help a sista out

[sistajannah]

assalam alaikum

i just wanted to ask a question . i am 19 years old and inshallah i want to get married. the questions is how can i find a good muslim brother. i can't really ask me parents as i don't want to marry someone from the same background as my self.

[Lonely Gal]

why do u not wana marry someone of the same background??

[Cabdullahi]

maybe she just doesnt want to

[IbnAbdulHakim]

Assalamu Alaikum

why cant you ask your parents?

you know in islaam the parents are given soo many rights for a reason, if you obey them you'll be blessed. If your parents find someone for you and you n they both make dua' then your marriage will be doubly blessed.

just because they look doesnt mean they cant find someone you like, just tell them what you like..

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:salamext:

Sis what culture are you?

[sistajannah]

I just don’t want to.

ibnabdulhakim:

I can not ask my parents, as they will only bring me someone who is from the same culture as me.

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hmm...

[IbnAbdulHakim]

ibnabdulhakim:

I can not ask my parents, as they will only bring me someone who is from the same culture as me.

but if they want you to marry someone from the same culture as yourself then marrying otherwise might hurt them quite badly.

Every culture, EVERY culture has its beautiful and pious people.

just pray for one



Assalamu Alaikum

[SouLda_Gal]

wel i think its pretty fair if she doesnt want to ask her parents kz she knows dey gna get her sumone frm same bakground... i understand her kz its normal wid bare people.. sum parents neva wana undastand lol... oh well...ermmm sis how about talkin to someone esle... lyk ur cousin or frends or even some mosques do these kind of things.. lyk for someone whos lukin 4 marriage they set them up with the type they lookin 4.. sumit like that..
peace

[Souljette]

:sl:

Sis where are you from and where do you live?? if you dont mind me askng

[Cabdullahi]

I think the sister is stuck in a situation where she feels she is ready for marriage but is finding it hard to ask her parents and also her preference of a husband that she wants might not be agreed with her parents.

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:salamext:

What's wrong with the same background?!?! :muddlehea

[Cabdullahi]

:salamext:

What's wrong with the same background?!?! :muddlehea

Whats wrong with marrying from a different background?!?!

there's nothing wrong with it,its not haram is it,its just a personal choice

[DaNgErOuS MiNdS]

I think I undestand what she means but then you have to think that everybody comes from a culture so when you do marry someone from a culture other then yours you might still find things that you are not too happy with. Do you want to get married to someone out of your cullture just because you dont like it, or because it interferes with religion to much?

[DaNgErOuS MiNdS]

BTW I dont think by us knowing which culture the sister is from can help her.