a colleague just touched me

[anonymous]

salaam sisters and brothers. a colleague just touched me well sort of pushed me forward in a joking way and i didnt like it. he keep on being cheeky with me and joking. i am a sister who wear hijaab. he doing this lots. what i do?

[Umar001]

Wa alaykum salam,

Just tell him in a serious way, also just generally avoid talking to him. It also depends where you live, in places where everyone wears hijab it aint a big deal so the guys wont be put of but like in the uk people would be abit like 'erm she wont be up for anything shes wearing hijab'.

[crayon]

Tell him that you want him to cut it out and act professionally. Do it in a very serious manner, make it totally explicit that he's stepping out of bounds. If he still doesn't get it, he's a moron, or he's just pretending to be a moron. Either way, if he doesn't listen, go to your boss or something, tell him he's making you uncomfortable, and that this behavior needs to stop.

[AnonymousPoster]

salaam sisters and brothers. a colleague just touched me well sort of pushed me forward in a joking way and i didnt like it. he keep on being cheeky with me and joking. i am a sister who wear hijaab. he doing this lots. what i do?

sis chillax what are you waiting for? you got the whole Muslim nation (well a few) behind you, try and get some brothers together to beat him up, whats wrong with the other colleagues? do they not help you? I am sure you can make a complaint against your colleague. lastly try as hard as you can to ignore him and let him know you are not interested you have better things to do.

sorry you're going through this.

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[Snowflake]

asalam alaikum wr wb,

Tell him to stop this at once! Say you don't appreciate him overstepping his limits. Don't care if he gets offended and doesn't talk to you after that or whatever. He isn't worth it worrying about.

wa alaikum asalam wr wb.

mood hi kharab ho geya!

[fatima_01]

ignore him and go get him fired girl;)

[chacha_jalebi]

slap him and say im joking! then read him the hadiths " having a nail put through your head is better then touching a woman who isnt your mahram" and then walk away, but time the walk lol so it looks gangsta and stylee ish :p lol naaa just explain to him, im sure he will understand, if not complain about him

[snakelegs]

2 words "sexual harassment". here in the u.s. that is a pretty serious charge.
hijab or no hijab, muslimah or kafir, no woman has to put up with being pawed.
tell him in no uncertain tone that he needs to keep his hands to himself or you will go to the boss.

[TrueStranger]

Tell him to stop three times, if he doesn’t I think he should receive a good beating. :)

[wth1257]

sis chillax what are you waiting for? you got the whole Muslim nation (well a few) behind you, try and get some brothers together to beat him up, whats wrong with the other colleagues? do they not help you? I am sure you can make a complaint against your colleague. lastly try as hard as you can to ignore him and let him know you are not interested you have better things to do.

sorry you're going through this.

Are you serious?

[AnonymousPoster]

shall i talk to boss or no?

[Snowflake]

asalam alaikum wr wb,

Talk to your colleague first. We should always give a warning first since Allah states in the Quran that believers are helpers of one another. So do try to make him stop what he's is doing. It may be that the brother heeds it and Allah gives him hidayah. If he carries on then by all mean you should report him to the boss.


wa alaikum asalam wr wb.

[anonymous]

i did talk to manager and she said she will talk to the colleage because i explained that in islam we dont come close to guys and not to joke with them

[Snowflake]

asalam alaikum wr wb,

OK, inshaAllah. I hope that'll solve the matter. And may I add a piece of advice here. In the future be very careful about your own behavior with the opposite sex as people can take things the wrong way and assume that you don't mind what they say or do.


wa alaikum asalam wr wb.

[mediadave]

Always talk to him first in a situation like this - it's very likely he won't understand he's doing anything wrong and that you are genuinly annoyed. Remember he'll come from a culture where men and women can josh around freely.


Needless to say, don't get him beaten up. Besides being fundamentally wrong, all he'll know that he was beaten up by a couple of muslims for no reason. Hardly going to improve his opinion of muslims, huh?

[aminahjaan]

Yeah everyone's right, I would go up to him and tell him straight up
"Keep it professional, and don't touch me. It's annoying and it's not funny so stop kay?"

[noorahmad]

assalam walaikum
maybe he doznot realize its nt pleasin u???
you shudjust try to explain to him, and then maybe think of getin him kicke

[barney]

Talk to your boss. If you are based in the west your company should have a strict anti-bullying harrassment policy. Use it, he deserves to lose his job.

[*KB*]

Assalamualaykum

Just tell him to stop it nicely and if he asks why, explain :)

Assalamualaykum
*KB*
:coolious:

[Güven]

Assalamualaykum

Just tell him to stop it nicely and if he asks why, explain :)

Assalamualaykum
*KB*
:coolious:

lool It looked sooooo simple when You say it Sis :D

[anonymous]

thanku for all advice.he not touching me unnecesarily no more.jazkallah.thread can be locked

[*KB*]

Assalamualaykum

Good to hear... May Allah Bless You and Muslim Ummah and keep us all safe

^^Brother Guven :okay::peace::muslimah::lol:

Assalamualaykum
*KB*
:coolious:

P.S. Make dua for all the people hit by Cyclone Nargis

[tetsujin]

He's a fool. Plain and simple. Muslim or not you have the right to live and work in a safe and amicable environment which is free of harassment and sexual misconduct.

Don't go around in circle trying to be nice while preserving your dignity. Make it explicitly clear you will escalate the issue to the necessary steps in order to be left alone, whether that means your boss or a restraining order from local authorities.

[AvarAllahNoor]

Best thing to do is tell him in a polite but stern way. He should get the message without having any trouble with your workplace relationship. If he does not stop, well then a swift thappar (slap) across the chops will get the same result!