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Sahabiyaat
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If ur relatives are a bit 'snobby' :rollseyes, and have huge egos, for example a very older relative will always expect you to greet them first and will NEVER greet u first, but will simply continue to either stare at you or simply look elsewhere, how should you deal with this?, also if u visit them often and they never bother to, should you stop visiting them??
How does it work in your culture?, do the younger ones greet the elders as a unbendable rule? .What does Islam say ?
:D JazakAllah!
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salam aliakum,
dear sister just cos they ae snobby and rude and think that they are superior to others then by you doin the same makes no difference between you and them does it?
never forget that Allah swt is forever watchful of EVERYTHING, you should be greeting them for the sake of Allah, and your reward for it will be with Allah, the fact that they out of ego and pride hold back to greeting you, their punisment will be wth Allah swt.
so for you to think oh how i always greet first is not right they should greet me 1st you are doing the same as them, it shouldnt really matter to you whether they greet 1st or you greet 1st greeting is a command from Allah swt hence why He has specifically mentioned it in the Quran.
reards visiting them, you should as with everything count your visits as a good deed only for pleasing Allah swt and as with anything your rewards will be ith Allah swt, so it hould not bother you whether they visit you in return or not. your doig your bit as a good muslim and striving hard to please Allah swt which is the reason for our existance, now if theyfail to do the same to please our Almighty Lord then they are doing nothing but earning His wrath.
and the last thing you want to be doing is the same as them just cos your holding a grudge cos they dont greet you first or visit you in return, in fact i personally believe that your rewards wil be more multiplied by Allah swt co being good to kind muslims is easy and comes naturally but being kind to the unkind is slightly harder to do, and when something is harder the reward for it Insha'Allah will be bigger.
i pray that Allah swt opens the eyes and hearts of your snobby relatives to the truth and guides them Insha'Allah ego, pride ad arrogance are characteristicsof the shaytaan and are much disliked by our Almighty Lord.
ma salama