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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Originally Posted by
xboxisdead
This part is the part I do not understand. Why do you yearn for justice to be in dunya? Wouldn't you prefer the justice to be postpone for akhira (afterlife)? What if the justice have indeed been brought to you in this life and you get justice in additional to that you have full custody of your daughter and you have the power and she have to pay YOU child support? Let us say...you come victorious and all of this have happened. There. You got your justice in dunya. Your daughter loves, your her daddies little girl and everyone is happy ever after. Now when you die and you are resurrected and hellfire is in front of you and you have not much deed to enter paradise and you need every excuse on your baggage to get deeds from other people to save your skin...you go in the afterlife.."AH!" that is right! Those family tortured me so you say to Allah that those families have done this and that to me...but....wait...you already got your justice. You got it in Dunaya, remember? You have won them and they last and your daughter is yours and she was your daddy little girl, remember? Now what?
Wouldn't you prefer instead of having it here and having your daughter and having her be your daddies little girl instead of that you have her your worse enemy, the family cut ties between you and the daughter (because of the mother) and she goes to Operah who endorse male bashing will use you for political reasons to show to the world that men are indeed unfit parents that they are mature little children and that women should be the one who have full custody and raising the children and she bashes you in TV and your daughter hates you and you lose your rights you are oppressed 100% here in this world, no one cares for you (because you are a man and a father) and the daughter want nothing to do with you? I know it sounds perverted but look at it from this perspective:
A) Cutting ties between parent and child is hara'am. The mother and her family is doing the job not you. Now you have huge power over them in day of judgement. People under estimate the horror and the curse and the punishment they will be getting for the cause of cutting ties between one Muslim to another (let alone between child and parent). Mostly, women are the biggest culprit in this regard.
B) Child hating parent and not wanting to do anything with the parent is hara'am in Islam. Your daughter will be poisoned and she will hate you and want nothing to do with you. Now you have more power in your bag in day of judgement. You are getting higher and higher and higher and higher and higher level in Jannah. Why do you want to throw all that away for Dunaya? (IS there any guarantee that your daughter will even do prayer to you when you die?)
C) You go under the category of oppressed. Any single person who is oppressed the curtain (not physical one mind you) between the person who is doing dua and to Allah (Subhanu Wa Talaa) is lifted. Anyone! ANYONE! Because Allah hates...HATES OPPRESSION. Look at the GREATEST GIFT you have now. You have Dua that the curtain is lifted...it is immediately answered. Take this opportunity and make Dua that Allah make you die Muslim, that he enters you paradise, that you pass the trail of death, that the shaitan (as you are about to die) cannot have his hands on you, that when the angels ask you in the grave you answer them correctly and easily. Make Dua for the akhira. Make dua that Allah helps the suffering Muslims in the world. Stop focusing on Dunaya and getting Dunaya justice.
Thats all true.
Deeds sake, he can also forgive them from the heart and do whatever he can as a husband and a father, it will boost his deeds up.
Btw I personally think his wife and his in law's have completely oppressed brother Imran and it's not fair on Imrans mother. So idk I think he should cut it off with them for his mum's sake because his in law's do sound immature and obnoxious.
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Originally Posted by
xboxisdead
This part is the part I do not understand. Why do you yearn for justice to be in dunya? Wouldn't you prefer the justice to be postpone for akhira (afterlife)? What if the justice have indeed been brought to you in this life and you get justice in additional to that you have full custody of your daughter and you have the power and she have to pay YOU child support? Let us say...you come victorious and all of this have happened. There. You got your justice in dunya. Your daughter loves, your her daddies little girl and everyone is happy ever after. Now when you die and you are resurrected and hellfire is in front of you and you have not much deed to enter paradise and you need every excuse on your baggage to get deeds from other people to save your skin...you go in the afterlife.."AH!" that is right! Those family tortured me so you say to Allah that those families have done this and that to me...but....wait...you already got your justice. You got it in Dunaya, remember? You have won them and they last and your daughter is yours and she was your daddy little girl, remember? Now what?
