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Top thirty seven tips on self esteem
Self esteem is having a good opinion of you. It is the source of mental health and should not be confused with arrogance. People with high self esteem are at peace, feel good, relaxed and are assertive.
They live a balance life nourishing their bodies and health and trying to improve their behavior constantly. People with high self esteem act independently, usually called self-actualized.
Sometimes during the day our self esteem can get knocked out. When our self esteem is low we become negative, aggressive, self-destructive and powerless. We all know that our levels of self esteem impact not only our happiness but our work and relationships.
I have written this self esteem tips to motivate you to prioritize your needs and develop your potential for happiness and success. It does not matter if your self esteem is too low or you are going through a bad moment in your life.
1) It is really important that you stop comparing with other people: this is a low self esteem Sign and a bad habit. Stop saying things like: I wish I could ride his car, you always look perfect and look at me, you are so thing, I will never lose weight, I am not good enough and so on.
2) Write a journal: every day write about how you feel, what you enjoyed. Ask questions: Have I take good care of myself? Have I been true to myself? Have I look for external approval? This good habit will make you to get in touch with you and build your self esteem.
3) Set goals and write your life dreams. You are important and deserve to have bright and wonderful future. Get clear about what you want and feel deserving of it.
4) Use affirmations: self esteem affirmations are positive statements you can say to empower you. They are important in the process for building your self esteem and a good habit to implement in your life.
5) Don’t confuse self esteem with arrogance.
6) Identify your fears and confront them. It is important that you can see yourself overcoming your fears because it will make you more confident and build your self esteem.
7) It is important that you are able to know your strengths and weakness and when is time to ask for help.
8) Optimism is important. Avoid telling all day everybody how bad is your life. Stay in a positive state. If things are not going the way you would like them to be, take action and do something about it. This is not denial, but the awareness that you are in the process to change your life and build your self esteem. During this process it is important that you remain as optimistic as you can.
10) Overcome jealousy . Low self esteem is the cause of persistent and exaggerated jealousy. Deal with your feelings and the person concerned. Take responsibility and express how you feel. This will help you to build self respect and earn respect from others.
10) Learn to say no when is necessary. Practice assertiveness , is one of the most important foundations for self esteem. You will preserve your self esteem with this good behavior. Stand up for yourself and be proud.
11) Accept compliments without justification. It is a sign of high self esteem.
12) Fit your body: you deserve and need to have a healthy body. Feel good. Run in the morning or go to the gym. If this difficult ask a friend to go with you. Look for a good exercise program.
13) Meditate: at least fifteen minutes once a day. Any meditation will do. Follow your breath, take a course, and learn a mantra. Meditation is good for your mental health that is the source of self esteem.
14) Sleep well: Avoid eating too much, or watch violence or news before you go to bed.
15) Have fun: This will help you to stay healthy and will boost your self esteem and your immune system.
16) Release negative emotions : As soon as they came out, if it is possible, release them. Use any technique you like or visit a professional or counselor. Remember if you find yourself angry, sad, and anxious or whatever negative emotion you feel, stop and take action. You will feel good.
17) Nourish your relationships. Treat others the way you would like to be treated. Instead of saying something that you will regret , stop and come back to the conversation when your emotional turbulence is gone. If you have children, spend time with them, good quality of time. If you are married make your marriage work by avoiding routine. Go out with your husband/wife once a week for a good dinner or just to have a coffee. Join a hobby together. Never let your wife or husband be taken for granted. Send them a card, by a flower, a chocolate, a love note. Keep it alive. Self esteem is important to maintain good relationships .
18) Take good care of your body : exercise is not enough; you have to eat healthy foods, drink a lot of water, and have an annual check up with your doctor.
19) Surround with positive and supportive people.
20) Overcoming pefectionism is another good practice because is a sign of low self esteem.
21) Be in nature: go out for walk, watch the flowers, and walk on the grass without your shoes. Go to the beach, to a park. Plant a flower.
22) Praise yourself: write down what you are proud of and what you have done good.
23) Make treats a daily habit: read a book you enjoy, take a warm bath, by yourself a gift.
24) Forgive yourself: let go of guilt and regret. If you did something wrong don’t dwell on that. Learn from your mistakes. Use your regret and guilt to become a better person.
25) Overcome denial: sometimes there are behaviors or situations that are too painful and as a defense mechanism we have a tendency to go into denial. Talk to a friend about what you feel, look for help or a professional.
26) Stop self-criticism: learn to change your inner talk by answering back with a positive statement. Self-criticism lowers your self esteem.
27) Practice self-acceptance : Accept what you can’t change and also what you can change. Accept your imperfections and improve what is changeable.
28) Don’t be afraid to make mistakes
29) Value your successes: not matter if they are big or small. Excellent boost for self esteem.
30) Learn to be in solitude: You have to learn to be happy with your company. This is not an easy task but do it gradually. It is the best way to overcome loneliness.
31) Take holidays: specify what you need in a holiday. Have fun. Plan them ahead and make a list of the things you would like to live in your holiday. It does not matter if the holiday is two days or a month.
32) Let go of your emotional wounds: Sometimes past experiences left wounds inside ourselves. Be aware of what is triggering those wounds and release them. May be when you were a child somebody made fun of you in front of your friends. So now as an adult you feel shame and you are not sure were that shame comes from. Pay attention now in the present what triggers shame and go to the past to find wound and release it.
33) Be grateful for you life.
34) Stop reacting: if somebody has bad manners act with dignity, if you respond with aggressiveness to the insult you will hurt your self esteem. Remember practice assertiveness.
35) Worrying about the future will only create depression and sadness. The future is not here yet ; the only moment you have is now. With the now you are creating your future. It is important that you learn to live in the present moment.
36) Heal your personal history. Another good step for feeling good about you.
Take responsibility for your life and the events that are happening. It is an esscencial step for self esteem.
37) Read this self esteem tips often. Remember that self esteem is not something that you get in an hour. Is an internal process. You have to learn to trust yourself and know that you can cope with the challenges in your life. Also know that you are worthy of happiness success and fulfillment.
Each step you take everyday will help you to improve your self esteem. Be patient , good and kind with your life.
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