Advice on how to become stronger

format_quote Originally Posted by muslimsister1

Hope your all in good health by the Grace of Almighty Allah SWT, im jst after some advice, i have a heart condition (transportion of the great arteries), basically i went to see cardiologist and a obstetrician Re pregnancy as i know this will affect my heart, Alhumdolilah they said that i will be able to have a normal pregnancy Inshaallah, they will be a few risks as they baby might have the condition but that is all in the hand of Alllah SWT. The thing is my husband n mother inlaw say that i should be stronger as i am quiet a weak link . I know that i have to become stronger n not keep thinking the if an the buts of what will or might happen. Im jst wondering if any bro/sis know of any duas, dhikr that i can pray to make me a stronger person both mentally and phisically.

I look forward to your replies n may Allah SWT reward you for your efforts in reading/replying.

Jazakallah

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, jazakallahu khayran for sharing your issue with us my sister. What we have to realise is that throughout our lives we will be tested and Allah tells us that we may be tested on our health, wealth, children and by bereavements etc. Therefore knowing this fact we as Muslims must accept what is decreed by Allah and NEVER question Allah or say "why". We must accept whatever Allah has decreed for us because he knows what is best and whatever is destined for us is destined for us for a reason.

So you must accept whatever Allah has destined for you as being what Allah wants for you. Therefore acceptance is the first thing you must internalise. You must also be aware that Allah tests those he wants closest to him so that they may turn to him especially in times of pain and distress.

Therefore turn to Allah and ask of him and even cry to him especially in the latter part of the night. This is your opportunity to become close to Allah so grab this chance. Pain, distress and tests are a means of expiation of sin so it may be that a person who has been tested a lot in the world and was patient throughout faces Allah with little or no sins because they were wiped away due to the amount of trials and tests they went through.

So realise that tests and trials are a means of expiation of sin and Allah says in the Qur'an that he is with those who are patient and surely the reward of patience is Paradise.

Therefore ACCEPT whatever Allah has decreed for you and be patient through it knowing that Allah wants good for you and is only testing you. Worry not but put your FULL reliance in Allah. If you rely on Allah then you would never feel worried or in fear about anything because whatever will happen will happen regardless of how much you worry about it therefore know that there is NO point worrying about any matter but leave it to Allah and put your FULL trust and faith in Allah and if you have Allah by your side then NOTHING can harm you but whatever happens it is because Allah wanted it to happen.

Here are some tips on how to become a stronger Muslim:

How to Become a Strong Muslim


A strong Muslim has faith which gives him inner and outer strength. If you follow these steps you are well on your way to become a true Muslim and be the love of God.

Steps

1. Accept that God Almighty exists and His attributes are beyond our imagination. He is capable of
everything and anything. Faith in God is essential. Accept that Muhammad (peace be upon him) is
the last of a long line of Prophets that started with Adam, through Noah, Abraham, Moses, Jesus
and everyone in between. Accept that the Holy Quran is the last and true word of God.

2. Pray sincerely. Affirm that God is close to you. Always pray on time, never delay. Never do things
that will only prevent you to do things that are much more important. Nothing is much more
important than obeying what God asks of you. While working or studying, halt everything you are
doing and go to the nearest mosque to pray. If somebody were to ask you where you are heading,
say that you are answering God's call to prayer.

3. Pray in the middle of the night. Pray when most people around you are sleeping soundly. The
name of the prayer is Tahajjud. However to perform this special voluntary prayer, you must have
some sleep first, even if it is very short. The night is the most efficacious time to pray.

4. Recite His name every time. Also known as Zikr in Muslim terminology, reciting His name will
ultimately make you a strong Muslim because you are constantly reminded of what good He has
done for you.

5. Be grateful for everything you have. The more thankful you are the more you will realize how much
you have been blessed. And by doing this, God willing, you will be stronger because you will believe
that God is present.

6. Protect your chastity. You need to know that adultery is a sinful act and always avoid it. This
applies to both men and women. Women should not wear tight or revealing clothes, and men should
always lower their gaze and guard their modesty.

7. Keep to your promise. If you feel that you could not manage something, just inform that person so.
Abiding to your promise will ultimately make you trustworthy person.
Steps

8. Respect the opinion of others. No opinions are bad or stupid. You should treat them as gems.
Without opinions, things will never get better. If you do not like any idea, do not invalidate them but
add on to the idea to improve it.

9. Fast for the right reasons. Not because you want to impress others, nor because you want to feel
superior in terms of popularity when you get fitter later. Fast with the intention to please only Allah,
and to get the reward for fasting. Also fast because you will be able to perform salat correctly and
also because you want to be responsible over your health. Nevertheless fast because of
remembering those who do not have privileges like food and water. Fast twice a week, preferably on
Mondays and Thursdays. Fast during the month of Ramadan and also on the day of Arafah which is
on the 9th of Zulhijjah. God will forgive all the sins you have done the one year before and after if
you fast during the day of Arafah.

10. Never lie. It should be emphasized again. God hates his adherents to lie to others. Your integrity
will directly have an impact towards your dignity. People will look high upon you if you are honest
and true to whatever you say. God will only allow you to lie only if the lie will actually cover up
somebody else's shame or will avoid distress for everybody. For instance, if your friend have stolen
money from his parents, you should not be honest and tell others that your friend had once stolen
money.

11. Be good to your wife, if you are a man. The Prophet Muhammad (saw) said that "The best of you
is he who is the best to his wife". Be kind to her, always support her and allow her an equal share in
decision making and property ownership.

12. Struggle towards goodwill. Sacrifice your time and visit the mosque if there is a lecture. Forfeit
your property to those who needs it more than you do. In other words, always give charity. The
recipient will be thankful that you have given them aid in their daily life. Remember, the one who
gives is better than than one who receives.

13. Practice felicity towards everything. Be gentle and good-hearted not only to your parents, but to
your cousins, to your friends, to the flora and fauna around you. Always protect the surroundings.
Never ever be aggressive towards the animals. You can always protect the environment by throwing
rubbish properly and using the common transport.

14. Be gracious towards your parents. They have worked hard to bring home food. Your mother has
suffered all the pain just to bring you to this world. What have you done to say thanks to them? They
have brought joy to your life by buying you presents every now and then. Have you acknowledged
that and appreciated them? Do whatever they expect of you and you will be fine.

15. Never sough over your loved one's death. Know that God did that because He loves your loved
ones even more than you do. Accept that death is a resting phase for your loved ones against all the
trouble this world can bring about.

16. Never waste your Time on useless things. The wasters will be the brother of satan. At day of
judgement, some items/properties are going to talk for the reason you wasted/damaged the
properties.

17. Read the Qur'an/Hadith Regularly. It will keep your iman stronger. It will keep your soul pure.
You'll get su'ab for every letter you said.

Tips


Establishing the 5 daily prayers is a MUST. The more you make these daily, the more you will see
yourself coming back to Islam and becoming a better Muslim.
Tips


If you are a Muslim convert, learn the Islamic basic teaching gradually as to avoid
misunderstandings.


Seek knowledge of Islam. From your local community to lectures, books and articles online, there's
a lot available.


Read the Quran with translation every single day. Even if its just a few lines.


If you did something wrong once, immediately ask for forgiveness (Tawbah) from Allah. He is the
most Merciful, never give up coming back for forgiveness.

Warnings


Be careful of aberrant teaching which actually does not teach correct Islamic knowledge.


Realize how important it is to only eat Halal foods (food, mainly meat, which is killed in
accordance of the Islamic rites).

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