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format_quote Originally Posted by metsudaistwice

salam
i heard that a girl has a right to keep her surname, although i need to research on this coz i read it somewhere
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salaam
thats wat i read. no1 can force her to change if she doesnt want to. havent heard of name-changing being haraam tho.
Allahu A'lam
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format_quote Originally Posted by aisha

salaam
but wat ab those who change their names to go with their childrens???
(eg umm yahya, abu yahya etc) :confused:
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^ that is not a changing of a name. That is simply called a "kuniah" and it is from Islam that the muslims should take on a kuniah. So......the person still keeps his/her original name, but this one is just an extra . Like if you had a son named Abdullah, then most probably you would take your kuniah to be Umm Abdullah....it only means "the mother of Abdullah" it isn't a changing of your name

format_quote Originally Posted by AsilahRana

^ that is not a changing of a name. That is simply called a "kuniah" and it is from Islam that the muslims should take on a kuniah. So......the person still keeps his/her original name, but this one is just an extra . Like if you had a son named Abdullah, then most probably you would take your kuniah to be Umm Abdullah....it only means "the mother of Abdullah" it isn't a changing of your name

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jazakillah for explaining sis
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format_quote Originally Posted by sundus

as salamu alaykum

i hope this helps insha'Allah.....

Why a woman should not take her husband’s surname

Answer :

Praise be to Allaah.

The effects of imitating the west in naming ourselves are many. One of them is the way in which people have got used to omitting the word ‘ibn’ (son of) or ‘ibnatu’ (daughter of) between their own names and the name of their fathers. The reason for this is, firstly, because some families have adopted children and given them their surname, so that the adopted child is called Foolaan Foolan [where ‘Foolaan (=So and so)’ stands for a name] and their real children are called Foolaan ibn Foolaan (So and so the son of So and so). Now in the fourteenth century AH, people have dropped the word ‘ibn’ or ‘ibnatu’ – which is unacceptable according to linguistics, custom and sharee’ah. May Allaah help us.

Another effect is the habit of women taking their husband’s surnames.

Originally, the woman is So and so the Daughter of So and so, not So and so the wife of So and so! Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allaah…” [al-Ahzaab 33:5].

As it is in this world, so it will also be in the Hereafter, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:

“On the Day of Resurrection, each betrayer will have a banner raised beside him, and it will be said, this is the betrayer of So and so the son of So and so.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5709, and Muslim, 3265).

Shaykh Bakr Abu Zayd (may Allaah preserve him) said: This is one of the beauties of sharee’ah, because calling a person by his father’s name is more appropriate for knowing who is who and telling people apart. The father is the protector and maintainer of the child and his mother both inside and outside the home. This is why the father mixes with people in the marketplaces and takes risks by travelling to earn a halaal living and strive for their sakes. So the child is given the name of the father, not of the mother who is hidden away and who is one of those whom Allaah commanded (interpretation of the meaning):

“And stay in your houses…” [al-Ahzaab 33:33]

(Tasmiyat al-Mawlood, 30, 31).

On the basis of the above, there is no blood tie between the husband and wife, so how can she take his surname as if she is part of the same lineage? Moreover, she may get divorced, or her husband may die, and she may marry another man. Will she keep changing her surname every time she marries another man? Furthermore, there are rulings attached to her being named after her father, which have to do with inheritance, spending and who is a mahram, etc. Taking her husband’s surname overlooks all that. The husband is named after his own father, and what does she have to do with the lineage of her husband’s father? This goes against common sense and true facts. The husband has nothing that makes him better than his wife so that she should take his surname, whilst he takes his father’s name.

Hence everyone who has gone against this and taken her husband’s name should put matters right. We ask Allaah to put all the affairs of the Muslims right.



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Oh mashaAllah sundus sis/bro. Thank you that was a very beneficial post. JazakAllah.

Assalamu'alaikum

Sis Aisha wa iyyaki

^ lol sorry sis

When someone says to you "Jazakallah khair" it means "may Allah bless you with good" so the answer to that is "Wa Iyyak" which means "And for you also" So it's du'a answering to a du'a

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