Wouldn't you prefer instead of having it here and having your daughter and having her be your daddies little girl instead of that you have her your worse enemy, the family cut ties between you and the daughter (because of the mother) and she goes to Operah who endorse male bashing will use you for political reasons to show to the world that men are indeed unfit parents that they are mature little children and that women should be the one who have full custody and raising the children and she bashes you in TV and your daughter hates you and you lose your rights you are oppressed 100% here in this world, no one cares for you (because you are a man and a father) and the daughter want nothing to do with you? I know it sounds perverted but look at it from this perspective:
A) Cutting ties between parent and child is hara'am. The mother and her family is doing the job not you. Now you have huge power over them in day of judgement. People under estimate the horror and the curse and the punishment they will be getting for the cause of cutting ties between one Muslim to another (let alone between child and parent). Mostly, women are the biggest culprit in this regard.
B) Child hating parent and not wanting to do anything with the parent is hara'am in Islam. Your daughter will be poisoned and she will hate you and want nothing to do with you. Now you have more power in your bag in day of judgement. You are getting higher and higher and higher and higher and higher level in Jannah. Why do you want to throw all that away for Dunaya? (IS there any guarantee that your daughter will even do prayer to you when you die?)
C) You go under the category of oppressed. Any single person who is oppressed the curtain (not physical one mind you) between the person who is doing dua and to Allah (Subhanu Wa Talaa) is lifted. Anyone! ANYONE! Because Allah hates...HATES OPPRESSION. Look at the GREATEST GIFT you have now. You have Dua that the curtain is lifted...it is immediately answered. Take this opportunity and make Dua that Allah make you die Muslim, that he enters you paradise, that you pass the trail of death, that the shaitan (as you are about to die) cannot have his hands on you, that when the angels ask you in the grave you answer them correctly and easily. Make Dua for the akhira. Make dua that Allah helps the suffering Muslims in the world. Stop focusing on Dunaya and getting Dunaya justice.
Brother
@xboxisdead
.... you say it like i should keep my calamities as tokens. if my existence and my efforts in making my journey easier and worthy of our lord (as well as those who i am responsible for) in this dunya didnt matter to me, then yeah i could have kept those tokens and saved them and cut myself off from this dunya and society. These calamities have not just affected me, its affected my close ones, some are much more vulnerable than me, its affected my day to day life.. i guess its natural human instinct to want justice, have you ever been violated in any form, i cant stay in a shell for the rest of my life either? those people many centuries ago went out on islamic conquest, during their journeys they were oppressed, inimidated, discriminated and persecuted, despite all that they chose to fight back, fight for their rights, fight for their religion. sabr plays a big part but while being patient the mind wonders and this does take up time and mental effort. Thus resulting in more prayer more thought on how to make things stop i.e. the window breaking, how to succeed in court in regards to daughter, my general view now is keep praying, keep trying, have the intention, leave the rest with Allah swt. Yes i have mentally prepared myself for all outcomes concerning my daugter in coming years but i cant help feeling the mothers family got away it, i mean come on.... lying to relatives (probably to save their own backs), lying in court to keep daughter away, car arson x 1, window breaking on 3 seperate occasions.... i will still pray everyday brother
@xboxisdead
.... they claim to be practising muslims, going to saudi arabia every two years, in their house the quran is read nearly daily by the mother in law, salah is perfomred in the house by certain family members, if they have been observing our faith, how can such derogotary inhumane words against me and my family be expressed by their tongues, how can they lie? how can they cause criminal damage and cause terror amongst the vulnerable? i pray that Allah punishes them, makes them vulnerable, makes them so small that they genuinely turn to Allah swt so that they may come closer to him, even if it means me asking for divine punishment on them in return for their sins to be expiated... (in the same manner of my sins being expiated through calamities allowed on us by Allah swt, yeah, im not perfect)
heres what i pray for daily .... for justice, for success, for good health, for rizq, for ease, for wanting a loyal god fearing family, for forgiveness of our sins, for strength and mental ability in overcoming problems and calamities, and its not just for myself, i pray for my family and all the believers, everyday without miss.
i'm going to keep trying for my girl until i have no resource or mental ability left, for as long as i have thawfiq and a chance i'll still be there trying until little girl can make decisions for herself. this is my life, i dont want it but something drives me this way i cant explain it. loads of people say abandon daughter right now, its a total waste of time and money, its a no win.... then i hear of some seperated fathers actually have managed to develop relationships with their daughters, their circumstances may have been less serious than mines... i mean im up against some mean ruthless people, what chance do i have? insh Allah prayer and determination will pay off, Allah swt can turn the tables in a split second if he wanted. this determination keeps me close to my deen, closer than i have ever been before... i didnt envisage such life but here i am.....
