Sadness/low imaan

format_quote Originally Posted by xa_xa_ft

Hi all, so i was seeing someone and things werent great like he wasnt calling me much etc anyways managed to sort that out and he said he will make more of an effort.

Recently i said something which he didnt like and he ended it with me. This time i got annoyed and so removed him from social media etc and then he said you acted immaturely by doing that and now he doesnt want anything to do with me.

Im so sad because i genuinely trusted someone. We even had parents involved. He made me so many promises. Promised to get married soon etc.

Im now left with a broken heart. I know i shouldnt have trusted him too much but why do i feel im the only one being punished?? Looks like hes moved on.

What do i do now? How do i get back to my life??

I have been praying tahujjud. I feel so lost

I have only experienced cheaters on social media and my family warned me too but since I'm under intense trial I meet only creeps lying cheating promising marriages & then I catch these creeps on dating sites.Man I'm tortured bcz of the guy that was coming in my dreams since 7 years was no longer someone I wanted to be with so I started searching but I found trashes. Thank God I didn't do haram but I lost few good guys too bcz of fears of Allah & keeping chaste but they were very much cheating as out of fear of Allah I used to block them after first cha
t& then I ask them for apology & to go for marriage only I wS talking to them so they used to start ignoring lying games and I used to block them. .And I'm sick n tired of not being able to get married - only that dream guy always appears in dreams & this guy is another trouble.


How do you move on with someone when these dream guys with big rewards in hereafter dont appears& are trouble only but dreams so big?

I'm just not able to wait for eternity it's been 6 years already & I can't get married to anyone els3.

AssalaamuAlaykum

Allah is All Knowing. For sure He knows. There is no exception, muslim or non muslim will be punished for wrong / evil deeds.
Whatever hardship you are going through, be patient and get closer to Allah, He may forgive your sins and decree good for you.

'A'isha reported:

I heard Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying: There is nothing (in the form of trouble) that comes to a mu'min even if it is the pricking of a thorn that there is decreed for him by Allah good or his sins are obliterated. (Sahih Muslim)

Narrated `Aisha:

(the wife of the Prophet) Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "No calamity befalls a Muslim but that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it, even though it were the prick he receives from a thorn." (Sahih al Bukhari)

format_quote Originally Posted by xa_xa_ft

@IslamLife00 sometimes why do things happen to us that we cant even imagine??? I mean i couldnt imagine losing this person??? Why did i lose him??? Why did it go wrong??? Why didnt it work out the way i wished

Nothing happens without Allah's decree. You may hate something but it may good for you and you may like something but it may not be good for you.
Allah is All Knowing. Have tawakkul in Him. He knows what is good for you, even though you don't like it, but no doubt He knows what is good for you in dunya and akhira.
He said in the Quran, life in this dunya is a test. So don't expect things to be easy, to happen the way you want it. Each of us is being tested, no one is living an easy life.

Why did you lose him? You said it yourself. You said something he didn't like and he ended it. Now you can't imagine losing him?
He already didn't call you much. If he really liked you, wouldn't he have made more effort to call?

You've dodged a bullet and I would suggest not contacting him anymore. Real love is when it's given voluntarily. Not when it's chased after. Look for someone better and don't become emotionally invested in a man until you're married to him. This might be one of the biggest lesson to take from this scenario.

Learn from your mistakes, forgive and move on.

format_quote Originally Posted by xa_xa_ft

I think should pray tahujjud and leave it to Allah in sha allah he will
Punish them

Don't wish this on anyone. Having real knowledge and iman in Allah means to never despair of his mercy. This should be manifested in each and every aspect of your thinking and believing, namely that you do not despair in Allah helping you through your difficulties and you wish for the person who has done something wrong to be guided by Allah. This is more holistic and beloved to Allah because it means the one who has done something wrong has an opportunity to feel remorse and regret for his actions and change to become a better person. Allah's punishment doesn't benefit him nor you.

Assalamu Alaikum,

If you want to get married you need to be more mature and wiser than this. Heartbreak hurts, but take it as a lesson and move on. Next time don't spend so much emotion and affection on someone who you are not married to yet, even if your parents are involved. Everything happens for a reason, right? Imagine him reacting like this when you are a month into marriage, or a year, or with a child. You would feel mortified and embarrassed to be left behind with those emotions over someone who never deserved them in the first place. Secondly if you truly felt he was a good person for you or that he was a good person in general, then you cannot be selfish if it does not work out. You should wish that he finds someone suitable for him even if that person is not you. A person who wants you should accept you as you accept them, and if they cannot then you have to consider it a blessing they left, because they could've led you towards haram and fake promises without any worry in the world for consequences, so again please consider this a positive. Also clinginess and attachment are not attractive and does the complete opposite of what you desire. You have to let go of this desperation to be married.

format_quote Originally Posted by xa_xa_ft

i know real love is not chased but he made so many promises to me so i got attached and now hes left me because of something i said that he didnt like. that not love. i would of never left him even if he lost an arm or a leg.

i feel so restless and hopeless the man i love is no longer in my life - probably moved on. what did i do to deserve this?????

وَأَمَّآ إِذَا مَا ٱبۡتَلَٮٰهُ فَقَدَرَ عَلَيۡهِ رِزۡقَهُ ۥ فَيَقُولُ رَبِّىٓ أَهَـٰنَنِ (١٦) كَلَّا-ۖ

"But when He tests them by limiting their provision, they protest, “My Lord has ˹undeservedly˺ humiliated me!

Absolutely not!...” (Qur'an 89:16-17)

Have faith in Allah that He will replace this man with someone better. Don't chase after him. Heal yourself through dua for relief, mercy, and guidance, and recitation of Qur'an.