Why did Allah make some people ugly and others good looking

**Cakbatter** · 02-27-2011

This is the one question I ask to scholars, Muslims, etc. No one ever gives me a straight answer to this, they always come up with the usual:

"Everyone is beautiful to Allah"

While this may be true, why is it that good looking Muslims have much easier life than ugly Muslims.

I am a physically unattractive Muslim. My friend from Iraq, he is Muslim, and handsome. He gets treated by people differently than I do, he is desired by women, while women say "eww" when they see me.

I can understand that a kafir or unbeliever who is good looking, is in a worse position than me. I can understand that and respect that.

But what I dont understand is, why does Allah make some Muslim men handsome like Yusuf and The Prophet Muhammad. Also I have a few handsome friends. THEY DO NOT COMMIT ADULTERY. They are complimented by women here in the USA, they reject the women and smile but say thank you. THEY FEEL DESIRED AND HAPPY.

Me and my Iraqi friend went to a dance night club one time (I know, haram, I did not do it again)

But anyways, all the women danced with him and even tried kissing him, being so nice to him etc. He was so happy after the club.

Me on the other hand, I couldn't even get a dance, a girl called me "ewww" and I was completely ignored and rejected the whole night.

Why does Allah make some people handsome and others ugly? It may be true, that my good looking Muslim friends are not getting these women anyway because they are rejecting them for the sake of Allah, but they still get the validation that they are attractive, that people like them, I will never get this.

So please, answer my main question, I will put it in bold here:

Why does Allah make some Muslims physically attractive and other Muslims not?

**needtorepent** · 02-27-2011

This is a good question. Allahu a3lam, but the way I see it, Allah has created everyone with different gifts. We do not all have the same gifts. Similarly, Allah tests us all, but in different ways. Allah will test each of us in many ways, but sometimes Allah tests us about the things we have strengths in, to see if we use our strengths in the right ways (for example, attractiveness, intelligence, etc). Allah may also test us about the things we have weaknesses in to see how patient we are (for example, different types of losses, such as death of a loved one, financial difficulties, etc). This isn't anything official, just my thoughts and pondering on this topic.

**Hannah.** · 02-27-2011

Salaam brother,
First of all, Allah (swt) hasn't made anyone or anything ugly. Whatever He creates is of utmost perfection.

Second, if you feel you're a bit ugly.. then try thinking about those living without the beauties of the face; the eyes, nose, ears and mouth. How do you think they feel? Some have burnt faces, others have severe medical problems as well.

Third, remember this is a test. Allah (swt) can test you in every possible way, and in this case being physically attractive or not.. so next time you look in the mirror, recite this dua:
اللَّهُمَّ أَنْتَ حَسَّنْتَ خَلْقِي فَحَسِّنْ خُلُقِي
"O Allah, just as You have made my external features beautiful, make my character beautiful as well".

(Hisnul Hasin)

**Cabdullahi** · 02-27-2011

Originally Posted by Cakbatter

This is the one question I ask to scholars, Muslims, etc. No one ever gives me a straight answer to this, they always come up with the usual:

"Everyone is beautiful to Allah"

While this may be true, why is it that good looking Muslims have much easier life than ugly Muslims.

I am a physically unattractive Muslim. My friend from Iraq, he is Muslim, and handsome. He gets treated by people differently than I do, he is desired by women, while women say "eww" when they see me.

I can understand that a kafir or unbeliever who is good looking, is in a worse position than me. I can understand that and respect that.

But what I dont understand is, why does Allah make some Muslim men handsome like Yusuf and The Prophet Muhammad. Also I have a few handsome friends. THEY DO NOT COMMIT ADULTERY. They are complimented by women here in the USA, they reject the women and smile but say thank you. THEY FEEL DESIRED AND HAPPY.

Me and my Iraqi friend went to a dance night club one time (I know, haram, I did not do it again)

But anyways, all the women danced with him and even tried kissing him, being so nice to him etc. He was so happy after the club.

Me on the other hand, I couldn't even get a dance, a girl called me "ewww" and I was completely ignored and rejected the whole night.

Why does Allah make some people handsome and others ugly? It may be true, that my good looking Muslim friends are not getting these women anyway because they are rejecting them for the sake of Allah, but they still get the validation that they are attractive, that people like them, I will never get this.

So please, answer my main question, I will put it in bold here:

Why does Allah make some Muslims physically attractive and other Muslims not?

I dont have the necessary knowledge to answer your main question but i just want to say this to you..... get the women out of your brain..forget what they think

What is better? feeling desired and wanted by the girls or Allah being happy with you.

fighting temptation is one thing...fighting temptation when being coerced is another

consider yourself to be lucky!

**CosmicPathos** · 02-27-2011

You know that going to the club was haram but you still want to be desired by people?

Your Iraqi friend who is being desired by these women for his looks, when he gets bald or something happens to his beauty, these very women will say "eww" to him. Do you want to be desired by such filthy women?

**- Qatada -** · 02-27-2011

Some Muslims are more beautiful but poorer than a less attractive Muslim. Some have more health than others.

All good and bad is a test - will you be obedient to Allah with that blessing/trial?