A) Cutting ties between parent and child is hara'am. The mother and her family is doing the job not you. Now you have huge power over them in day of judgement. People under estimate the horror and the curse and the punishment they will be getting for the cause of cutting ties between one Muslim to another (let alone between child and parent). Mostly, women are the biggest culprit in this regard.
Exactly.... the mother(child with her too) is doing her ummrah as you read this message, at the same time has kept my daughter from me for the past 2 years... just doesnt make sense!
B) Child hating parent and not wanting to do anything with the parent is hara'am in Islam. Your daughter will be poisoned and she will hate you and want nothing to do with you. Now you have more power in your bag in day of judgement. You are getting higher and higher and higher and higher and higher level in Jannah. Why do you want to throw all that away for Dunaya? (IS there any guarantee that your daughter will even do prayer to you when you die?)
no guarantees but i no longer assume the future, the future is what you try and make of it...
C) You go under the category of oppressed. Any single person who is oppressed the curtain (not physical one mind you) between the person who is doing dua and to Allah (Subhanu Wa Talaa) is lifted. Anyone! ANYONE! Because Allah hates...HATES OPPRESSION. Look at the GREATEST GIFT you have now. You have Dua that the curtain is lifted...it is immediately answered. Take this opportunity and make Dua that Allah make you die Muslim, that he enters you paradise, that you pass the trail of death, that the shaitan (as you are about to die) cannot have his hands on you, that when the angels ask you in the grave you answer them correctly and easily. Make Dua for the akhira. Make dua that Allah helps the suffering Muslims in the world. Stop focusing on Dunaya and getting Dunaya justice.
i pray everyday, it is being heard, yes for the oppressed and persecuted the curtain is lifted subhan Allah, every prayer to Allah swt is being recorded, rewards for recognition and request from almight are being credited subhan Allah, its the feelings of my struggling physical and mental human self that asks for help (the soul / nafs is spiritual and is at ease but wants whats best for its physical self), i know for every call not responded too straight away, my rewards are being banked elsewhere... knowing that im content to some extent, but i can't bear a muslim opressing me, i just cant. believing muslims do not behave this way nor do they carry out these acts....!
brother
@xboxisdead
, i appreciate your advice, i do but every individual is unique.... i am saying it how i think it and now im always trying to choose best course of action, i might not even see the light of the following day but as long as this heart beats my brain will always ponder for the good, always insh Allah....
Apologies in advance if I have offended anyone reading this, sometimes my frustrations can get the better of me, it has led me to this way of thought.. as always I pray to Allah swt for guidance
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Originally Posted by
Flawed
Thats all true.
Deeds sake, he can also forgive them from the heart and do whatever he can as a husband and a father, it will boost his deeds up.
Btw I personally think his wife and his in law's have completely oppressed brother Imran and it's not fair on Imrans mother. So idk I think he should cut it off with them for his mum's sake because his in law's do sound immature and obnoxious.
