My male cousins...haram or not??

Assalamu Alaikum

I know that it is haram to talk to your opposite gender cousins since they are nonmahrams, but is it ok under some circumstances??

I was going to ask this in another thread but for the respect of the brother that had created it, I did not want to ruin it.

so here is my situation:

My cousins and I are very close, close as in a way with my own siblings- nothing more. We have grown up together in the same building and share many memories of childhood. We always help eachother out and we take eachothers advice etc.

I am older than most of them and the ones that are older than me, I do not communicate with them because of the fact I do not know them and it would feel wierd to get to know them which i dont want to do since i wont have the same relationship as I do with my younger cousins and then it would become haram.

The cousins that i do speak with some are male, but when we all hang out and stuff its always with me, my brother, sisters, male cousins and their sisters...

None of us have any wierd "feelings" toward eachother because we are like blood brothers and sisters. We would never think of eachother in that way. And although it is permissible to marry someone that is younger than you in Islam, I can never think about marrying a cousin or especially one that is younger than me and are an exact copy of my brother lol... other than that if i ever did have any feelings toward any of them, i definately would not talk to them..

I want to please Allah more than anything and if i have to I will quit speaking to my younger cousins ill do what i am supposed to do by the will of Islam and guidance of Allah inshallah


Also is it permissible to talk to them when my own brother is around plus their sisters and my own parents who wouldnt have any objections at all unless it was one of my male cousins and i were completely alone, and usually if that is the case one of us leaves since usually my male cousins hang out with my bro more and they would come to see him ofcoarse it would feel awkward to be in the same room when there is no reason for us to be.

I was just thinking the other day that with all of us we could do some Islamic things..some of them dont know how to pray and i could teach them all together and on Fridays we can go to the masjid and pray..you know beneficial stuff like that. We are alway stressed out with homework, school and what nots I would like us to conversate about something beneficial that they can take with them to the akhira inshallah.

so what do i do, is what im doing at the moment haram??

Please give me some evidence and not just advice because i am doing this to please Allah not for the morality of the matter ...and plz keep in mind that I will read every response and take this to heart so dont act like im committing the largest sin of the book or something..i am asking for GUIDANCE not insults. Whatever i have done wrong May Allah forgive me for it as i did not know..


fi aman Allah
w'salaam