Jazakum allah khair everyone trying to help me
Al-Zara
jazaki allah khair sis zara, I dont know what wrong with this people:enough!:
You might see a very beautiful girl and immidiately think she's arrogant or very self-conscious etc. Prejudices.
Sometimes people who lack self-confidence, when meeting a person who is confident they will be put off and put a "protecting barrier" around them and this is often why they first will get negative thoughts about the person, because they might feel they are "in danger". After egtting to know each other things of course cool down.
I dont know if this is my case with my people. but really I wanna solve this issue.
let me give you an example:
it is not that I am the most successfull one in our group, some of my frinds are more successful than me regarding academic study.
Keep eye-contact with people, and smile a genuine smile more often
I will not lie on you, but I am really get to know the strange people very easily, thats what my frinds told me, they said that I am a social person
Don't only you talk or raise your voice, or put yourself to be "the center of attention", ask people questions and be more careful what you say to show you're humble and stuff.
people said that I am good at listening to the others
(I think you confused of this, but I really did a survey to my closet friends and got all what I have to know from them in order to know whats the problem)
it is not like I am a quiet person, the reality is that I am very energitic girl, may be this is what make it like I am an arrogant in their eyes.
but really sister your reply give me a lot to think about it, May Allah reward you Al jannah in sha allah and jazaki allah khair sister
Muslimah_Sis
I think if you were arrogant in the real sense of the word, you wouldn't be bothered about how you come across to others.
oh my dear sister thats very kind from you :-[, I dont know actually how I can interpret the people action, its really sucks :enough!:
After all, people like you once they get to know you. That wouldn't be the case if you really were arrogant, right? It also might help to remember that only Allah knows what in our hearts and if you know your heart is clean of arrogance then you shouldn't worry what other people think of you in the first instance. The most important thing is what Allah thinks of us. That should be enough.
I really dont know if what they said is right or not in that I am better than what they thought at the beginning. I hope they are honest with me in sha allah. sometimes they said that I get upset quickly and that I am sensetive person.....I dont know if this has anything to do with being arrogant, it is the human feeling I guess that no one can change it I guess......I am really confused:cry::cry:
jazaki allah khair sister for your kind words
amani
infact a friend always tells me when she first saw me (in high school) she thought id be a bully because of how she saw me but infact i became one of her closest friends because first impressions can be so wrong.
subha allah sister it just remind me of what happened to me when I met my friends in med school (which I transfered to), you will not believe it, but after we became very good friends, they told me: "when we saw you for the first time we were hate you to much, we think that no onw can be your friend, and you ar an arrogant girl"
see sister, it is an old problem with me, but jazaki allah khair for your help.
LuvAlSunnah
a way in which i tried being not so arrogant seeming is continuously trying to be talkative and smilin and stuff
my habit is not to keep silent when I am with the others, but at the same time I dont smile or talk when I dont like to do so.
there is one thing that I am always do when I talk to someone else. if what they are talking about is something bad and it does not fit my interests I am directly said that or I can said that they must not waste their time in such stuff