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taebah
01-21-2006, 02:32 AM
Got it by email....

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The Blamer
This is a person who consistently blames you and/or everyone else for her problems. The world and the people in it always seem to create havoc for this person, and instead of taking responsibility for her life, she'd rather blame others.

The Complainer
This person likes to hear her own voice. She constantly complains about what isn't working in her life and yet gets energy from complaining and dumping her frustrations on you.

The Drainer
This is the needy person who calls to ask for your guidance, support, information, advice, or whatever she needs to feel better in the moment. Because of her neediness, the conversation often revolves around her, and you can almost feel the life being sucked out of you during the conversation.

The Shamer
This person can be hazardous to your health. The shamer may cut you off, put you down, reprimand you, or make fun of your or your ideas in front of others. She often ignores your boundaries and may try to convince you that her criticism is for you own good. The shamer is the kind of person who make you question your own sanity before hers.

The Discounter
This is the person who discounts or challenges everything you say. Often, she has a strong need to be right and can find fault with any position. It can be exhausting to have a conversation with the discounter, so eventually you end up giving in and deciding to just listen.

The Gossip
This person avoids intimacy by talking about others behind their backs. The gossip gets energy from relaying stories, opinions, and the latest "scoop." By gossiping about others, she creates a lack of safety in her relationships, whether she realizes it or not. After all, if she'll talk about someone else, she'll talk about you.
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Mainul_Islam
01-22-2006, 01:28 AM
Alhamdulillah none of my friends are like this to me

unfortunately, i have 2 friends who sometimes end up insulting each other, but i try to settle conflicts between them... (they're friends with each other, but they hate each other sometimes.. things are not too bad though)
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*charisma*
01-22-2006, 03:41 AM
Assalamu Alaikum

hmmmmmmmmmm....

The Blamer
This is a person who consistently blames you and/or everyone else for her problems. The world and the people in it always seem to create havoc for this person, and instead of taking responsibility for her life, she'd rather blame others.
Many people do that, its very human. Be patient.

The Complainer
This person likes to hear her own voice. She constantly complains about what isn't working in her life and yet gets energy from complaining and dumping her frustrations on you.
Why shut up during this? give the gal some advice.

The Drainer
This is the needy person who calls to ask for your guidance, support, information, advice, or whatever she needs to feel better in the moment. Because of her neediness, the conversation often revolves around her, and you can almost feel the life being sucked out of you during the conversation.
Help them if they are truly needy and not just "using" you to get something.

The Shamer
This person can be hazardous to your health. The shamer may cut you off, put you down, reprimand you, or make fun of your or your ideas in front of others. She often ignores your boundaries and may try to convince you that her criticism is for you own good. The shamer is the kind of person who make you question your own sanity before hers.
ah they have a name for a person like that, a sell-out perhaps?

The Discounter
This is the person who discounts or challenges everything you say. Often, she has a strong need to be right and can find fault with any position. It can be exhausting to have a conversation with the discounter, so eventually you end up giving in and deciding to just listen.
Nooooooo dont give up! hard headed ppl need a taste of their own medicine.
If they are wrong, u must prove them wrong with evidence!

"O you who believe! Take care of your own selves. If you follow the right guidance and enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong no hurt can come to you from those who are in error. The return of you all is to Allah, then He will inform you about (all) that which you used to do." -5:105

The Gossip
This person avoids intimacy by talking about others behind their backs. The gossip gets energy from relaying stories, opinions, and the latest "scoop." By gossiping about others, she creates a lack of safety in her relationships, whether she realizes it or not. After all, if she'll talk about someone else, she'll talk about you.
o0o00o0o hate gossipers, talk too much whilst they stand with soo many imperfections subhanallah.

Alls in all,
Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:

"The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows. So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him."

We should all befriend those who are righteous and stay away from those who arent, whilst still being kind and just to everyone.

fi aman Allah
w'salaam
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Muezzin
01-22-2006, 05:58 PM
All of these types of friends are easily corrected with a good whuppin.
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Umar001
01-22-2006, 08:23 PM
funny how all these friends are girls, well not all but most! interesting view point
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aamirsaab
01-22-2006, 08:25 PM
:sl:
format_quote Originally Posted by taebah
Got it by email....
The Gossip
This person avoids intimacy by talking about others behind their backs. The gossip gets energy from relaying stories, opinions, and the latest "scoop." By gossiping about others, she creates a lack of safety in her relationships, whether she realizes it or not. After all, if she'll talk about someone else, she'll talk about you.
I can so badly tell a female wrote that.
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*charisma*
01-22-2006, 09:35 PM
Assalamu Alaikum

lol, agreed.
mostly of all these apply to girls (and not just cuz it keeps saying 'her' or 'she'), cuz what can i say..they cant keep their mouths shut.

fi aman Allah
w'salaam
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sapphire
01-22-2006, 10:37 PM
hmmmmm!!!yeah sounds like girls.....hmmm....wht a shame...am kinda speechless on the topic...
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- Qatada -
01-22-2006, 10:52 PM
:salamext:


Our beloved Prophet Muhammad sal Allaahu alayhi waSalam said:

"I looked at Paradise and found poor people forming the majority of its inhabitants; and I looked at Hell and saw that the majority of its inhabitants were women."

Sahih Bukhari 4:464


:wasalamex
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mahdisoldier19
01-23-2006, 05:07 AM
salam alaikam

Hey hey you forgot the chubby guy in the backround that laughs all the time and eats, NO ONE PLEASE GET OFFENDED but ya know theres allways that chubby guy
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