i don't like the guy my parents have picked out for me but social pressure and constant loneliness drove me to say yes. I wont be happy with the guy and i will take up every moment of escaping his house when i can.

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Eventually make his life miserable.

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This is wrong sister, both you and your husband will be affected due to your attitude towards your marriage...

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Originally Posted by xboxisdead

Brother, I am curious. How are you feeling today? I hope you are doing good? I pray you are doing well, brother. I hope your new marriage will be better than the first one :D I pray that Allah bless you with many sons and daughters who are pleasing to your eyes and be of good character and imaan, ameen.

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Assalam walaikum, alhamdulillah I'm doing OK, taking married life slow, learning more about my wife, she seems to be getting along with me and my family, think we are both learning about each other, no one is perfect, so there were some off road here n there, might just be down to mine n hers paranoia.. We both ain't the same person, so I say give it more time. Marriage does test your patience. Oh I wish it was easy, in sha Allah it gets easier.

I still have my kid to think about, the other continues to make my life hell in family court, a constant reminder.

I pray everyday. Inna ma iyya rabbi saya deen.....

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Originally Posted by Imraan

Assalam walaikum, alhamdulillah I'm doing OK, taking married life slow, learning more about my wife, she seems to be getting along with me and my family, think we are both learning about each other, no one is perfect, so there were some off road here n there, might just be down to mine n hers paranoia.. We both ain't the same person, so I say give it more time. Marriage does test your patience. Oh I wish it was easy, in sha Allah it gets easier.

I still have my kid to think about, the other continues to make my life hell in family court, a constant reminder.

I pray everyday. Inna ma iyya rabbi saya deen.....

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Insha'Allah khair brother. I pray that Allah gives you strength to fight whatever challenges comes in front of you, and just know that you are putting your trust on Allah which is an excellent sign you have strong imaan. May Allah raise you highest level possible in Jannah ameen :cry: ya rab. Marriage is challenging and tough, but you are defiantly stronger man than me, brother. I am very proud of you. I pray you raise great children ameen ya rab. As for your other daughter? Don't worry about her. Me personally I will tell you that she is super happy and very much fine. Just scroll back in the previous pages of this post and read it again the advices that I have given you when your daughter grows older. Just know that your baby girl you love so much could be used as a weapon by her mother. Women do this all the time. They find what part that is closest to the heart of a man and hurt him with it. Just know that it could have being anything that you love so much and she would have used it against you. Just picture this...if what is closest to your heart is: a car, Playstation, dog, etc. then she would have done everything in her wake to prevent you from seeing it or accessing it. Just know, that is what women do. After they stab the man on the heart, then they mock the man and humiliates him for reacting appropriately. This is their super power. Only if they knew it is not super power, but one of the many reasons why they will be thrown in hellfire.

Don't fret...know that the ex-wife of yours is only hurting herself. Even if the entire society backs her up...know that Allah is the one who backs you up against the oppressor and that is sufficient for you. Let her have her shaytaan army to back her up...you have Allah and his army to back you up and that is truly the ultimate success. Your ex-wife is just digging further deeper into hellfire...if anything...feel sorry for her. Cry for her. She is a pethatic human being, who is weak, inferior and only is burning herself deeper into hellfire and oppressing herself.

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Originally Posted by Imraan

This is wrong sister, both you and your husband will be affected due to your attitude towards your marriage...

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Aoa..somethings are destined for destruction.

Assalam walaikum, hope everyone is ok?, i'm still here. Alhamdu Lillah

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Originally Posted by Imraan

Assalam walaikum, hope everyone is ok?, i'm still here. Alhamdu Lillah

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Update us man.

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Originally Posted by xboxisdead

Update us man.

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brrrr.....

single again, suffered a second divorce last year. Not sure what happens now.. Only Allah swt knows, but i'm keeping an open mind about everything. Miracles can happen so keeping the faith.

brainwashed daughter-court-thing ongoing but im not letting it take over my life.

I'm still alive (despite dangerous 1st ex) and every morning i wake up I am still saying Alhamdulillah.
my Mother is ageing too so with that too, everyday is a blessing.

