How to deal with my “bossy” Christian grandmother?

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format_quote Originally Posted by Nitro Zeus

And she also told me to leave “silly” things and be an Orthodox Christian, because you’re in Romanian and that’s how you we’re baptized. And I feel like she has insulted Islam. What should I do? I feel like I’m suggested to convert to Christianity… the truth is, I have Jose Islam because I want to, I have done it willingly, and nothing and no one can make me exit Islam unless I want to, not even the demons and Ibliss cannot make me to exit Islam, but I chose to stick myself into Islam for whole life so that I won’t have to suffer in Hereafter. And plus, I haven’t argued with her, she started and I tried to explain that also Muslims do believe but in little bit different than all the rest of religions.

Brother a non-Muslim by definition does not care what he or she say about Allah, Qura'an or the religion itself because they don't believe on it or care. They believe they are right and you are wrong. That is a non-Muslim. She can easily sit there and insult Allah from morning until night and still sleep at night not caring. If a calamity happens to her or him, that person will think everything else and not that Allah is punishing them. They may even think that their false God is angry at them so they go more in worshipping the false God and pleasing the false God in hope the calamity goes away. That is how it is here. You can try hard to explain to the person why he or she is wrong but if that fails use Surat al-kafiroon at them. Islam is perfect!

format_quote Originally Posted by Nitro Zeus

And she also told me to leave “silly” things and be an Orthodox Christian, because you’re in Romanian and that’s how you we’re baptized. And I feel like she has insulted Islam. What should I do? I feel like I’m suggested to convert to Christianity… the truth is, I have Jose Islam because I want to, I have done it willingly, and nothing and no one can make me exit Islam unless I want to, not even the demons and Ibliss cannot make me to exit Islam, but I chose to stick my ass into Islam for whole life so that I won’t have to suffer in Hereafter. And plus, I haven’t argued with her, she started and I tried to explain that also Muslims do believe but in little bit different than all the rest of religions.

You shouldn't talk to her if she insults Islam. She will not understand that you want to protect her from hell fire.

Keep patience as She is too old to be changed. However, keep good conduct with her and Do dua for her hidaya.

format_quote Originally Posted by azc

You shouldn't talk to her if she insults Islam. She will not understand that you want to protect her from hell fire.

Keep patience as She is too old to be changed. However, keep good conduct with her and Do dua for her hidaya.

Ok then.

But, if she doesn’t understand my intentions m, does that mean she is not to be blamed after she dies? Just in curiosity.

Even if she is misguided, your grandmother is still your grandmother. She probably did more for you than you will ever know. So please be respectful to her.
Just try to avoid the subject with her. As others here have mentioned, she is probably too old to change her position, so there is no need to damage your relationship with her.

format_quote Originally Posted by Mandy

Even if she is misguided, your grandmother is still your grandmother. She probably did more for you than you will ever know. So please be respectful to her.
Just try to avoid the subject with her. As others here have mentioned, she is probably too old to change her position, so there is no need to damage your relationship with her.

Ok, I make Du’a for her, then how I know that she wants to accepts Islam or not? How do I notice that?

format_quote Originally Posted by Nitro Zeus

Today when she was cleaning after my mess, she found my writings and she asked me from where I got the ideas about Islamic laws? And I told her, it doesn’t matter due to the fact that I do not want to get in trouble in religious matters. And she asked me forcefully, and I replayed with anger “from my Muslim father” and she told me that I have done completely wrong!!! You are born in Romania and baptized as an Orthodox Christian. And I told her that this is a personal matter, anyone has right to believe in anything. And she told me that I’m wrong that I’m suppose to believe in God and pray to Him. And I told her that also they(Muslims) do believe, but little bit different than what you believe. And I told her that they hey believe that God does not need a son or a daughter, and He is All Capable of doing anything Alone, and He can handle anything and nothing is beyond His capabilities. And she told me that I’m wrong.

This made me to feel that I’m not allowed to believe in what I want, dam!!! Why life has to be so difficult??? I want to believe in Islamic belief. I feel also disturbed by her, and I told her: “enough, enough! I got it!” With the intention to close the subject because I get in trouble or to commit any sin.

What should I do in this situation? How can I put in her mind that anyone has the right to believe in anything? I thought that, this is not big deal. Why is this a big deal to her??

Is she kafir now?

Salaam, Try to get on with her. Don't bring up religion. Show kindness if possible. Nobody gets to decide which religion you follow but yourself and your own informed decisions based from your intellect. Her faith is Jesus is her own, yours in Allah is yours. Don't let bitterness come about it.