so upset

Yeah I've heard of this one...

It would help if I knew if you were a guy or a girl. If you're a guy, you definetely need to take the gift that Islam has given you and use it. Go to the mosque. Why do you think the prophet (pbuh) prescribed that for us? It's for us to get out of the house, see other people, make new friends, ...in other words, avoid loneliness. It's in your loneliness that the shaytan can influence you and make this disorder even worse. It may even be caused by him, like homosexuality.

Be brave, go out of your house, hang out with your friends and try to make others. Do not spend a lot of time alone. This is critical if you ever want to be healed.

If you're a girl, go to the mosque as well. Big mosques especially have places where women can go and socialize. Go! Don't sit at home. The longer you sit at home, alone, the worse your condition will get. You cannot cure yourself by being alone, only through the company of others, especially pious people, is there any hope.

When you are alone, try to have the Qur'an playing in your house as much as possible, as well as your reading it as much as you can.

May Allah cure your of this discorder and may He boost your iman and keep you safe from shayateen.

format_quote Originally Posted by Anonymous Tester

i suffer from body dysmorphic disorder and i hate it and is makin my life hell i cant even interact wid otha people i just neva want to leave my house.lonely

The most beneficial thing is to ask Allah to cure this disorder. He, subhana wa ta'ala knows what you are going through. But He also wants you to turn to Him for help. I'm a mother, alhumdulillah. And whenever my son requests that I do something for him, it gives me great pleasure to hear him ask. He stays with his father at the weekends and before he goes he requests that I make his favourite pilaw rice for when he returns. I lovingly prepare it for him hours before he is due to return. It gives me immense pleasure that I did something that he asked for and to see the joy on his face. Sometimes, I even ask him myself if there's anything he wants me to cook for him.

Allah wants to help His creation too. And in the same way, it gives Him great pleasure when His creation turn to Him for their needs. He loves His creation 70 more than a mother loves her child, then surely His pleasure at their asking, is 70 fold that of a mother.

I know the disorder you are suffering from. But with Allah's help and your own personal battle and willpower, you can overcome it inshaAllah. Alhumdulillah, every part of your body is functioning perfectly? That is beautiful mashaAllah. You ARE beautiful. I don't mean to be harsh sis/bro. But think of all those people with physical disabilities/deformities. They'd jump at the chance to be like you. Start by thanking Allah that you have no such problems and seek His help in overcoming your problems.

If you haven't had counselling yet, consider that too. Allah is the Almighty and All Powerful. Nothing is beyond Him. Ask for His help and do what you can from your own side. And inshaAllah, there's no reason why you can't get better. I will pray for you inshaAllah.

wa alaikum aslam.

jazakallahkhair brother and sister i cant tell people about this because they asumme that i am vain i am not close with my mum i am goin to ask god for help i dont want to go on anti depressant i want to be free from this.jakallahkhair again

The Seventeen Benefits of Tribulation

1. You realize the power of Lordship over you

2. You realize your abject servant hood and your complete state of resignation and brokenness before the Will & Power of Allah

3. Sincerity to Allah because you have no place of return in putting off or defending against the calamities except to Him

4. You return to Allah and are suddenly fervent in your desire of your Lord

5. It leads to a humbled state before Allah and more prayers through which you’re calling on Allah

6. You’re forbearing towards the one who has afflicted you (you gain the ability to show forbearance)

7. You get to forgive someone (“and Allah loves those who pardon others”). It is the greatest forgiveness when you forgive people who have caused you great calamities

8. You are patient during the tribulation (“and Allah is with the patient ones”)

9. You can become happy about what’s happening because you’re thinking about all these benefits

10. You can be grateful for the tribulation because of the rewards gained from it

11. The purification that these calamities have from your wrongs and your sins (ex: a believer is rewarded for any pain he experiences, even the prick of a thorn)

12. The compassion that Allah enables you to show to others in tribulation and the ability to help them

13. They give you the Blessing of having the true knowledge of the extent of well-being and what it is

14. Allah has prepared Rewards for the calamities dependent on how you dealt with them

15. What is hidden inside the Blessings of the folds of these calamities (ex: Allah may love a thing you hate and may hate a thing you love)

16. They prevent you from arrogance, evil, pride, and tyranny

17. Contentment

format_quote Originally Posted by Anonymous

jazakallahkhair brother and sister i cant tell people about this because they asumme that i am vain i am not close with my mum i am goin to ask god for help i dont want to go on anti depressant i want to be free from this.jakallahkhair again

Well, you're going to have to tell people about this if you really want to be free from it. Doctors who know this illness will take it seriously, so you should consult them. But again, I think the best therapy for you is to get out of the house and make some friends. Communicate with people. You don't have to tell them about your condition, but just hang out with somebody.

I know it takes courage for you to step outside, but like Muslimah_sis said, look at some very unfortunate people around the world look like and compare yourself to them. I've see people who had accidents where they got a jaw blown off, or got shot in the face and survived, leaving a very nasty hole...yet they're still living out their lives as best as they can, they have friends, they hang out. You're lucky that you never had to go through something like that, so appreciate the face and body that Allah has given you and get out of the house!

format_quote Originally Posted by Muj4h1d4

May I ask what body dysmorphic disorder is?

No you can't.

lol, just kidding! It's having the perception that you're ugly when you're really not. People with this disorder continuously look at themselves in the mirror and tend to see a distorted image of themselves instead of what they really look like.

format_quote Originally Posted by Skywalker

It's having the perception that you're ugly when you're really not. People with this disorder continuously look at themselves in the mirror and tend to see a distorted image of themselves instead of what they really look like.

Jazak'Allah Khair Brother Skywalker for the meaning of that particular disorder.

format_quote Originally Posted by Anonymous Tester

i suffer from body dysmorphic disorder and i hate it and is makin my life hell i cant even interact wid otha people i just neva want to leave my house.lonely

Peace

My Dear Anonymous Tester, what in the world makes you think you look ugly? Please break this disorder, fight it as life is not long.
I mean vanity is one thing but obsession with the way you look especially when thinking ugly? I mean it is crazy! I'm ugly but I don't care! I have family, friends everywhere who know me and can speak to me I speak to them as well. They say I'm pretty but I say yeh but do you really know me as a person to say that. Do you understand? It is always about personality! Not with the way you look!

Pray to God and read your prayers and fight the Devil, don't you realise that the Devil could be the one who is whispering in your ear, giving you thoughts about you being ugly?

I am sure your parents and family DO NOT THINK YOU ARE UGLY!!! And if people do, it doesn't matter, I mean where is looks going to get you in the Hereafter? NOWHERE! As long as you heart, mind and soul are of good intentions and wanting to do good deeds then it is worth a billion tmes more than the way you look.

And don't you suffer from this disorder if YOU ONLY THINK IT? Like you make it a disorder youself?

Please take the advice of these Brothers and Sisters, who have given Masha'Allah Ta'ala, great advice. Be content with the way you are!

Peace to all.

salam
^^ well said sister^^
Anonymous Tester you have been given great advice that we all can benefit from( thank you bro's and sis's).

Now do not believe what you are thinking but believe we were all created by Allah (SWT) and we are all beautiful to Allah's eyes. No matter who thinks what.
Insha'Allah you will take the advice given from all the brothers and sisters
waslam
*KB*

jakakallahkhair i do realise that sometime satan is the one who is whispering all this ugly things in my head. QURULATUAYN yes my friend and family tell me i am beautiful but something i think they lying because they cant see the imperfections. i am better now ALHAMDU ALLAH i do not get as depressed and i need to try to socialise more go out to talks I WILL B WORKING ON THAT. once again jazakallahkhair