I am so worried for my sister! Subxanallah she hates her face and her looks she has been hurt by people calling her ugly and fat before and now she thinks plastic surgery is her only choice.
She is a muslim and practise believe it or not. Plastic surgery is haram she wants her face redone, nose, eyes,the bone structure, liposuction and on.
I though she was joking but she is not How can I stop her???
Sister this is serious you need to talk to her, This is haram and also this will effect her health.
You need to talk to her and you need to tell your parents or family or maybe a friend that she will listen to.
Also go on the web and find sites about these things going wrong you will hundreds and show them to her maybe if she sees what may happen it would make her change her mind.
Yeah u gotta stop her somehow! Explain all the drawbacks to her and tell her how many times it's gone wrong... Also make sure u point out any time she's looking good..
OMG poor sis!! i''ll pray for you both insha allah, but she needs a confidence boost!
ask her whether it's more important that she looks good in the eyes of people or in Allah's eyes?
tell her that it's what you look like in Allah's eyes that matters and in heaven everyone will be beautiful!!! the mu'min woman in heaven is better than even the huur ul-3ayn.
besides how do you know the plastic surgery will go OK? what if she ends up looking worse..-point this out to her!
plastic surgery isn't allowed in islam, when people call her ugly she should tell them that that is how Allah created her..they shouldn't hurt her.
please Allah and you will be successfull not people! people will never be satisfied no matter how hard you try..
tell her to pray to Allah and do her best to do sabr
Allah said in the quran that He created man in the best of forms! this is a test from Allah and remember-Allah tests those He loves...
ask her whether she wants to be loved by people or by Allah...
May Allah guide her and help her, I hope her heart is soothed and she gets comforted insha allah...Ameen
^ Masha'allah that's great Advice that you gave Sis Marya1
Talk to her about that sis!! and also tell her that it's not allowed for us to intentionally do a sin whilst telling ourselves that we will make Tawbah later. Because the meaning of the Tawbah is lost!! And it would be like we were mocking Allah subhanahu wa ta3ala if we were to do this.
I have nothing more to say besides what the sis above me said. May Allah make things easy on her Ameen..
the real problem is her self-esteem/confidence. plastic surgery is not gonna help these so the problem will still remain-someone needs to give her a pep talk-someone she respects and admires insha allah...
[PIE]SAHIH BUKHARi
Volume 7, Book 72, Number 815:
Narrated 'Abdullah:
Allah has cursed those women who practise tattooing and those who get themselves tattooed, and those who remove their face hairs, and those who create a space between their teeth artificially to look beautiful, and such women as change the features created by Allah. Why then should I not curse those whom the Prophet has cursed? And that is in Allah's Book. i.e. His Saying: 'And what the Apostle gives you take it and what he forbids you abstain (from it).' (59.7) [/PIE]
And please read to her the following ayyat inshaAllah:
[PIE] "I will mislead them, and I will create in them false desires; I will order them to slit the ears of cattle, and to deface the (fair) nature created by Allah." Whoever, forsaking Allah, takes satan for a friend, hath of a surety suffered a loss that is manifest.
AN-NISA Verse 119 [/PIE]
Shaytaan wants to mislead your sister, tell her this dunya is not even 0.00000000001 second of the eternal akhirah so why risk such a massive punishment?
Whoever, forsaking Allah, takes satan for a friend, hath of a surety suffered a loss that is manifest
I hope Guidance reaches your sister ASAP inshaAllah.
this is simply a small trial....
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My tears testify that i have a heart
yet i feel me and shaytan never part
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I've got an idea how about someone orginise some marriage perposals like 100's of them and have here wali's phone number going off like every 5 mins maybe that would bring her self-esteem back.
I am so worried for my sister! Subxanallah she hates her face and her looks she has been hurt by people calling her ugly and fat before and now she thinks plastic surgery is her only choice.
She is a muslim and practise believe it or not. Plastic surgery is haram she wants her face redone, nose, eyes,the bone structure, liposuction and on.
I though she was joking but she is not How can I stop her???
people can be soo mean:grumbling what right do they have to laugh at the face Allah swt gave her!
Um isnt there someway she can make her self look better (and hopefully feel better) with out the plastic? like diet or something. Perhaps you can suggest alternatives to her? i think that might be more effective than just telling her that its haram, have an alternative. plus maybe get her to no associate with mean ppl who laugh at her.
