Title is quite catchy don't you think?
What qualities should we look for in a potential spouse?
Well do those qualities stay on and on forever and ever.No right?
As we get old beauty fades.As life goes on we age.Duh!
And worldly status, will it company us in our graves?
So my dear friends what are the wonderful qualities one should look for?
The primary quality, number one aspect to look for is?
Well lets read a hadith and see for ourselves what the most important quality is shall we?
Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him quotes the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, as saying, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty, and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman; (otherwise) you will be a loser." (Reported by Al-Bukhari)
So brothers and sisters, from that Hadith, what would you say is the primary quality to look for in a spouse?
It's clearly religion right?
Why religion out of all the other qualities?
Well according to my definition of a good spouse, religion plays a pivotal role.Check this out:
A good spouse is one who assists the other spouse in their DEEN and their DUNYA~Aaqib
Wouldn't you agree?
Marriage is a 2 way traffic between the husband and wife.Give and take, take and give.Marriage is the joining of petals that make up one rose.It is an engagement of the two families.It strengthens the bonds within the Ummah, making them as tight as rope.It completes half your DEEN.It is a life commitment and not merely one for a week or shall I say a month!
*MARRIAGE 30 DAY TRIAL*
If only! In reality things are a tad bit different ain't they?
Right back to the DEEN and DUNYA concept.What's the primary purpose of us living on earth?
Earning money money money?Fame?Getting a good job?
I have only created Jinns and men, that they may worship (or serve) Me.
[Surah 51 Verse 56]
Does that ring a bell [s]wait door bell [/s]or click something inside?
Ok, well it states DEEN should be the primary efforts in our life.And worldy affairs should be secondary.
Ever heard the phrase--Deen before Dunya?
Meaning, live your life so your DEEN is the foundation and the DUNYA is simply the branches of the tree.
While DEEN is the trunk.
Back to the topic.
So basically what I'm saying is there should be a balance,yes balance of DEEN and DUNYA!!
Say there is a bird, your the bird.One wing is DEEN and the other is DUNYA.If our DUNYA outweighs our DEEN then will we keep our Iman high and keep flying on the straight journey ahead?No right?
We'll collapse and fall down,agree? Think about it!
The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, "If someone with whose piety and character you are satisfied comes to you, then marry him. If you do not do so, there will be disorder in the earth and a great deal of evil." (Reported by At-Tirmidhi and others and classed as Hasan)
Subhanallah such a high rank given to piety and character, what you think my friends?
In conclusion, if given the choice
between 2 or more potential spouses, one's religion should be given more preference then the other qualities when selecting a potential spouse.
I wouldn't want to go against the Hadith, would you?
Jazakallah Khayr for reading!
Reminder To Myself Aswell As Others
Written by Aaqib K. AHmed