Oh I agree 100%. He should cut off any relations with the ex-wife, their family and his daughter if he can do it or limit the interaction with the daughter to professional level so as not come under heading of cutting ties. The daughter is not his friend...while she is a baby...she will be his enemy and not his child. Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa) have warned the men that your wives and children could be your biggest enemy. He have to understand that blood ties means nothing in the long scheme of things. You did not birth the child, the mother did, you did not breast feed the child, the mother did...so don't let her get in your mind and play with your heart like a fiddle and I mean the ex-wife here. She WILL use the child as a weapon against you. This is old tactic by women since long time....move on brother. Obligation to that daughter is financial...keep it strictly money. Save up the money for her inheritance and education, avoid it trying to gain custody. Go through the lawyer and make a legalized deal that you will pay this sum every month for the daughter, that when she grow up to age 6 or 7...visitation ones a week at a public area for certain hours. You leave. Daughter leave. Never tell your daughter where you live and everything...your daughter could be used as a spy by the mother to find means to hurt you and your mother. MOVE on....even if you limit your interaction with daughter by email or skype as long as you pay financially your save in afterlife and build new family.
Move...on.
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Originally Posted by
Life_Is_Short
Assalamu Alykum w. w.
First of all, I am sorry for everything that's happened. Just be patient with your spouse and increase in your prayer.
Marriage is WORK.
Secondly, I can relate to you on two fronts. I got married roughly a year ago, and I am from London while my husband is from Manchester. Also, we sort of met online but we were in a long-distance relationship for a long time.
I know your going through a hard time. Our young immature minds tend to think that marriage would solve everything, it will end all our trials and we would find peace but remember that Allah says that this life is a test and currently you are being tested through your marriage.
Also, I know it's difficult after all that you've been through but you have to focus on your wife's good qualities. You have to put EVERYTHING (the in-laws etc) aside and think about why you married her in the first place. I am sure there must be something good you saw in her.
I would also advice that you go to London and visit her regularly. Stay with her, help her out and show her kindness. The in-laws will also see that you're a good person for doing that. Tell her that you miss her. Try and show her that you care and that you want this marriage to work. After all that, you have to express how you feel. You have to say that you feel disrespected. You have to talk things out (in a nice way, don't raise your voice). You have to put your ego aside. Maybe not for each other's sake but for the sake of your daughter.
There's no relationship, no marriage out there that's perfect. I have had many arguments with my husband, even though we're both passive but we've argued and expressed many times that we want to end the marriage because it's not working out. I storm off to my parents in London. But the underlying feeling remains, he's a good person and I know that I will never find anyone like him. I married my husband on the basis of his character and because we were in a long distance relationship (which isn't good) I tested his character many times. You see you have to look at the positive and work with that.
It's hard (easier said then done) but try to be the bigger person, and instead of focusing on your rights, focus on her rights. That's the best advice I can give you.
Insh'Allah May Allah Make it Easier for you. Ameen
Assalam walaikum
I appreciate your kind words I know you mean well in your advice. I dont think you've read everything about my journey, I know theres a lot to read, but it came to a point of no return long time ago.
Would you reconcile with your husband if
- you caught him lying to you number of times which brought trust levels to nil.
- him and his family disgraced you and your family by spreading hate and rumours within your relatives and comm unity?
- you were cast as a bad person in a family court just so he could keep your child from you? Claims include you beating him up, domestic violence, you have mental health issues, list goes on.. etc.
- your family members car set on fire
- threatening phone calls to family members saying 'more to come'
- following that your family home where your family members reside is subjected to window breaking during 'night hours' on multiple occasions.
On the third window break upon taking advice from a mate i msgd my ex asking to sort this out in a civil and amicable manner (kind of like a white flag of surrender, .... forget pride), my messages were ignored...
These people have to be dealt with in a language they understand... I pray Allah swt deals with them insh Allah
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Originally Posted by
Imraan
Assalam walaikum
I appreciate your kind words I know you mean well in your advice. I dont think you've read everything about my journey, I know theres a lot to read, but it came to a point of no return long time ago.
Would you reconcile with your husband if
- you caught him lying to you number of times which brought trust levels to nil.
- him and his family disgraced you and your family by spreading hate and rumours within your relatives and comm unity?
- you were cast as a bad person in a family court just so he could keep your child from you? Claims include you beating him up, domestic violence, you have mental health issues, list goes on.. etc.
- your family members car set on fire
- threatening phone calls to family members saying 'more to come'
- following that your family home where your family members reside is subjected to window breaking during 'night hours' on multiple occasions.
