Nonmuslim friends and extremism

It is ok to remain friends with non Muslims and you have to be kind with them. But if you are their friends you have to be kind and try to influence them towards good. However, you shouldn't hangout with them when they are doing haram things such as drinking or backbiting. If you fear that these friends will push you away from good character or your deen, then you will have to distance yourself.

I had a Christian (not very religious though) and agnostic ex Christian friend once. I still do have some other non muslim friends but I have no problem with them at all. I had to cut these two off.

The Christian friend was very fun but we both went our own ways kindly because it was hard for us to relate with each other because we had two completely different life styles after I became more practicing. So I never really cut her off, it was more of a mutual "growing apart" thing. slowly distancing from eachother

The other one though, is a different story. She is involved in a very bad life style but I always was there for her because her parents were abusive and I felt bad. She clung onto me and used me for everything, she was very dependent and always needed me but I believe it is because of the neglect she had from her parents. I didn't really mind though. It was just irritating. She still always thanked and appreciated me for being by her side and looking out for her. I wasn't hurt or anything. After becoming religious, we still hung out for another year. But I started realizing how much of a jerk she was. She trash talked everybody, was so arrogant, thought she was a big shot. She was still kind to me though, because I always helped her and went out of my way for her.

On top of that, there were times she wouldn't respect me and my religious habits. Even in my own house. My brother would be slightly influenced by her and they would make fun of me and call me extreme or crazy (I wont blame her influencing my brother though. Its his fault that he, a muslim, can be so easily influenced by a girl to go ahead and disrespect his sister.)

Still pitied her and allowed her to be my friend. I remained patient

What finally ticked me off was when she offended my yemeni friend with a horrible stereotype about those abused yemeni women.. Ive advised her many times to stop talking trash about others. After that I couldnt deal with her. STILL gave her one last chance lol if she apologized to my friend. She told me she would, but she didnt. I confronted her and she was tearing up all depressed but I tried not to let it get to me, I still was kind yet hesitating (I wish I wasn't so easily affected by my pity for others!) but I finally ended it... I still felt bad ._.

but a day later it was pretty great. I never had to do her favors anymore lol. She wasn't really a fun friend either.. I do miss some moments, eh but not really

Yes I may have to put some distance...you think Allah will accept me rejecting the backbiting even when they were people who I disliked and wanted to hear about the gossip?

a common theme with many young muslims who suddenly become "religious" is that they actually become judgemental and self righteous.The opposite of religiosity.
Why do you feel the need to give dawah or break friendships.

Remain friends and live and let live.
That in itself is dawah.