We are all given tests in life. We are all tried in one way or another. No one is going to make it anywhere without having faced calamities and no one will ever know the meaning of peace without the struggle.
I am at a point in my life where everything has fallen apart within a matter of a few months. Career, marriage, family, friends, finances, health...basically my entire worldly existence. It's pretty much all gone. I do still have the roof over my head because the laws in this country do not allow me to be evicted so easily so I will الحمدالله that.
The only thing that has been positively impacted through all of this is my faith and trust in Allah.
I am, like very many, very very lonely and very much alone in these dark times. My prayer rug is my only safe space. Oh I pray, I cry, I beg for firgiveness and then I pray more and I try to use the sense he's given me. Fasting is not an option due to health reasons.
The tests aren't getting easier but no one ever said life was easy.
I have no family or friends to turn to, they have cut me out for many reasons, the last straw being my faith. I have no husband though we are still legally married, or in-laws, though they are muslim. I have no access to any imam here. White faces wearing hijab and speaking English are not very liked here where I live, from Muslim and non-Muslim alike.
So I learn what I can by asking Google. I want to make meaningful connections and try going online. Not facebook or so, as social media is also partially what helped ruin my marriage.
My story is long, as so many others are.
My question to you is, have anyone of you been able to grow your tawakkul so strong that the tests just didn't hurt anymore? Disappointment and tears are real but completely different than the soul shattering of one's world collapsing. I want to be so strong in my faith that I can take in any test, sure, cry for a minute but then just move on. Just to really حسبنالله it all and be content.
Right now I am so stuck and I cannot see my options. I know my duas are being heard and I know Allah will help me and guide me. But how can I cope until then? What did you do? What helped you during your most difficult times? What does having patience actually entail? And am I doing it all wrong?
Allah is the only one who can help and he us always there for all of us. Yet I am in need human support
Each time a calamity comes. We are supposed to be grateful because In reality you and I both know it could have been much worse, much worse...
Nothing happens without his permission
These messages stand out to me. I hear it often but today is a lot different because I'm genuinely contemplating it. Every single horrible situation or amazing blessing that hits us.. Only by the permission of Allah.. It relieves you in a way because you know that these people who are hurting you are only able to because Allah allowed them to for a reason. In the end, no matter how much you've been hurt.. Even if you die with a broken heart.. Or you die at the hands of someone else.. None of it effects Allah because he can't be hurt.. So for as long as you still have Allah, you've won in the end anyway.
Same with our worries, desires, and doubts
From our actions to the simplest thoughts that cross our minds.. Only by the permission of Allah.. Knowing that there will be two different ways to handle these situations.. Will you let your thoughts progress further and ruin yourself gradually. Or will you take the smart choice and prevent the problem before it gets bigger
With the remembrance of Allah swt do we find peace. If you feel low and disheartened increase your religious activity insha Allah. You know what's fascinating is we always think we know what is best for us and when we pray and don't get what we want we may start to question our faith however our knowledge and understanding of our life and who we are is so limited so how can we claim to know what is good for us? Subhana Allah.
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We need to revist history and educate ourselves. Everything will become easy with a mind and a heart that is connected to Allah swt insha Allah.
Thank you so much for the words of wisdom and the links you provided. There were so many things I downloaded and started to read up on. This helps me a lot and I am sure many others can benefit from you sharing this. May Allah bless you and reward you for your good deeds.
You are absolutely right. Given our limited understanding, how can we know what's good for us. We think we do, sometimes we are so sure. Yet this is something that only Allah knows. This is something I needed to be reminded of. I thank you for it.
"But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you — and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not.” 2:216
I thank you so much again for the time you took to reply here. Have a blessed day
This is exactly it. You're totally right about this. If people understood this, things would work out a lot better. Nowadays I just see people shunning eachother out and thinking their problems worse when that should not be the topic of concern.
Back when I was more immature I used to think similar like this. I cringe revealing this about myself but it was a very bad mindset.. Thinking that some people dont have the right to be sad.. I dont think that way tho anymore.. Im glad I don't and I hope that others eventually realize. But the way you put it out in this sentence is the most simple and most meaningful way.
Yeah true.. Its honestly very nice to see the changes you made in life, starting from the day you were born.. Especially if you are blessed enough to make it to an old age, its probably the craziest feeling seeing how far you've made it.. Remembering memories replay in your head.
MashaAllah, you are much older than me. It is nice talking to people who are a lot older. I enjoy it very much and I always feel like much I'm taking in so much wisdom from them..
It's been nice hearing things from you. Sometimes when I come on here and sincerely listen to the words of others, it makes me remember who I am.. It reminds me of what job I have to complete. You're very thoughtful for posting and talking to me.. Thank you very much
JazaKAllahu khayran
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Oh wow! I am deeply humbled that you can take some of my words as an incentive to reflect! Sister, you made my day.
I can only ever speak from my own limited point of view but I do believe that by the mercy and grace of Allah, we learn and we better ourselves. Wisdom can be found everywhere and it isn't necessarily the result of experience. It's learning from the experience.
When we take the time to also consider where we and others have been and where we are going. No two journeys will be the same but there's still a lot of similarities. Ultimately, we all heading toward the same. How we get there.. ? Well, Allah knows best.
It's true, we never stop learning. There is always knowledge and wisdom to be gained in everything. If we get the sugar coat on top and don't have to learn the "hard way", الحمدالله! It took me a long minute to really understand that everything is a blessing. When that finally sunk in.... wow. Just wow.
I was not born in to muslim faith but Allah guided me here. I just got the scenic route. I often pray for a change in the scenery but the blessing of his guidance is worth it. And the sun always rises again. I am blessed again today for seeing that, even if it is gray and rainy outside. الحمدالله
The same goes for you and your family. May Allah bless you with the rewards for all the good things you do. Thank you for continuing to post the ayat of the day. It's a good way to just reflect upon the meaning of each word
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