On the third window break upon taking advice from a mate i msgd my ex asking to sort this out in a civil and amicable manner (kind of like a white flag of surrender, .... forget pride), my messages were ignored...
These people have to be dealt with in a language they understand... I pray Allah swt deals with them insh Allah
I'm sorry i didn't read your other post. Yes, it does seem like you've reached a point of no return. It also seems like there's too much interference from outsiders in your marriage. This should have been avoided from the beginning. You see when a girl goes back to her parents and expresses even a hint of distress, her family who naturally love her begin to gather hate for the husband and they fail to see the other side of the story or think logically. Unfortunately, this happens a lot in families and is one of the main factors that break marriages down. You should never discuss your issue with outsider unless and if you really need to. Moreover, women tend to do this a lot because they just can't keep emotions in, nor are they taught this before marriage.
From the other post, it also seems like you were option B for your wife. That's probably why she never took any responsibility within the marriage (proven by her lack of ability to compromise). It shows level of immaturity on her part.
Is there no way for you to communicate with your wife without the outside influence? Do you know where she stands with all this or is she just being manipulated?
Trust can be re-build provided your're both:
a) Willing to forget the past
b) Come to some sorts of term. Marriage is a HUGE compromise. You have to meet each other halfway.
I am really sorry, I know marriage can be difficult. No one here can truly understand your situation fully or what you've been through. We're all sat here with our keyboards trying to advice you with what's best but you truly know yourself, wife and this situation.
Inshallah, May Allah make it easier.
Just adding, If you think divorce is the only option, then so be it. If she isn't complying, not willing to compromise. That's fine. You deserve better.
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Originally Posted by
xboxisdead
Oh I agree 100%. He should cut off any relations with the ex-wife, their family and his daughter if he can do it or limit the interaction with the daughter to professional level so as not come under heading of cutting ties. The daughter is not his friend...while she is a baby...she will be his enemy and not his child. Allah (Subhanahu Wa Talaa) have warned the men that your wives and children could be your biggest enemy. He have to understand that blood ties means nothing in the long scheme of things. You did not birth the child, the mother did, you did not breast feed the child, the mother did...so don't let her get in your mind and play with your heart like a fiddle and I mean the ex-wife here. She WILL use the child as a weapon against you. This is old tactic by women since long time....move on brother. Obligation to that daughter is financial...keep it strictly money. Save up the money for her inheritance and education, avoid it trying to gain custody. Go through the lawyer and make a legalized deal that you will pay this sum every month for the daughter, that when she grow up to age 6 or 7...visitation ones a week at a public area for certain hours. You leave. Daughter leave. Never tell your daughter where you live and everything...your daughter could be used as a spy by the mother to find means to hurt you and your mother. MOVE on....even if you limit your interaction with daughter by email or skype as long as you pay financially your save in afterlife and build new family.
Move...on.
Honestly I think this is the best option for you brother Imran. Otherwise you will go through unnecessary suffering caused by your in laws who can play all kinds of dirty tricks to damage you. Also they have made it clear they don't want anything got to do with you and treat you like dirt.
I think Allah is protecting from them and showing you to another path.
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
Assalam walaikum,
They broke our windows again last week.
Everyone please still remember us in your duas....
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Originally Posted by
Imraan
Assalam walaikum,
They broke our windows again last week.
Everyone please still remember us in your duas....
Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
subhanAllah. May Allah always help you most. Keep your trust and hope in Allah. we dont know what your future will end up. Only Allah knows best. Keep trying in sha Allah.
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Originally Posted by
Imraan
Assalam walaikum,
They broke our windows again last week.
Everyone please still remember us in your duas....
Hmm this is getting too much. Are there any alternatives for you around this situation with your ex wife and your daughter? Like sth that you need to do to keep yourself safe from further damage. It seems like they're having fun while damaging your property and you emotionally.
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
I have no idea when this ends, they want the child maintenance money every month but they dont like the idea of me trying to establish a relationship with my daughter.
The alternative is give up the child, continue paying the mother for the next 16 years... what a crappy deal.... part of me finds it hard to accept it, which is why I persevere... for how long... only Allah knows. .
