Asalam alaikum,
I am a revert and I am inshallah getting married soon, that is when I find the right person.
my question comes about after nikkah is done, then on the wedding night what is supposed to happen? I won't know this person alot, so Is expected to be intimate that first night or can you wait until your ready and know them more? I'm to nervous to ask this in person
JazakAllah
Well, if the husband and wife love each other very much they turn on the PlayStation and whup the hell out of each other on Street Fighter.
this is actually a very good idea...
Im serious.
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Go for a long drive together and spend your first Fajr together on a beach near the waves, then watch the sun rise over the water..sit, relax and spend time with each other.
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thats is all ver'ahhhhhhhhh' ^ but what would families actually think of this whole getting out of the house on the first night.
I bet they would find it seriously weired and would even assume somethings wrong!! , that u wanna leave the house!
u can only do these things if you have ur own home, which most people dont when they first get married.
They usually get you to stay in a hotel during the first couple of nights..at least in my family. I cannot imagine getting married and taking my wife back to my family's house the very first night! That would just be...completely wrong ffended:
“Do not argue with your Lord on behalf of your soul, rather argue with your soul on behalf of your Lord.” - Dhul-Nun
"It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness." - Victor Frankl
They usually get you to stay in a hotel during the first couple of nights..at least in my family. I cannot imagine getting married and taking my wife back to my family's house the very first night! That would just be...completely wrong ffended:
wow.....really
well in my family and wider family friends, that would be utterly disrespectful and unacceptable.
i remember some distant relatives, they got married and decided to go to a hotel straight away.
some very bad things were said about them later on, like how shameless the girl was to do that....(to openly imply that they wanted to get away from everyone, ofcourse to be intimate)
i know...its so silly..... .and weired, but then again my lot have a weired way of thinking.
ur family is cool akhee.
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what the.. why get married if you don't have a place to stay? one of the things that need to be fulfilled in order to be married is financial independence to bare the obligation..
I have never heard of a hotel or family home, I think they are both rather creepy and uncomfortable.. to be honest this is truly the first I have ever heard of this.. sob7an Allah, do people honey moon in their parents' home? ffended:ffended:ffended:
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it's a cultural thing. in Turkey bringing the bride to the groom's house is common. many keep living there for years as well.
I had my own house, so it was not too much of a problem. My parents did find it odd that we invited lots of our friends for breakfast the next day though. :P
In the pakistani culture, the bride is ment to stay in the inlaws house and it is very hated and disrespectful if the bride wants to have her own house.
Usually if she asks for her own house or place then this causes a lot of problems and tension between within the inlaws!
I think every couple has a right to complete privacy at all times..and more so on their first night..If the husband cannot afford a separate home then the logical thing to do is to @ least take his wife to a hotel for their first few nights..for the family to have a problem with this sounds rather inquisitive.
And yeh...I don't think people should spend their honeymoons around family and friends...In fact it is part of islamic ettiquette to abstain from visiting a newly wedded couple for some time after the marriage..doesn't this mean that they should be left alone and allowed privacy???
:rolleyes: welcome to my world.unless i go outside the family, thats what i got to look foward to ffended:
format_quote Originally Posted by nebula
In the pakistani culture, the bride is ment to stay in the inlaws house and it is very hated and disrespectful if the bride wants to have her own house.
Usually if she asks for her own house or place then this causes a lot of problems and tension between within the inlaws!
edit: i have seen this happen.
wow.. sob7an Allah that is awful .. and sort of nauseating to think about, even with what is expected shouldn't people give you a few days with each other? You are barely wed and they are judging you, I thought the concept of a 'Honey Moon' is universal.........:eek:
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.and weired, but then again my lot have a weired way of thinking.
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