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    Asalamu Alaykum

    I feel attracted to the Imam at my local masjid. He is happily married with 3 young kids. I can’t help this feeling towards him. I know it’s wrong, but the feelings are so strong. He has so much knowledge and every time I hear his lectures, I feel like crying. The knowledge he has makes him more attractive in my eyes and I start to feel that I’d never find a person like that.

    It’s really hard to get over him. I have so many thoughts about him. I went to a lecture once and he saw me. I keep replaying this incident in my head over and over again and questioning if he actually liked me. I keep thinking of ways to go to the mosque so he can notice me and feel attracted to me. I know it’s all wrong, but I can’t seem to snap out of it. I feel like I won’t be satisfied if I get married to someone else because he’s always on my mind.

    I wish I can have him, but unfortunately that’s not the reality. I need help. How do I get over this? Is his wife living a life of bliss with him? I need someone to knock some sense into me.
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    Re: I’m attracted to my local Imam

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    Asalamu Alaykum

    ...I start to feel that I’d never find a person like that....
    Thats where the obsession starts. You can definetly find some one like him. You just need self esteem.
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    Re: I’m attracted to my local Imam

    Sister first thing you need to do Is say allahuma barik, because you don't want to give him/ his wife evil eye without knowing. Second is make dua. Also try to have your wali or someone approach the imam. You never know, maybe he is looking for a second wife. Another thing is try not to spend too much time around him free mixing. Go to the mosque, listen to his lectures, but if you are going to get strong feelings for him everytime perhaps it is best to avoid going to his lectures... Make lots of dua.. Wallah dua never fails. Just be sincere inshallah
    Last edited by ahmed.younes; 09-02-2018 at 08:09 PM.
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    Re: I’m attracted to my local Imam

    Walaikmasalaam

    Sit down and have a read of your posts. Think and reflect. Insha Allah you will see the devil's influence on you. You are not in love with him. You are in love with Islam. Islam has so much beauty. Where did this imam get his knowledge from? His teacher. Where did his teacher get this knowledge from? his teacher? Where did his teacher teacher get his knowledge from? again a teacher etc. This knowledge has been passed down and can be traced back to our Prophet s.a.w. It is Allah swt the Most Merciful who has bestowed this brother with knowledge.

    Reflect on Allah's beauty, mercy and wisdom. Stop raising the status of human beings so much so that it misguides you. Yes we should respect and love our teachers but we should not be infatuated with them.

    Avoid listening to this imams lectures, repent straight away and sincerely ask Allah swt to help you through this situation. If you stop listening to his lectures this will be better for you. Focus your energy on your family and yourself. Don't let the shyataan control you!!!

    It is exactly like the forbidden tree. Stop chasing the haraam and enjoy the halaal. You will find peace and contentment insha Allah.
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    Pain and hardships allow you to grow spiritually Alhamdulilah so smile when a so called calamity befalls upon you.
    Alhamdulilah Allah swt is the greatest.

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    Re: I’m attracted to my local Imam

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    Asalamu Alaykum

    I feel attracted to the Imam at my local masjid. He is happily married with 3 young kids. I can’t help this feeling towards him. I know it’s wrong, but the feelings are so strong. He has so much knowledge and every time I hear his lectures, I feel like crying. The knowledge he has makes him more attractive in my eyes and I start to feel that I’d never find a person like that.

    It’s really hard to get over him. I have so many thoughts about him. I went to a lecture once and he saw me. I keep replaying this incident in my head over and over again and questioning if he actually liked me. I keep thinking of ways to go to the mosque so he can notice me and feel attracted to me. I know it’s all wrong, but I can’t seem to snap out of it. I feel like I won’t be satisfied if I get married to someone else because he’s always on my mind.

    I wish I can have him, but unfortunately that’s not the reality. I need help. How do I get over this? Is his wife living a life of bliss with him? I need someone to knock some sense into me.
    Asalamu Alaikum

    You've got two options:

    1. Resist your urges. The easiest way to do this is to not go to the Masjid.

    2. Marry him (remember, polygamy is halal).
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    Re: I’m attracted to my local Imam

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    Asalamu Alaykum

    I feel attracted to the Imam at my local masjid. He is happily married with 3 young kids. I can’t help this feeling towards him. I know it’s wrong, but the feelings are so strong. He has so much knowledge and every time I hear his lectures, I feel like crying. The knowledge he has makes him more attractive in my eyes and I start to feel that I’d never find a person like that.

    It’s really hard to get over him. I have so many thoughts about him. I went to a lecture once and he saw me. I keep replaying this incident in my head over and over again and questioning if he actually liked me. I keep thinking of ways to go to the mosque so he can notice me and feel attracted to me. I know it’s all wrong, but I can’t seem to snap out of it. I feel like I won’t be satisfied if I get married to someone else because he’s always on my mind.

    I wish I can have him, but unfortunately that’s not the reality. I need help. How do I get over this? Is his wife living a life of bliss with him? I need someone to knock some sense into me.
    Masha'Allah @ the bolded part. Reality is we don't really know what's best for us, so we ask Allah to guide and give us what's best. Perform Salaah Istikharaah whenever making such a decision for marriage, major life decision etc.

    .....may Allah bless you in whatever is best for you. Ameen
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    Re: I’m attracted to my local Imam

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    Asalamu Alaykum

    I feel attracted to the Imam at my local masjid. He is happily married with 3 young kids. I can’t help this feeling towards him. I know it’s wrong, but the feelings are so strong. He has so much knowledge and every time I hear his lectures, I feel like crying. The knowledge he has makes him more attractive in my eyes and I start to feel that I’d never find a person like that.

    It’s really hard to get over him. I have so many thoughts about him. I went to a lecture once and he saw me. I keep replaying this incident in my head over and over again and questioning if he actually liked me. I keep thinking of ways to go to the mosque so he can notice me and feel attracted to me. I know it’s all wrong, but I can’t seem to snap out of it. I feel like I won’t be satisfied if I get married to someone else because he’s always on my mind.

    I wish I can have him, but unfortunately that’s not the reality. I need help. How do I get over this? Is his wife living a life of bliss with him? I need someone to knock some sense into me.
    Go to a new Mosque
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