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ok just to put things straight.
I am not IMITATING, this is something that is important to my mother who is NOT muslim.
And i do show her love everyday to the best of my abilities, i dont believe in such days like mothers day or valentines day etc. I honour her everyday and thank Allah everyday for blessing me with a loving mother, I do not limit this to one day. Nor do i need to be questioned that i am 'imitating', or that i only show her affection and love on ONLY one day.
What is important to me is my mothers HAPPYNESS. I guess some of you would think it right just to ignore her feelings for fear of 'imitating'.
I know islam teaches very important lessons regarding 'respecting' your parents, but how do you deal with this when your mother is not a muslim?
In Sha'a Allah there will be a day when you make her feel like everyday is Mothers' Day. it's actually part of your Deen, do something for your Mom on Mother's Day and then the next month tell her that you have to "cover" that you did something on Mother's Day and do something special AGAIN!
and the next month and the next month and the next month...
until you can do bi-weekly!
i like this idea very much! I guess i could use Sunday ( Mothers Day - officially in the uk ) as a starting block and then make frequent suprises after that so that then next year, it wont be an issue, money is a problem ( isnt it always in the world were livign in today :hiding: ) but i will make more of an effort to save harder and to spoil my mom with love everytime i see her... which now is around 1-2 times a week... but sometimes i dont see her for months... even if she lives 18 miles away.. ( complicated family )
i won't advise you but i agree with the above - it's all about finding balance.
and i think you raised a good question.
Yea... where is the balance... i cant treat my mother as a Muslim and do Islamic things with her because she is very strong in her Christian Faith and i try and avoid 'religious conversation' with her for now, until of course i am more knowledgable inshaAllah.
If Vedad, IslamiCompare and aminahgorilla are reverts with families of different faiths i would like to know how you dealt with situations like this, and if your not reverts is it possible for you to use empathy and put yourself in my place and give advice to how you would deal with it rather than just stating 'imitation' is not allowed ( which i allready know )
Im looking for co-existance of my family being Muslim/Christian, not create conflict.
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