01-15-2006, 10:48 AM
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She is 92 years old, petite, well poised, and proud. She is fully dressed
each morning by eight o'clock, with her hair fashionably coifed, and her
makeup perfectly applied, in spite of the fact she is legally blind.
Today she has moved to a nursing home. Her husband of 70 years recently
passed away, making this move necessary.
After many hours of waiting patiently in the lobby of the nursing home,
where I am employed, she smiled sweetly when told her room was ready. As
she maneuvered her walker to the elevator, I provided a visual description
of her tiny room, including the eyelet curtains that had been hung on her
"I love it," she stated with the enthusiasm of an eight-year-old having
just been presented with a new puppy.
"Mrs. Jones, you haven't seen the room...just wait," I said.
Then she spoke these words that I will never forget:
"That does not have anything to do with it," she gently replied. "Happiness
is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not,
does not depend on how the furniture is arranged. It is how I arrange my
mind. I have already decided to love it.
It is a decision I make every morning when I wake up. I have a choice. I
can spend the day in bed recounting the difficulty I have with the parts of
my body that no longer work, or I can get out of bed and be thankful for
the ones that do work. Each day is a gift, and as long as my eyes open, I
will focus on the new day and all of the happy memories I have
stored away...just for this time in my life.
Old age is like a bank account. You withdraw from what you have already put
that our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.
that no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once in a
while and you must forgive them for that.
that just because someone doesn't love
you the way you want them to doesn't
mean they don't love you with all they have.
that true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
that it's taking me a long time
to become the person I want to be.
that you should always leave loved ones
with loving words. It may be the last
time you see them.
that you can keep going, long after you can't.
that we are responsible for what we do,
no matter how we feel.
that either you control your attitude
or it controls you.
that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be
done, regardless of the consequences.
that money is a lousy way of keeping score.
that my best friend and I can do anything
or nothing and have the best time.
that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be
the ones to help you get back up.
that sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that
doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
that maturity has more to do with
what types of experiences you've had
and what you've learned from them
and less to do with how many
birthdays you've celebrated.
that it isn't always enough to be
forgiven by others. Sometimes you
have to learn to forgive yourself.
that no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn't stop for your grief.
that just because two people argue,
it doesn't mean they don't love each other
And just because they don't argue,
it doesn't mean they do.
that you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your
that two people can look at the exact
same thing and see something totally different.
that your life can be changed in a matter of
hours by people who don't even know you.
that even when you think you have no more
to give, when a friend cries out to you
you will find the strength to help.
that credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.
that the people you care about most in life
are taken from you too soon.
Send this to the people YOU BELIEVE in. I just did
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