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Originally Posted by
Imraan
I have no idea when this ends, they want the child maintenance money every month but they dont like the idea of me trying to establish a relationship with my daughter.
The alternative is give up the child, continue paying the mother for the next 16 years... what a crappy deal.... part of me finds it hard to accept it, which is why I persevere... for how long... only Allah knows. .
You see...it is not a deal. You see it is obligatory on you by Allah's command himself that you financially support that child. It is not like she have this up hand on you where she is stealing money from you or anything like that, although she believes she is hurting you on the wallet side of things...not really. It is obligatory on the father to financially support the child when a divorce happens because Allah commanded the menfolk to financially support the children/child. So you are financially paying the child to please Allah and not to please a female nor to submit to a female and nor to worship a female and nor to obey a female. You are doing this because you submit to Allah, you worship Allah and you obey Allah that is it. What your wife is doing is she is destroying her afterlife. You don't get it. The victim here is your ex-wife and her family, they are self destroying themselves without them knowing it or even caring. In the end of it, they are the losers. Now for your daughter, be thankful she is a daughter. Because daughters can handle not having a father easier than sons. She have a mother, grandmother and grandfather they will take care of her and chances are she will be part of them and not even think twice about you. Don't worry about your daughter. This is more about you and your ego and how you feel you are getting a raw deal on this. My advice is for the sake of your mother and your sanity to do it for the pleasure of Allah that you let go of your daughter and pay financial support and to give your mother the peace she deserves. Had this been solo and you are living alone then do what you want to do. But this is now including your mother and it is not fair for her. Agree to the "deal" and let them think they have won and believe you are nothing more than human wallet and sperm donor. Let them use the political gain to proof to the world that men are unfit parents, buffoon, idiots, etc and they don't fight for their children. Let them have this game!
You have to do what you have in your basket. What is it? Financially support the child because Allah ordered you to do that so you do it. Whether society look down on that action and say that men are nothing more than human wallet and sperm donor because the value of men's role are demeaned is not your concern. You are not trying to proof that men can be more than that. Nor are you trying to play a political game. Nor are you trying to go through gender war, etc. You are under attack by the government himself...it is as clear as any picture you see. The laws are done on purpose to allow family breakup through the female and the females are too stupid enough to allow this to happen. The law is setup so that the government can remove the man from the household and make it impossible for the man to have access to the children and thus destroy family, masculinity and fatherhood so that when the women have supreme power and full rights above and beyond what Islam have decreed for her to have the government than have full control over society by going through the female. Your issue is not how you can fight her and her family.....because you are not fighting her you are fighting the very government and you cannot win.
I say accept the deal. So your mother can have peace of mind.
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
AssalamWalaikum
Please can I have a reminder of permissable 'Quranic' Duas that I can make which will stop the opressors in such a way that they pay for everything they have done in this life before Akhirah.
My family members are being persecuted and my property is being damaged.
Maybe i've not been reading the correct dua's?
for the past one year at least i include in my daily prayers amongst other things (after I pray my salah and when I rememeber in general in between activities):
Allahummak-fineehim bima shi 'ta
Rabbana Aftah Baynana Wa Bayna Qawmina Bil Haqqi Wa Anta Khayru Al Fatihin
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un, Allahumma ajirni fi musibati wa akhlif li khairan minha
Wa ufawwidu amri ila 'Llah
I yearn for the day they are exposed in this dunya, until they are exposed and punished they will never stop.
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Imraan
AssalamWalaikum
Please can I have a reminder of permissable 'Quranic' Duas that I can make which will stop the opressors in such a way that they pay for everything they have done in this life before Akhirah.
My family members are being persecuted and my property is being damaged.
Maybe i've not been reading the correct dua's?
for the past one year at least i include in my daily prayers amongst other things (after I pray my salah and when I rememeber in general in between activities):
Allahummak-fineehim bima shi 'ta
Rabbana Aftah Baynana Wa Bayna Qawmina Bil Haqqi Wa Anta Khayru Al Fatihin
Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un, Allahumma ajirni fi musibati wa akhlif li khairan minha
Wa ufawwidu amri ila 'Llah
I yearn for the day they are exposed in this dunya, until they are exposed and punished they will never stop.
Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
Dua [193] Seeking protection from wrongdoing people [28:21]
رَبِّ نَجِّنِيْ مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِيْنَ
My Lord, save me from the wrongdoing people.
Rabbi najjinee mina alqawmi aththalimeen
Surah Al-Qasas - 28:21
Dua [147] Dua of an oppressed person[4:75]
رَبَّنَا أَخْرِجْنَا مِنْ هَٰذِهِ الْقَرْيَةِ الظَّالِمِ أَهْلُهَا وَاجْعَلْ لَنَا مِنْ لَدُنْكَ وَلِيًّا وَّاجْعَلْ لَنَا مِنْ لَدُنْكَ نَصِيْرًا
Our Lord, take us out of this city of oppressive people and appoint for us from Yourself a protector and appoint for us from Yourself a helper?
rabbana akhrijna min hathihialqaryati aththalimi ahluhawajAAal lana min ladunka waliyyan wajAAallana min ladunka naseera
Surah An-Nisa - 4:75
Dua [195] Asking help against corrupt people [29:30]
رَبِّ انْصُرْنِيْ عَلَى الْقَوْمِ الْمُفْسِدِيْنَ
My Lord, support me against the corrupting people.
Rabbi onsurnee AAalaalqawmi almufsideen
Surah Al-'Ankaboot - 29:30
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Assalam o alaikum rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
Dua [193] Seeking protection from wrongdoing people [28:21]
رَبِّ نَجِّنِيْ مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِيْنَ
My Lord, save me from the wrongdoing people.
Rabbi najjinee mina alqawmi aththalimeen
Surah Al-Qasas - 28:21
Dua [147] Dua of an oppressed person[4:75]
رَبَّنَا أَخْرِجْنَا مِنْ هَٰذِهِ الْقَرْيَةِ الظَّالِمِ أَهْلُهَا وَاجْعَلْ لَنَا مِنْ لَدُنْكَ وَلِيًّا وَّاجْعَلْ لَنَا مِنْ لَدُنْكَ نَصِيْرًا
Our Lord, take us out of this city of oppressive people and appoint for us from Yourself a protector and appoint for us from Yourself a helper?
rabbana akhrijna min hathihialqaryati aththalimi ahluhawajAAal lana min ladunka waliyyan wajAAallana min ladunka naseera
Surah An-Nisa - 4:75
Dua [195] Asking help against corrupt people [29:30]
رَبِّ انْصُرْنِيْ عَلَى الْقَوْمِ الْمُفْسِدِيْنَ
My Lord, support me against the corrupting people.
Rabbi onsurnee AAalaalqawmi almufsideen
Surah Al-'Ankaboot - 29:30
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wonderful ayat.
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
Assalaamu'alaykum akhi
This may or may not help, but just a thought. Have you ever tried self ruqya? or at least ruqya your house?
I remember you mentioned you found taweez in your ex wife's bag (at the time she was still living with you) ? Sorry if I am mistaken, I haven't posted for a long time.
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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IslamLife00
Assalaamu'alaykum akhi
This may or may not help, but just a thought. Have you ever tried self ruqya? or at least ruqya your house?
I remember you mentioned you found taweez in your ex wife's bag (at the time she was still living with you) ? Sorry if I am mistaken, I haven't posted for a long time.
I've been to see someone about 8 months ago, he couldn't find anything. When ex was living with me I took her to the same guy because she said she needed it. When he recited the ex started shaking and hyperventilating, he diagnosed her with evil eye. Not a day goes by that we dont recite quran and duas in our house. I do pray for our enemy that they be punished for what they do, and that through punishment they do become true pious believers with morals, else they remain hypocrites.. nauzubillah.
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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I've been to see someone about 8 months ago, he couldn't find anything. When ex was living with me I took her to the same guy because she said she needed it. When he recited the ex started shaking and hyperventilating, he diagnosed her with evil eye. Not a day goes by that we dont recite quran and duas in our house. I do pray for our enemy that they be punished for what they do, and that through punishment they do become true pious believers with morals, else they remain hypocrites.. nauzubillah.