**Flame of Hope** · 02-28-2011

Originally Posted by Cakbatter

Why does Allah make some people handsome and others ugly? It may be true, that my good looking Muslim friends are not getting these women anyway because they are rejecting them for the sake of Allah, but they still get the validation that they are attractive, that people like them, I will never get this.

Appearances can be deceptive, brother Cakbatter. What Allah bestows upon some people as blessings turn out to be curses instead. In general, the people who are underprivileged, poor, disabled, unattractive on the contrary are far more blessed.

Think about the incident you just related. You and your handsome Iraqi friend went to the club. Because your friend was handsome, the women went to him. You think there was good in that? Absolutely not! Do you not see how easy it was for your friend to fall into the trap of fornication and sin? And think about yourself. Women stayed away from you because of your looks. It turned out to be a blessing, don't you see? It kept you safe from sin.

By the way, I was wondering if you have ever read the story of Julaybib? I found it most inspiring: http://theclearsunnah.wordpress.com/...y-of-julaybib/

**Flame of Hope** · 02-28-2011

The beautiful story of Julaybib you can watch here, brother.

]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SdJBgIkawPg

**abjad** · 03-01-2011

wa aleykum salaam

am not answering that in bold
but take the case

of...rotten items...especially at the garbage yard..

find out for yourself. what kind of insects are attracted by that Filthy smell(felt by muslim :devoted:)

and how many {attracted by that?{

**abjad** · 03-01-2011

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**Huzzy_786** · 03-02-2011

Well in my opinion i feel, that in the eyes of allah everyone is equal and this life is just a trail, were only going to be here for a few years but the hear after is ever lasting. Your friend might enjoy this life, but if he fails in the hear after he wont be getting the hoor's (women of jannah)

**truthseeker63** · 03-03-2011

I have no idea why.

**tigerkhan** · 03-03-2011

Originally Posted by truthseeker63

I have no idea why.

but i have...
actually the reason is "the world is a place of test....so every one here is being tested, some are tested in beauty, some in richness, some in health, some in disease...etc etc
and to OP, bro let c ur question logically, u know there is difference among the ppl. like some are rich and some are poor, so the system is running. if u say all should be rich, then no1 like to be a worker, cleaner etc....so system cant work...same in the sense u think some is given outlook which seems a bit attracting, but u think if all would be given same outlook how can we recognize each other.....and remember all this is temporary, u think its a exam and is this exam we are given these things as paper and pin in worldly exams. soon the paper will end, all these thing should be taken from us and with only our deeds we move to ahhra. so strength ur eman and ALLAH SWT will reward u wid forever beauty in janah isnh.

**Huzzy_786** · 03-03-2011

Originally Posted by truthseeker63

I have no idea why.

This is why i am here to help

**Samiro** · 03-03-2011

Ugly and pretty are entirely subjective. It could be that someone considered ugly now, was a stud 100 years ago or somewhere else in the world. Try to be content with the looks you have and keep in mind that good looks does not necessarily bring happiness.

**Flame of Hope** · 03-04-2011

The ugly ones are more fortunate if they only knew.

**Reflections** · 03-05-2011

Allah does not look at your outer features and how much wealth you have, rather He looks at your heart and how much sincerity you have, how much a3maal (deeds) you have done soley for His sake and how much Emaan you have.

Looks are merely a dunyawi thing...think of it this way...When someone dies...theres no ugly or pretty then...its just the remains of bones and dust left of them...life is too short to be thinking of how ugly you might think Allah has made you, rather we should spend time in beautifying our charecter with Islam and the Love of Allah...advice for myself first before anyone else.

May Allah bless you all, Allahoma ameen.

AsSalaamu Aalaykum WarahmatAllah wabarakatuh

**Woodrow** · 03-07-2011

I assume the OP is speaking of physical appearance. I think we all have our own concepts as to what is physically attractive or ugly. What is attractive to me could very well be ugly to somebody else.

Since we all have different ideas as to what we see as ugly or attractive it just may be a necessity that there be a wide range in the appearances of people.

**IbrahimKhan** · 03-07-2011

My dear, Every one has been sent in this world for examination. As you must have listened that Allah examines you by taking and by giving. You are just checked that how much you are thankful to Him in every condition. If you have unattractive look that means Allah is examining you either you are thankful to Him or not. If you are thankful to Him then you will be considered better near Allah as compare to beautiful people who do not obey Him.

**Human_Being** · 03-14-2011

Originally Posted by Flame

Appearances can be deceptive, brother Cakbatter. What Allah bestows upon some people as blessings turn out to be curses instead. In general, the people who are underprivileged, poor, disabled, unattractive on the contrary are far more blessed.

Think about the incident you just related. You and your handsome Iraqi friend went to the club. Because your friend was handsome, the women went to him. You think there was good in that? Absolutely not! Do you not see how easy it was for your friend to fall into the trap of fornication and sin? And think about yourself. Women stayed away from you because of your looks. It turned out to be a blessing, don't you see? It kept you safe from sin.

By the way, I was wondering if you have ever read the story of Julaybib? I found it most inspiring:

I'd give you rep sis but I don't hav a big enough post count. It's totally a blessing, and the best people don't care what you look like!