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Originally Posted by Imraan

brrrr.....

single again, suffered a second divorce last year. Not sure what happens now.. Only Allah swt knows, but i'm keeping an open mind about everything. Miracles can happen so keeping the faith.

brainwashed daughter-court-thing ongoing but im not letting it take over my life.

I'm still alive (despite dangerous 1st ex) and every morning i wake up I am still saying Alhamdulillah.
my Mother is ageing too so with that too, everyday is a blessing.

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Didn't I tell you not to get married again? I did warn you. There you go. Stay single. Trust me. I have done it and I am 42 years and I don't regret it. If I can do it, you can. Love yourself. Buy stuff for yourself. Enjoy yourself. If you cannot stand being by yourself with yourself, how can you be able to handle someone else? You have so much self character improvement it is not even funny. Focus on yourself both physically and psychologically. Don't be shocked if your daughter want nothing to do with you. Whooo cares. Pretend she is an open enemy of Allah, would you want her then? Wallahi if I had children and all of them are enemies of Allah they are my enemies too. Not saying your daughter is, but I am also saying not to be shocked if in future she is either. The environment that she was planted on will easily open the door where she will object in Allah's command and even become his enemy.

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Originally Posted by xboxisdead

Didn't I tell you not to get married again? I did warn you. There you go. Stay single. Trust me. I have done it and I am 42 years and I don't regret it. If I can do it, you can. Love yourself. Buy stuff for yourself. Enjoy yourself. If you cannot stand being by yourself with yourself, how can you be able to handle someone else? You have so much self character improvement it is not even funny. Focus on yourself both physically and psychologically. Don't be shocked if your daughter want nothing to do with you. Whooo cares. Pretend she is an open enemy of Allah, would you want her then? Wallahi if I had children and all of them are enemies of Allah they are my enemies too. Not saying your daughter is, but I am also saying not to be shocked if in future she is either. The environment that she was planted on will easily open the door where she will object in Allah's command and even become his enemy.

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im only going by the quran brother so i will always be open to companionship as long as she is my destined soulmate suited for me, then nothing else matters an everything else will fall in place:
78:8 And (have We not) created you in pairs

i try to stay positive and optomistic about everything otherwise i would drown in my own pessimism.
im happy the way i am, my calamities have humbled me further and shaped me the way I am today..... it could have been worse...
still a firm believer in Allahs plan and still have hope even if i die with that hope i dont mind.

Assalam Walaikum

Just letting you know that I am still around.
Health is OK alhamdulillah, just the odd anxiety asthma problem.

I am even more humbled than I was before as I grow older.

Still in the family court. Ain't seen my daughter for over 3 years and I'm about to pack it in, can't deal with the slow court process. I am thinking of doing a speech in the next hearing because I can't go on anymore. Daughter is 6 years old now. I keep thinking I'm Palestine and my ex wife is those people bombing gaza. What an analogy... she wants to keep me seperated from my daughter forever ... and will go to any length with no end.

I would like to get married again. Just haven't found her yet. Will be my third time.... and yes I am afraid.

I hope everyone is well.

Please keep me, my family, and everyone suffering globally in your prayers.

Jazak Allah Khair

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Originally Posted by Imraan

Assalam Walaikum

Just letting you know that I am still around.
Health is OK alhamdulillah, just the odd anxiety asthma problem.

I am even more humbled than I was before as I grow older.

Still in the family court. Ain't seen my daughter for over 3 years and I'm about to pack it in, can't deal with the slow court process. I am thinking of doing a speech in the next hearing because I can't go on anymore. Daughter is 6 years old now. I keep thinking I'm Palestine and my ex wife is those people bombing gaza. What an analogy... she wants to keep me seperated from my daughter forever ... and will go to any length with no end.

I would like to get married again. Just haven't found her yet. Will be my third time.... and yes I am afraid.

I hope everyone is well.

Please keep me, my family, and everyone suffering globally in your prayers.

Jazak Allah Khair

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wa alaikum salam thanks for updating us :)

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