Ok. but did you recite on water and drink it, or wash yourself with it? or spray it on every corner, surfaces in the house?
I'm sharing some links if you want to ruqya yourself, InshaAllah will help. As for ruqya your house, you can spray the same water on every corner and surface in your house.
There is no harm to try. The first time you did it was with a raqi and your ex, this time it's just you with the Qur'an.
In Surah Yunus, Allah said the Qur'an is sent as healing, mercy and guidance - may Allah grant you shifa and solution of all your problems
The virtues of ruqyah and du’aa’s to be recited therein - Islam Question & Answer
Ways of Treating Magic - Islam Question & Answer
Reciting Qur’aan over water for ruqyah and heating it because the weather is cold - Islam Question & Answer
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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My mom recites, blows on water, I drink it.
You know they've broken our windows on 4 occasions now. It was decreed so that's why it happened. I believe in qadr and all that but it slows me down and it affects vulnerable ones close to me and oppresses me financially. The opposing side, the enemy just seems to be getting away with everything. I pray everyday and I mention again theres people out there going through much worse that also pray everyday to be relieved of their hardship. The wait just seems to be long.
Being subjected to all this I should still say Alhamdulillah. But I still pray for justice and Allahs blessing and mercy.
I personally dont think I need ruqya, I'm just someone suffering from relationship breakdown aftermath, oppression regarding lack of access to my daughter, financial oppression and criminal damage trauma.... on top of that I have dependents, financial responsibility and mortal insecurity.
I need more might, more courage, more conviction in my faith, more guidance and wisdom, more patience, most importantly I want Allahs blessing. These people seem to be bringing me down, they must be squirming so they do all this stuff to me because they live off it. Being subjected to this, It's not a nice way to live a life. Day to day activities are affected. I'm not even the same guy that I was five years ago anymore...
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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Imraan
My mom recites, blows on water, I drink it.
You know they've broken our windows on 4 occasions now. It was decreed so that's why it happened. I believe in qadr and all that but it slows me down and it affects vulnerable ones close to me and oppresses me financially. The opposing side, the enemy just seems to be getting away with everything. I pray everyday and I mention again theres people out there going through much worse that also pray everyday to be relieved of their hardship. The wait just seems to be long.
Being subjected to all this I should still say Alhamdulillah. But I still pray for justice and Allahs blessing and mercy.
I personally dont think I need ruqya, I'm just someone suffering from relationship breakdown aftermath, oppression regarding lack of access to my daughter, financial oppression and criminal damage trauma.... on top of that I have dependents, financial responsibility and mortal insecurity.
I need more might, more courage, more conviction in my faith, more guidance and wisdom, more patience, most importantly I want Allahs blessing. These people seem to be bringing me down, they must be squirming so they do all this stuff to me because they live off it. Being subjected to this, It's not a nice way to live a life. Day to day activities are affected. I'm not even the same guy that I was five years ago anymore...
Ok so you drank the water, and you have done ruqya with the raqi. I suggested ruqya, because I thought you found taweez in her bag that she used to harm you, and so you need ruqya.
I believe al Qadr and I also did self-ruqya - Alhamdulillah something that had plagued my life for almost 2 decades, was removed. Ever since, everything works well in my life.
It is His Qadr that I suffered so many afflictions for so long, and it is also His Qadr that all of it was removed by self-ruqya.
May Allah ease your hardship
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Re: My marriage from day one has had more downs than ups, i feel like im in a nightma
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IslamLife00
Ok so you drank the water, and you have done ruqya with the raqi. I suggested ruqya, because I thought you found taweez in her bag that she used to harm you, and so you need ruqya.
I believe al Qadr and I also did self-ruqya - Alhamdulillah something that had plagued my life for almost 2 decades, was removed. Ever since, everything works well in my life.
It is His Qadr that I suffered so many afflictions for so long, and it is also His Qadr that all of it was removed by self-ruqya.
May Allah ease your hardship
Salaam
What exact steps did you take to perform self ruqya...?
