Here's my dilemma. I have two strong desires...the first is to go study Islam overseas and the other is to get married. I sort of want both, but finances are the primary issue.
I'm currently in college about to complete my degree in philosophy (B.A.). I go to school full time. I want to get married before I complete ALL my studies because I don't want to be 30 when I get married. If I wait till after I finish my studies in Islam I basically will be 30 since right now I am 24. At the same time, where am I to find the money to support a family in the meantime?
getting married at 30 is a big no no, so please dont do that brother.
get married.make sure you dont start a family just yet, so you only have your wife to support.Or you can explain to her family your wish to study further and she can stay at her parents for a while.
My heart, so precious,
I won't trade for a hundred thousand souls.
Your one smile takes it for free.Rumi
Postpone your studies for a little while - at least until you find a job and get settled with your wife - and then you can continue studying. There are plenty of part-time causes that offer Islamic studies..All the best brother
getting married at 30 is a big no no, so please dont do that brother.
Is it really that big of a taboo ? But yes... I do realise it's sunnah to get married young.
Last edited by Banu_Hashim; 05-02-2009 at 07:47 PM.
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Is it really that big of a taboo ? But yes... I do realise it's sunnah to get married young.
It depends, my Dad got married at that age. I think it's a cultural thing, cause in Islam age ain't nothing but a number.
To the op, inshaAllaah keep your options open and think about it which one would be beneficial for you. Studying and get married, or finishing your degree, getting married and then getting another Islamic degree.
You can even try taking some classes at your local masjid, or an institute (like Al Maghrib or Al Kauthar) whilst you finish your degree with a wife inshaAllaah.
Is it really that big of a taboo ? But yes... I do realise it's sunnah to get married young.
well it depends on how its viewed.It not a taboo as such but rather its for the benifit of the person.
Its bad (especially for a man) to deprive yourself of a partner for that long.
both the virtues of gaining knowledge and a pious wife are known.Its best to get them both at the same time.Knowledge will be available InshaAllah....a wife is more harder to get hold of , and with your age just shooting up day by day,might not be such a brilliant idea to delay it!
just my thoughts.
My heart, so precious,
I won't trade for a hundred thousand souls.
Your one smile takes it for free.Rumi
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, and with your age just shooting up day by day,might not be such a brilliant idea to delay it!
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