May Allah swt reward u all for the great advices I will explain this to her really helpful and yes sometime people are mean but hey thats the world we are livin in! jazakallah
Talk with your parents to cut off her budget because the plastic surgery is really expensive and i don't think she would be able to pay it alone-without a loan from bank, parents help and so on.
Talk with your friends too. In your absence say to her she looks pretty. More often the sisters get upset exactly because of this gossip, bad looks from the colleagues.
I am so worried for my sister! Subxanallah she hates her face and her looks she has been hurt by people calling her ugly and fat before and now she thinks plastic surgery is her only choice.
She is a muslim and practise believe it or not. Plastic surgery is haram she wants her face redone, nose, eyes,the bone structure, liposuction and on.
I though she was joking but she is not How can I stop her???
Well, what I can say is that, your sister needs a proper brain washing. If you can do it, its well and good, and if you cant, then a psychiatrist might help. (Most people think that going to the psychiatrist, can label them as a “psycho” or something.If that is the case , then let me tell you, you dont have to bother about the stigma, its ur sister's psychological treatment.......just the way physicians do.) Ok well, I just found these……..hope that it will be of help InshaAllah.
Our Prophet Muhammad (sallallaho alaiyhay wa aalaiyhee wa sallam) said: “When you see a person who has been given more than you in money and beauty, look to those, who have been given less.” (Muslim)
“Allah does not look at your appearance or your possessions; but He looks at your heart and your deeds.” (Abu Huraira: Muslim)
what I think is that , you need to talk to her, and to let her know, how important she is. Allah Almighty has made her Himself………and He loves all His creation. If she is being laughed at by people, then you should let her know that the One who created her likes her the way she is . If Allah wanted, He could have made her very beautiful too, but it is His divine wisdom and complete knowledge of all things, that He did not made her the way she wants herself to be.
And as quoted in the hadith above, that Allah, doesnot judge people by their looks………I mean, if a person is beautiful (what contribution he has put in his beauty? The answer is “zero”. It is Allah Almighty who has given that person beauty.) Then again, being beautiful does not mean that your deeds will not be looked upon. Allah will be asking us about what we did on this earth. Your sister, should know, that she is indeed blessed. Allah has given her countless blessings. She has got eyes to see, tell her what her world would be without eyes. She can speak, and she is neither deaf nor dumb. She has got legs to walk with. Think about those who are crippled for life. Think about those who are suffering from painful diseases. Isn’t it a blessing that she has got heath……….which is the real wealth.
One thing more, she thinks that doing plastic surgery would help . Tell her is she bothered about those people who laugh at her just because she is not beautiful. I mean tell her, she wants to please those people who did not care about her feelings, and laughed at her. Isn’t it better to please Allah alone, and to accept herself the way she is. This will be a means to please Allah , InshaAllah.
And you see, beauty.....comes from our actions......If our deeds are beautiful, we are beautiful. And if our deeds our ugly, we are the same.
Hope that helps.InshaAllah.........and lots of prayers for ur sister.May Allah Almighty help her (ameen).
U might want to tell ur sis about this 20 year old girl who was having a face lift n died on the operating table.
Precisely, any operation that deals with cutting up the skin and chipping off bone runs the risk of death. Also it must extremely painful and costly.
People in general are mean, some even enjoy giving others complexes when in fact they look fine. The cruel people who engage in insults are nothing more than weak and insecure about their own looks themselves and they need to hurt others to give themselves a false sense of power when they are nothing but weak. A human being when faced by a weakness will resort at putting others down in order to feel better for themselves. That is why your friend was victim to such cruel people. Besides, platic surgery looks fake and awkwardly noticable, things you girls don't hear and see on TV and magazines.
Just find her a husband... get her engaged... that will solve everything.
ma'salaama,
Hamid
It won't solve the issues with her self-esteem. The poor woman is probably wondering if she will even be able to get a husband. Let's face it physical beauty if very important to a lot of men (I've never met one that it wasn't important to).
It may be a sin but as long as society accepts physical beauty as important deciding factor for a wife, I think it's okay to get plastic surgery.
Fear makes strangers of people who would be friends.
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