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    i have family dilemma, my sister wants to marry a guy, family checked him out, didnt like his background and rejected him, this happened two times and my dad is very angry

    my sister still wants to go ahead (saying she doesnt need her dad to marry) and my dad is saying stuff like, dont come back here if you marry him, my sister replied 'ok she wont'

    what should she do

    marry the guy she wants and take the hit of being disowned
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    maintain ties with her existing family?

    too late for guidance now, me thinks heart is doing the talking
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    Re: family dilemma

    She should maintain ties with her family... Your dad shouldn't be talking like that but she shouldn't have to sacrifice one for the other. Whats happened as of now, is your sister going to still marry him?

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    Re: family dilemma

    She should not be disowned. If a person wishes to marry someone that may not be good sure thats bad and but she shouldn't be disowned. It's not a sin but a poor choice. Boycotting and disowning is haram. If Godforbid something happens she may need support. This is where your test comes in and Allah will want to see if you will let your ego come in and say I told you so or support your sister.

    It is hard indeed but at this point you have to leave it in Allah's hands and ask the sister to pray istikhara. I will keep you in my duas

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    A person is only disowned of they do something haram...like marrying a kuffar or something
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