Salam

So i have younger sister in her mid teens and a son 9 yrs old. They invariably get into arguments and i have on several occasions witnessed my sister acting aggressively to which my son reacts.

I appreciate my son is by bo means an angel and has a naughty streak. I suppose this is to be expected given his age.

However the issue is my parents often apportioned most of the blame on my son painting him as the culprit. I know this is not the case as I have myslef seen my sister actin physical with my son. She is older so naturally is bigger and its a complete mismatch in this regard.

Recently an incident occurred where my sister did something pretty blatantly and my son wrongly reacted. It could be argued he was provoked but we as his parents don't like to be naive enough to think he can do know wro g. We fully accept he is at an age where kids misbehave. This is in their fitra i suppose.

Depsite this he seems to get most of the telling off. He'll be told to respect his aunt and grow up which i think is overly harsh as the aunt appears to get a very gentle slap on the wrist if that on comparison.

I have maintained my silence as i dont wnat to to be seen as favoring my son. I find it despicable that ppl favor their spouses or kids over their parents and would not want to act in an innappropriate manner to my parents.

However I've reached a stage where threre appears to be a theme of disproportionately blaming my son which is entirely unfair. Do i just stay quiet or should i speak up as its unfair foe my child to foot the blame even when he's bot the cause of an issue..